First dates can be very exciting, anxiety-inducing, annoying, fun, and stressful all at once. Whether the date was fun or a nightmare, the bill always comes due. According to past dating norms, the gentleman is expected to flash some cash or a credit card to fully pay for the date. However, a recent survey is saying that paying for the date with a coupon isn’t a deal breaker. In fact, it might make you appear more attractive.

A 2025 Talker Research survey of 2,000 Americans showed that 56% of people thought using coupons on a first date is okay. On top of that, 28% considered that type of frugality “sexy” and 56% believed that “flashing cash” and other ways to show off wealth were a turn-off. All of this is reinforced by the fact that over 60% of the respondents wanted a date that was happy to look for deals.

@george.kamel

Is it okay to use a coupon on a first date? #firstdate #relationshipadvice #coupons @Graham Stephan ♬ original sound – George Kamel

Destiny Chatman, consumer expert for TopCashback, the company that backed the Talker Research Survey, believes this shows a cultural shift in the modern dating scene.

“The data shows today’s daters aren’t looking to be swept off their feet by spending,” said Chapman to the press. “Thoughtful financial choices like using a coupon or redeeming cash back show planning, not penny-pinching. In this economy, frugality isn’t just practical. It’s an attractive sign of long-term potential.”

Chapman’s “penny pinching” comment is backed up by the survey. It showed that the same participants believed there was a difference between being “frugal” and being “cheap,” with 34% defining “cheapness” as in “not tipping,” “refusing to spend on experiences,” and other ways to cut corners negatively rather than taking advantage of a deal that’s presented or advertised.

This mindset makes sense for singles given the current uncertain economy now and in the near future. Several experts in relationships and finances, including credit bureau Experian, cite disagreements on how money should be spent or saved as one of the top reasons break-ups happen in relationships and marriages. The combination of the current economic climate and knowledge of how money impacts love has led to singles searching for a compatible person in both romance and finance.

With that in mind, what does a frugal date look like for current singles? There are some great first date ideas that people can enjoy without needing to spend big money on a fancy candlelit dinner, expensive front row seats to a show, or a hot air balloon ride. Financial experts like the ones working for Dave Ramsey have a few frugal ideas for first dates, and there are other inexpensive experiences you can have together if you get creative.

Instead of meeting for dinner, suggest coffee or breakfast at a place in the morning to get a (hopefully) nice conversation to start your day along with a cheaper meal. Meet at a park for a walk and maybe a picnic. If it goes well, you can always grab drinks somewhere afterward.

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There’s a difference ?️ Whats the difference between cheap and frugal? #frugal ♬ original sound – Johnefinance | John Eringman

One way to find fun and inexpensive date ideas is to do your research. Check your local bars to see if there’s an open mic night for you and your date to enjoy live music or comedy for free. See if there is a Groupon or specials for escape rooms, go karts, or other local entertainment centers. Sign up for email newsletters from your local park, movie theater, museum, etc. near you to be notified of cheap or free concerts, movie screenings, exhibits, and other live events.

Your date won’t just have a fun time with you if you investigate and suggest these things, but see how invested you are. Not just with your money, but in the time and effort you spend with them, too.

  • Driver breaks down how much he makes from Uber, enraging both drivers and passengers
    Photo credit: CanvaA rideshare driver talks to the rider in the backseat.

    In the current economy, people are looking for ways to make and save save money more than ever, given the poorer economic outlook. One way folks have been trying to make extra money, or even a full living, is through rideshare services like Uber. However, after one man shared his take-home pay once Uber took its cut, the result has both passengers and passengers and drivers seething.

    An English Uber driver shared a breakdown of his seven-day earnings summary. He worked 13 hours, with Uber taking out 1.5% of his pay for rider promotions, 4.5% in third-party fees, and a whopping 26.1% going directly to Uber itself. In the end, the driver took home only 67.9% of his earnings. That means that out of the 13 total hours he drove, he was effectively paid for just under nine hours of work. How is this the case?

    @private.hire.mike

    Uber’s new pricing system is quietly cutting driver pay while fares go up. We’re working harder, earning less, and no one’s talking about it. Here’s the truth every driver needs to know. ?? ? Drop your experience in the comments – let’s make our voices heard. Follow @PrivateHireMike for real updates, not fluff. ? #UberDriverUK #PrivateHireDriver #GigEconomy #UberLondon #UberTruth #DriverPay #DynamicPricing #UberScam #PHVDriver #UKUberDrivers #RideShareUK #UberExec #LondonDriver #DriverStruggles #MakeUberFair #UberTips #UberLifeUK #GigWorker #RealTalkWithMike #PrivateHireMike

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    In 2023, Uber introduced an algorithm to determine fares and pricing, dubbed “dynamic pricing,” as an alternative to the old “surge pricing” model, which increased fares during periods or areas of high rideshare demand. The new system uses a different supply-and-demand formula to calculate the cost of a ride. There was a presumption that while rides would cost more, a greater portion of the fare would go directly toward the driver’s earnings.

