Our current system would lead to financial ruin for my partner if we tied the knot.
I always wanted to get married, even when I didn’t.
Before I was 4, my mother and father called it quits. By the time I was 8, my mother separated from her second husband, who then skipped town altogether. My early life was marked by the abandonment of men who split when things became too hard, leaving my mother in a financial and emotional lurch out of which she couldn’t climb.