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Bernard M Lynch Jr

By the time you notice me, I'm already gone.

I am good at being a faithful companion to my rescued greyhound, Brutus Maximus.

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  • Bernard M Lynch Jr replied to a comment by Liz Dwyer

    On the Eighth Anniversary of My Brother's Suicide: Honesty and Education Equal Prevention via magazine.good.is

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    Liz Dwyer3 months ago

    Bernard, THANK YOU for sharing these lessons learned. This is exactly why I write about this--we need this kind of dialogue and if someone's never been able to talk openly about what they're going through, they may not know these kinds of things.

    Bernard M Lynch Jr3 months ago

    I'd say "thank you, Liz" but you've paid the ultimate price. I still fight every day with this demon, but am determined not to cave in. I don't have the "perfect" support system, but I do have a support system in place. And I have a wonderful psychiatrist with whom I have an 11 year (weekly) relationship. And he's going to turn 83 this year. Whatever anyone is feeling, DO SOMETHING ELSE to get your mind off suicide. Listen to DISCO, take a shower with soaps and shampoos made of scents which you find relaxing, watch a movie or three, write write write (I started a blog six years ago, and I'm still going) and find that "one" little cell in your body which tells you to stay here. You will triumph just by seeing the sunrise. And, if it's any help, pick up a camera (or your cell phone!) and challenge yourself to take a picture a day. If you need "reference" or "training" just start looking at books of photographs. Write. Paint. Photograph. FIND YOUR NICHE. And even if you can't picture it, in a few months or a year, you will be glad you're still here. And Liz, I posted my name and photo. I am not ashamed to be a poster boy for depression or whatever you want to call it. In the end, I'll still be here. Thank you for getting this discussion going. In memory of your brother, look what so many have shared...

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    Bernard M Lynch Jr3 months ago

    Liz – I, too, have walked this route. I know I've put my family on edge, but I really couldn't help it. I lost an 11 year relationship to depression. And now I have a friend who's going through something who's never used his insurance EVER for ANYTHING...and he's limited to 8 visits @ $30 each. I urge people who are plagued with this invisible illness to look into their local colleges, universities and hospitals and see if they are running any programs for which they can enroll. Some will provide meds, therapy and, in exchange for enrollment in a "test program" money for your time. I would caution people about going to "self-help group therapy" which are run in a fashion similar to an AA meeting. Sometimes it's NOT HEALTHY to hear of the problems of others. It all depends on you. And don't be afraid when you are seeing doctors to move on to another doctor until you find a doctor with whom you "click." It's a tough walk, but make it. Do whatever you have to do. And if you are feeling like "it's not going to get better" FIND SOMEONE YOU CAN TALK TO and MAKE THE CALL. And if you DON'T have someone to talk to, either start writing until you fall asleep, or call a local help line. CAUTION: If the police become involved and are sent to your residence on a "possible suicide", they might not be terribly sympathetic. Better you drive yourself or get yourself to a hospital than compound the situation with less than caring boys in blue. It DOES get better.

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    Five Reasons to Give Half Your Work Away via magazine.good.is

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    Bernard M Lynch Jr7 months ago

    Funny. I've been getting yelled at because I'm busy, and all of it is pro bono. I've learned architectural photography this way (in an 1865 basilica), and executive portraiture (a well-known neurosurgeon – business portrait, business casual, with his wife, and the entire family, on location, without my gear "make do"; and this morning my attorney...at 8am, in 15 minutes.) I've got stupendous additions to my portfolio, great connections, a great reputation, and word does get around. No longer will I have to hear "but I can get that at Sears for $20!" THANK YOU FOR THE ARTICLE!!! Perfect timing. (And I even photographed greyhounds for the CT Greyhound Adoption Agency at their annual summer picnic. So what if it was iPhone 5: still got great shots!)

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    Bernard M Lynch Jrabout 1 year ago

    If I'm any more militant about gay kids being hazed in my former high school or being hazed at all, I'll be arrested for sure! How do you spell "bully?" C-O-W-A-R-D.

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  • Bernard M Lynch Jr replied to a comment by Zachary Slobig

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    Zachary Slobigabout 1 year ago

    What stamp on your passport are you most proud of? Currently for me, it's Chile. Because I drove there (from California).

    Bernard M Lynch Jrabout 1 year ago

    JESUS! How great was that?
    What kind of car?
    Was insurance a problem?
    Tires? Gas?
    AMAZED!

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    Sandy vs. New York Art World: Photos Show a Creative Community in Crisis via magazine.good.is

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    Bernard M Lynch Jrover 1 year ago

    If it's of ANY help, I, as a photographer and artist in CT (not represented by anyone) will make ltd ed of many of my photographs and other art pieces and DONATE them to the galleries effected for the holiday sales, and I don't want a penny. It's the least I can do, and you would love my art. It's worthy of consideration. Bernard M Lynch Jr 203.755.0099 <http://www.orangemercury.com>; OrangeMercury_dot_com PLEASE CONTACT ME AS SOON AS POSSIBLE! I have archival printers and archival paper and inks, and over 3,500 photos of Grace Jones' show at The Roseland which have never been seen. I was front and center with a Canon w. 18-55mm and would be very happy to donate.

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    Let's Stop Doing These "Pretend to Be Poor" Experiments via magazine.good.is

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