    In 2025, a study from the University of Oxford found that Uber’s “dynamic pricing” not only raised the cost of rides for passengers but also took a significantly larger cut of the driver’s overall pay. Research by academics at Columbia University found that the algorithm harmed both American Uber drivers and their passengers..

    @dollfacemcgee

    Haa anybody heard of Uber’s “dynamic pricing”? First it was surge pricing & NOW you’re just showing us cheap prices to charge us expensive prices once the ride is complete?

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    According to study author Len Sherman, Uber’s dynamic or “upfront” pricing model has allowed the rideshare company to “raise rider fares and cut driver pay on billions of rideshare trips, systematically, selectively, and opaquely.”

    @drivermatty

    Does this confirm that Uber pays different prices for the same work?? How is that fair?? @Uber this doesn’t seem right. #uber #uberdriver #ubereats #ubereatsdriver #uberlandia #uberx #manchester #liverpool

    ♬ original sound – Driver_Matty

    This is just one of several issues that has led Uber drivers to take the company to court. After all, many frequent Uber passengers assume that higher fares mean drivers earn more, not less—especially when those same drivers take a financial hit for rider discounts or promotions they aren’t responsible for offering.

    There’s also the reminder that Uber drivers are still considered independent contractors, meaning that fuel costs, repairs, and other vehicle maintenance are their responsibility and must be paid out of pocket in order to work. However, some areas have driver pay rates or compensation structures that are fixed or adjusted to comply with state or city laws, but those changes appear to be handled on a case-by-case, city-by-city basis.

    If you want to see improvements in both prices and driver take-home pay, rideshare drivers and frequent riders should contact their app’s customer service and reach out to local elected officials to push for fairer fares in their area. After all, drivers and riders should benefit more than the company that isn’t even in the vehicle.

    This article originally appeared last year. It has been updated.

  • She tipped a dollar on a $5 coffee and the barista called her out in front of the whole café. The internet couldn’t agree on who was wrong.
    Photo credit: CanvaBarista hands customer their coffee
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    She tipped a dollar on a $5 coffee and the barista called her out in front of the whole café. The internet couldn’t agree on who was wrong.

    The incident touched a nerve because almost everyone has stood at a tip screen lately wondering what they actually owe.

    A regular customer at her local coffee shop dropped a dollar in the tip jar on her way out last week and ended up sparking a debate that a lot of people clearly needed to have.

    She’d paid $5 for her coffee, skipped the card tip prompt at checkout, and left a bill in the jar on her way out the door. The barista noticed, glanced at the cash in her customer’s wallet, and said loudly enough for the room to hear: “Oh wow! A whole dollar… that’s SO generous! Thank you SO much.”

    The customer, who goes by u/moonchildcountrygirl on Reddit, said she was rattled enough to wonder whether something was going to end up in her drink. When she posted about it online, Newsweek picked up the story and more than 800 comments followed.

    Reddit’s reaction was not especially sympathetic to the barista. “Should have picked that dollar back,” was among the most upvoted responses. Others said they would have asked for a full refund on the drink. The OP herself landed on a version of that position: if a tip is going to be met with sarcasm, why tip at all?

    But the incident is a little more complicated than a straightforward etiquette violation, because the math here actually favors the customer. A dollar on a $5 drink is a 20% tip, the same percentage most people consider the standard for a sit-down restaurant with table service. Industry veterans generally say a dollar a drink is a reasonable coffee shop tip, and that baristas at most cafés (unlike servers) are paid standard minimum wage rather than the lower tipped-employee rate that makes gratuities more essential.

    A barista serves a customer in a coffee shop
    A barista serves a customer. Photo credit: Canva

    None of which makes a public sarcastic remark the right response. But it does situate the incident inside a broader frustration that’s been building for a few years. A Pew Research Center survey found that 7 in 10 American adults say tipping is now expected in more places than it was a few years ago. A Bankrate survey found that 41% of Americans think tipping culture has gotten out of hand, and around 63% have at least one negative view about tipping overall. More than 60% agreed that employers should simply pay workers better so tips don’t have to fill the gap.

    The tip jar and the checkout screen have become the place where all of that tension gets concentrated into a single uncomfortable moment. The barista’s comment was out of line. The customer’s dollar was not stingy. And the fact that it’s hard to say either of those things without someone disagreeing is probably the actual story.

    This article originally appeared earlier this year.

  • Denmark’s generous parental leave policies erase eighty percent of the ‘motherhood penalty’
    Photo credit: Sergei Gapon/AFP via Getty ImagesA Danish mom drops her young son at his school in Copenhagen.
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    Denmark’s generous parental leave policies erase eighty percent of the ‘motherhood penalty’

    Paid leave and universal child care help moms stay attached to work, even as reduced hours trim pay.

    For many women in the U.S. and around the world, motherhood comes with career costs.

