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Do The Stories Of Our Loved Ones Who've Passed Belong To Them Or Those Who've Survived Them?

Katherine Oakes

"And here I am, orphaned at fifty-five, nobody’s son, trying to plot my coördinates, to see my way clear. I’m free now—free to tell his story, their story, to the extent I know how, to the extent I ever knew it."

We're asking the question today: should stories of loved ones be passed on or kept private? do the stories of people's lives once they are gone belong to them or the ones who've survived them?

Read Mark Slouak's poignant article on losing his father via The New Yorker -"Nobody's Son"

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  • Alessandra Rizzotti

    This is so poignant. I really love it. I went to a memorial of my high school teacher on Friday and I really think people's stories live on in the people who were close to them- but also the people who learned from them. My teacher left such a legacy behind bec of the life lessons he taught us. And you saw it bec so many people showed up- and my choir, when we saw each other, felt like we were back in high school- back to being a family even though 10 years had passed. The memories someone can bring you can tie you to other people. And that's what survives.