Since when did women get so selfish?
As a young woman I am boggled by the amount of pressure on young men in a romantic relation ship. Love seems to be so warped these days. Its been turned into a contest of material Item trading, and lust, and an uneven one at that.
Men, I feel bad for you, and your wallets. Your expected to dote on us, ignore our wrong doing, buy gifts for seemingly every occasion, pamper us, and then expect nothing but a little booty in return.
A good example of this is when I sat in awe of my younger sister as she recounted getting a one moth, three month, valentines, easter, and six month anaverersy gifts. (A necklace, dinner and a movie, a stuffed animal, a trip to the aquarium, and a concert). I commented on the items, and asked about the experincees. At the end of the converasation I asked about what she got him. The answer was always nothing.
I was shocked, and more than a bit disgusted at this.
It seemed like their was no reason to wonder that they broke up a short time later due to conflicting intrest. Yet she did.
I watched her get swamped with gifts, and spoiled on take out, or dineing out.
I watched as each time the guy hinted at how it would be nice to stay home and eat, or how simply spending a day watching old DVD's would be great, or how he was feeling kinda tired and wanted to just be with her, not her buddies.
My sister is a smart woman. How she could not see the want for a simple meal, or day in boggles me.
My own romantic relationship is an apparent mystery for its survival. I have been dating my man for just over a year and two months. I am asked "How do you do it?" or hear "I wish I got that look from my man." More times then I care to count.
The answer is rather simple I am caring for my man, and not for what he does or gives me.
I didn't get a one month or three month gift. We went to see a movie and got SubWay for our six month thing. Valentines day was not spent out at some fancy place, or restruant, I didn't but new undergarments, nor did I need to. I cooked some pork tacos, we watched some movies on netflix, and we napped together. Easter for us is looking like taking my cusion and his younger brother to a few egg hunts.
I do get doted on, or small things often. sometimes is a suprise date of movies and lunch, or a book he thought I would like. He does so much for me, and I get so much crap for returning favors, paying half the bill at lunch, or dare I say it! Playing house wife for my man.
I am not an expencive person. I am not at the top of a pile of debt, nor at the bottom of my luck. I have no kids, (though I do have a cat). I can do afford half the bill, or the extra grocerys of things he likes to eat. I WANT to.
I like seeing his features soften when he sees I made his favorite foods, or how he relaxes under my hands when I rub his rather smelly feet. I like seeing the appriciation at seeing his favorite blanket is clean, or that I left his favorite spot on the couch open for him complete with drink beside it.
Why would any man want a woman who shows no thanks? Is it so hard ladies to give back?
I would not spend a hundred dollars for a sqeal of joy and thanks.
I would not spend a day that should be spent working, in class, doing things that I need to do (laundry, a report for work, and essay) with a woman who does not give he same effort back.
am ashamed of what has happened to us.
When did we become such selfish, rude, creatures?