    Raising children tends to lead to lower wages and fewer work hours for mothers – but not fathers – in the United States and around the world.

    As a sociologist, I study how family relationships can shape your economic circumstances. In the past, I’ve studied how motherhood tends to depress women’s wages, something social scientists call the “motherhood penalty.”

    I wondered: Can government programs that provide financial support to parents offset the motherhood penalty in earnings?

    A ‘motherhood penalty’

    I set out with Therese Christensen, a Danish sociologist, to answer this question for moms in Denmark – a Scandinavian country with one of the world’s strongest safety nets.

    Several Danish policies are intended to help mothers stay employed.

    For example, subsidized child care is available for all children from 6 months of age until they can attend elementary school. Parents pay no more than 25% of its cost.

    But even Danish moms see their earnings fall precipitously, partly because they work fewer hours.

    Losing $9,000 in the first year

    In an article to be published in an upcoming issue of European Sociological Review, Christensen and I showed that mothers’ increased income from the state – such as from child benefits and paid parental leave – offset about 80% of Danish moms’ average earnings losses.

    Using administrative data from Statistics Denmark, a government agency that collects and compiles national statistics, we studied the long-term effects of motherhood on income for 104,361 Danish women. They were born in the early 1960s and became mothers for the first time when they were 20-35 years old.

    They all became mothers by 2000, making it possible to observe how their earnings unfolded for decades after their first child was born. While the Danish government’s policies changed over those years, paid parental leave and child allowances and other benefits were in place throughout. The women were, on average, age 26 when they became mothers for the first time, and 85% had more than one child.

    We estimated that motherhood led to a loss of about the equivalent of US$9,000 in women’s earnings – which we measured in inflation-adjusted 2022 U.S. dollars – in the year they gave birth to or adopted their first child, compared with what we would expect if they had remained childless. While the motherhood penalty got smaller as their children got older, it was long-lasting.

    The penalty only fully disappeared 19 years after the women became moms. Motherhood also led to a long-term decrease in the number of the hours they worked.

    Motherhood, Safety net, Income inequality, Denmark, Gender inequality, Scandinavia, Government benefits, Mothers Day, Mother's Day, motherhood penalty
    The u2018motherhood penaltyu2019 is largest in the first year after a momu2019s first birth or adoption. Kristian Tuxen Ladegaard Berg/NurPhoto via Getty Images

    Studying whether government can fix it

    These annual penalties add up.

    We estimated that motherhood cost the average Danish woman a total of about $120,000 in earnings over the first 20 years after they first had children – about 12% of the money they would have earned over those two decades had they remained childless.

    Most of the mothers in our study who were employed before giving birth were eligible for four weeks of paid leave before giving birth and 24 weeks afterward. They could share up to 10 weeks of their paid leave with the baby’s father. The length and size of this benefit has changed over the years.

    The Danish government also offers child benefits – payments made to parents of children under 18. These benefits are sometimes called a “child allowance.”

    Denmark has other policies, like housing allowances, that are available to all Danes, but are more generous for parents with children living at home.

    Using the same data, Christensen and I next estimated how motherhood affects how much money Danish moms receive from the government. We wanted to know whether they get enough income from the government to compensate for their loss of income from their paid work.

    Motherhood, Safety net, Income inequality, Denmark, Gender inequality, Scandinavia, Government benefits, Mothers Day, Mother's Day, motherhood penalty

    We found that motherhood leads to immediate increases in Danish moms’ government benefits. In the year they first gave birth to or adopted a child, women received over $7,000 more from the government than if they had remained childless. That money didn’t fully offset their lost earnings, but it made a substantial dent.

    The gap between the money that mothers received from the government, compared with what they would have received if they remained childless, faded in the years following their first birth or adoption. But we detected a long-term bump in income from government benefits for mothers – even 20 years after they first become mothers.

    Cumulatively, we determined that the Danish government offset about 80% of the motherhood earnings penalty for the women we studied. While mothers lost about $120,000 in earnings compared with childless women over the two decades after becoming a mother, they gained about $100,000 in government benefits, so their total income loss was only about $20,000.

    Benefits for parents of older kids

    Our findings show that government benefits do not fully offset earnings losses for Danish moms. But they help a lot.

    Because most countries provide less generous parental benefits, Denmark is not a representative case. It is instead a test case that shows what’s possible when governments make financially supporting parents a high priority.

    That is, strong financial support for mothers from the government can make motherhood more affordable and promote gender equality in economic resources.

    Because the motherhood penalty is largest at the beginning, government benefits targeted to moms with infants, such as paid parental leave, may be especially valuable.

    Child care subsidies can also help mothers return to work faster.

    The motherhood penalty’s long-term nature, however, indicates that these short-term benefits are not enough to get rid of it altogether. Benefits that are available to all mothers of children under 18, such as child allowances, can help offset the long-term motherhood penalty for mothers of older children.

    This article originally appeared on The Conversation. You can read it here.

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