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“Take a deep breath.” It’s what your mom told you when you were hyperventilating about some disastrous situation as a kid—maybe a fall off a bike or worse, your brother stealing your toys. Like all things in life, your mom was right; taking a deep breath can be one of the most important things you do all day.


Meditative and mindful practices have been around for centuries, but like so many ancient and esoteric practices, we’re only now getting around to learning what’s truly behind them.

Simply open a magazine or click over to Facebook and you’ll likely be inundated with headlines reading, “Yoga Reduces Stress,” or “The Stress-Busting, Mood-Lifting Effects of Mindfulness.” But beyond these headlines is the real story: We have the control to heal ourselves in ways we’ve not previously imagined.

And it’s not just California hippies taking advantage of the healing power of thought.

For more than 17 years, George Mumford, a sports psychologist and mindfulness expert, has worked with some of the world’s top-performing athletes, including Michael Jordan and Kobe Bryant, teaching them that meditation is a key ingredient for winning championships.

“George helped me understand the art of mindfulness,” Bryant told The Huffington Post. “To be neither distracted or focused, rigid or flexible, passive or aggressive. I learned just to be.”

Politicians are also joining the meditation movement in droves. Tim Ryan, a Democratic Congressman from Ohio, makes it a part of his daily routine to take time and introspect. “If this can help me, a half-Irish, half-Italian quarterback from Northeast Ohio, it’s for everybody,” Ryan told Salon in a 2013 interview. He’s also sharing his love of mindfulness and meditation with his constituents. In 2015, Ryan introduced the Academic, Social and Emotional Learning (SEL) Act.

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The act will help to financially support teacher training in SEL, which is proven to boost student’s academic performance. “I have seen firsthand what teaching social and emotional learning can do for students and their classrooms in Ohio and across the nation,” Ryan shared in a statement. “These programs are scientifically proven to help students increase skills in problem solving, conflict resolution, responsible decision making and relationship building – these are the skills that will build the foundation for students to better perform academically and throughout their lives. Now is the time to promote programs that create a safer and more secure school culture in America.”

And it’s not just the rich, famous, and powerful using mindful meditation. Groups including the Prison Yoga Project and the Prison Mindfulness Institute are bringing the power of internal reflection to incarcerated individuals across the country.

“Yoga really allowed me to work on core issues,” Adam Verdoux, a 45-year-old ex-con told Epoch Times. “It played a huge part in my change. It really facilitated that process.” There remains a year waitlist to join the yoga program at San Quentin State Prison, where Verdoux served his time. Additionally, Epoch Times reports, more than 15,000 prisoners have requested yoga guidebooks to assist in self-guided meditation.

At the root of much of this is the simple act of focusing on one’s breath—an act that is core to so many meditative traditions. “Breathe in. Breathe out. Pay attention to your breath. Repeat.” Modern science is showing us that this doesn’t just calm us in the moment, if practiced over time, it can actually make real changes to the workings and shape of our brains—changes that actually help us heal from traumas and become more resilient to the stresses we all endure. In one study, researchers at Harvard University found that just eight weeks of mindfulness meditation made measurable and impactful differences in the brain.

“Although the practice of meditation is associated with a sense of peacefulness and physical relaxation, practitioners have long claimed that meditation also provides cognitive and psychological benefits that persist throughout the day,” the study’s senior author Sara Lazar, a Harvard Medical School instructor in psychology, said in a statement. “This study demonstrates that changes in brain structure may underlie some of these reported improvements and that people are not just feeling better because they are spending time relaxing.”

As explained in GOOD’s new video above, this type of meditative practice and the associated changes to our brain can even help us live more in the present moment and overcome that feeling of life speeding by like a freight train. It’s getting more obvious all the time: Soon meditation will be as common sense and as common practice as brushing your teeth. So, if you can build a habit to keep your teeth clean, how can you also take care of your brain in the same way? We created a few quick, illustrated tips to help you bring very simple mindful practices to some unexpected parts of your day:

And for real, you should probably give yourself two minutes and try that last tip before you move on to the next link on the internet.

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The video above was made possible with the support of Here To Be, a new social impact initiative from lululemon.

  • The good life requires two things, self‑knowledge and friends – you can’t have one without the other
    Photo credit: Stephen Simpson/Stone via Getty ImagesFriends can see and know you in ways that you yourself never can.
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    The good life requires two things, self‑knowledge and friends – you can’t have one without the other

    A global study links nature connection with resilience, mindfulness and life satisfaction.

    Friends can help us with all kinds of things in life. How could I forget moving that piano for friends in Chicago? Fortunately, none of us ended up in the ER.

    One of the most important things friends do, though, might seem surprising: They help us get to know ourselves.

    Both in their 50s, Cindy and Ann had been friends since the second grade. Year after year, they never missed a birthday. Cindy would give Ann gourmet popcorn or maybe a sweatshirt from her alma mater, while Ann would give Cindy a special book on a topic that interested her, or maybe an old batch of family recipes. At one point, it dawned on Cindy just how thoughtful Ann’s gifts were. It wasn’t about the cost. “She really thinks about my life and what I’m doing,” Cindy said. “It’s amazing. Ann is just really thoughtful.”

    Cindy had always imagined herself as a thoughtful person, too. But in comparing the kinds of gifts they sent to each other, she realized that she was not thinking about Ann in the way that Ann was thinking about her. And so began her deliberate process of becoming more thoughtful – as a result of the self-insight she had gained from her friendship with Ann.

