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Men: Get Your Shit Together.

We need to change the definition of masculinity so that it has nothing to do with harming anyone, least of all women.

Attention men: Women don’t owe us shit. Not attention, not praise, not a smile, and certainly not sex. In fact, as women are the life-givers of the species, it would seem that it’s us men who are forever indebted. Now that we’ve got that out of the way, we need, as men, to be discussing our complicity in the sexist, patriarchal mode of our present society, and not for the sake of winning an argument on the internet or the favor of potential sex partners. We need to do this because the current definition of what it means to be a man simply is not working.

In high school, I had a football coach who would tell us that what makes a man isn’t his ZIP code or his car or how many women he’d slept with, but how he loves his fellow woman and man and how many people he helps. At 15 and 16 years old, my teammates and I thought that his “building men for others” mantra of love and respect was corny as hell. Yet, having come up in the Age Of Schwarzenegger, being twice that age now, I’m still trying to understand the real meaning of masculinity.

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What Should Canada Be Doing to Protect Indigenous Women?

The Inter-American Commission on Human Rights blasts the government for the high number of murdered and missing aboriginal women in Canada.

Demonstrators at the 2010 Women's Memorial March for missing aboriginal women. Via flickr user Yaokcool.

The Inter-American Commission on Human Rights has released a damning new report on Canada's missing and murdered aboriginal women and girls, thought to number more than 1,000. After studying the rash of cases in British Columbia for two years, the organization is demanding that Canada enact a nation-wide inquiry.

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Stop Calling Abusers ‘Monsters’

A domestic violence survivor speaks out on Janay Rice, twitter activism, and society’s responsibility in preventing violence against women

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Anyone who lives with even one finger in the Twitterverse likely already knows about the twin hashtags trending since Monday: #WhyIStayed and #WhyILeft. Both hashtags emerged in response to public criticism of Janay Rice—formerly Janay Palmer—who recently married NFL player Ray Rice even after he punched her so hard she fell unconscious in an Atlantic City casino elevator, even after he dragged her limp body down the hall. Rice’s controversial non-punishment of a two-game suspension ignited an important national conversation about domestic violence, a conversation that was ignited again earlier this week with TMZ’s release of footage of the incident.

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