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Fran Harrington

“Whatever you are, be a good one.”
— Abraham Lincoln

I am good at giving a damn.

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  • Fran Harrington replied to a comment by Timothy Baer

    Why It's Perfectly Acceptable that Colin Kaepernick Doesn't Want to Meet His Birthmother  via magazine.good.is

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    Timothy Baerabout 1 year ago

    I too was adopted. And I too met my biological father when I was 11. Meeting at such a young age and under the circumstances we did was a mistake. Quite simply, by meeting my father when I was still a child put us in the awkward relationship of being father/son when we lacked the bonds for that relationship to form properly. If I had met him much later, say at 25 or 30, we could have met as equals and without child/parent expectations laid on both of us. There was a reason why he let a child go and a reason why a better man adopted me. We had a relationship for about seven years but now haven't spoken in more than a decade. He's not a bad guy, it was just weird. After living it I don't recommend that adopted children meet their biological parents. As for Kapernick? He seems to be doing quite well without his birth mother. I'm sure they'll meet eventually. Or maybe they won't. It's unfair to suppose that Colin should form an emotional bond with a woman he's never met, as if it's up to him to repair a situation he never had control over.

    Fran Harringtonabout 1 year ago

    "a better man?" How dehumanizing. Adoptive parents are not "better"than natural parents. Another myth perpetuated by the adoption industry everyone loves throwing around. Thanks.

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  • Fran Harrington replied to a comment by Barb Brumfield

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    Barb Brumfieldabout 1 year ago

    I am adopted and I too have not sought out my birth parents. I grew up in a wonderful family, treated as their own child and my only concern was if there were any health issues that may be genetic, but so far that has not outweighed the contentment I have with the family I have and if my birth mother came looking for me, I may meet her out of politeness, but she would never take the place of the woman I know as mom.

    Fran Harringtonabout 1 year ago

    Yes we know, natural mothers are nothing but incubator, broodmares for the infertile. (NOT REALLY). Thank you for perpetuating that lie.

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  • Fran Harrington replied to a comment by harryo

    Why It's Perfectly Acceptable that Colin Kaepernick Doesn't Want to Meet His Birthmother  via magazine.good.is

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    harryoabout 1 year ago

    Colin Kaepernick needs to understand that his birthmother is the reason why he is alive
    today. His birthmother at the time was a teenager white and had been impregnated by
    a black man. She most likely was broke and had no support from her family because of your black daddy. Be thankful that she did not have an abortion like some other women would have done. She put you in an enviroment where you were taken care of.
    So stop being selfish and look at her situation at that time, and meet the lady that brought you into this world. The Kaepernicks are and will always be your family.

    Fran Harringtonabout 1 year ago

    Thank you for being non judgmental and compassionate. How refreshing.

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  • Fran Harrington replied to a comment by Rebecca Carroll

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    Rebecca Carrollabout 1 year ago

    In what way is Heidi Russo "doing the right thing"? How is the right thing to come back into her son's life in such a public way on the eve of the most important day of his career -- a day when the entire world is watching and waiting to see how he will perform? "She just wants to see her son." I don't doubt that, but here's the thing with legally surrendering your child -- you also surrender your right to see that child until he/she is a grown adult and can make that very personal call. The right thing for Heidi Russo to do, as the birthmother/mother of this now grown child, is to respect his decision to not reconnect with her at this time.

    Fran Harringtonabout 1 year ago

    In what way is this any of your damn business? Have you ever lost a child to adoption? Unless you have and know what is like to be without your own flesh and blood, why don't you keep your mouth shut. The dehumanizing, degrading comments I have read about this woman are despicable. Why don't you stop being so judgmental about something that is in no way your business and get a life, thanks.

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