Goodlyfe3 months ago
I prefer it when people ask me "What's your ethnicity?"
It's definitely a nicer, more humanizing way to ask what you're curious about than "what are you?" Not to mention more clear, when I was 9 years old, a girl in a church youth group asked me "what ARE you?" and I genuinely thought she wasn't sure if I was a boy or girl so I said "I'm a girl?" Now frustrated, she said "NOO, like, are you black or white, or mexican?" (she was black and we lived in a pretty racially divided black vs white neighborhood, so I then understood her question/ her desire to know) I then told her my mommy was chinese and my daddy was white, and it seemed to confuse her, but satisfy her question. Anyway, when anyone now asks me "what are you?" I think of that unpleasant memory.
And yes, you are correct that "where are you from?" can come off as offensive when the person is obviously local.