    As a philosopher and philosophical counselor, I’ve noticed the pronounced connection between friendship and self-knowledge in my counseling practice. Cindy and Ann are one example among many. I’ve come to the conclusion that to really know yourself, it’s necessary to have good friends.

    The link between self-knowledge and friendship was key for Aristotle, too, more than 2,000 years ago. “Eudaimonia” – roughly translated as living well, or happiness – often remains elusive, yet Aristotle believed it didn’t have to be. Eudaimonia is largely within people’s control, he said, so long as they aim at the right targets.

    Two of those targets are knowing yourself and having good friends. The two are tied together – you can’t develop self-knowledge in a vacuum. Happiness, for Aristotle, can never be a solitary pursuit.

    Knowing – and befriending – yourself

    Humans have a highly developed capacity to think about their thinking. This is possible because of a split in human consciousness: There is consciousness, and there is consciousness of consciousness – what is known as reflection or metacognition. Metacognition allows us to step back and note our thoughts and feelings, analyzing them almost as if they belonged to someone else.

    This split makes reason, self-knowledge and morality possible. We can deliberate about our thoughts, feelings and potential actions.

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    A detail from ‘The School of Athens,’ by Raphael, shows Plato and Aristotle, his student, deep in discussion. Apostolic Palace/Web Gallery of Art via Wikimedia Commons

    Self-knowledge isn’t the same as being intellectual or even intelligent. Instead, it’s about using self-awareness and reason to develop character.

    In Aristotle’s view, character arises from developing habits that lead to intellectual and moral virtue, so that personal integrity is possible. This, in turn, builds self-trust and self-respect, as you learn to rely on yourself to do what is right – what Aristotle called “enkratēs,” or continence.

    In other words, self-knowledge is developing a good relationship with yourself. In your own internal dialogue, you become another trusted friend to yourself, based on what you’ve seen in your friendships: virtues like generosity, courage, truthfulness and prudence. Self-knowledge and moral development are tied together and realized in community, as underscored by Aristotle scholar Joseph Owens.

    Friendship based on character

    Aristotle recognized three types of friendship. Some are based on utility, like a study-group friend. Others are based on pleasure, such as friends in an antique car club.

    The third and highest form of friendship, which can last a lifetime, is based on virtue, or “arete.”

    In these situations, Aristotle wrote, a friend becomes “another self.” These friendships are based on mutual goodwill and love for the other person’s character; they are not fundamentally transactional. Instead, they are anchored in care and concern for the other.

    Such friendships are few, but foster self-knowledge. As philosopher Mavis Biss emphasizes, a good friend has a perspective on you that you yourself do not. You can step back and analyze your desires, thoughts and feelings, but you can never actually observe yourself.

    That means self-knowledge always has a social dimension. True friends enhance each other’s insight and capacity for virtue. As you get to know your friend, you get to know yourself – and are challenged to become a better version of yourself.

    “To perceive and to know a friend, therefore, is necessarily in a manner to perceive and in a manner to know oneself,” Aristotle wrote in the “Eudemian Ethics.” The friend is a mirror that helps refine our thinking, perception and moral understanding.

    Two women with gray hair and glasses sit inside a tent, looking out at a pond, as they smile and chat.
    A trusted and respected friend shares ideas, gives fresh perspective and magnifies life’s pleasures. Johner Images/Johner Images Royalty-Free via Getty Images

    Aiming at the good life

    In the end, what makes eudaimonia – the good life – possible? For Aristotle, it’s using reason to become our best selves. Knowledge and self-knowledge are the most desirable of all things, Aristotle argued: “One always desires to live because one always desires to know, and because one wishes to be oneself the object known.”

    And there’s no way to get there without good friendsA trusted and respected friend shares perceptions, enhances self-knowledge and magnifies life’s pleasures.

    The desire to know and be known is part of the quest for happiness. Knowledge of self, others and everything else is interconnected. For Aristotle, relationships are a portal into the realms of the vast and mysterious universe.

    This article originally appeared on The Conversation. You can read it here.

  • A shocking scientific study says water isn’t actually the best way to get hydrated
    Photo credit: CanvaA thirsty man in the desert and a cow in a grassy field
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    A shocking scientific study says water isn’t actually the best way to get hydrated

    “A little bit of protein, fat, and sugar are the ultimate hydration hack.”

    Are you up to speed on how much water you’re supposed to be drinking every day? One study tells us eight glasses a day, and the next few say 16. The University of St. Andrews in Scotland conducted its own study and found there’s a substitute that rehydrates the body more quickly and efficiently than water alone.

    The study focused on different drinks and their effect on the body’s rehydration. The results showed that water was not the best choice, and you might be surprised at one of the best alternatives.

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    Young woman drinking a glass of milk. Photo credit: Canva

    One of the best beverage choices for rehydrating the body is milk. It contains proteins, fats, and lactose. Lactose is the naturally occurring sugar that is found in milk. Combined with the sodium (salt) and potassium (electrolytes), these elements slow down the fluid from emptying out of the stomach. This helps keep a person’s body hydrated.

    In this way, milk is a far better provider for hydration than water. Yes, water contains trace amounts of salts and electrolytes, but it does not contain lactose, proteins, or fats.

    Other drinks the study found helpful include colas, sports drinks, orange juice, lager beer, tea, and coffee. It’s important to note, however, that high levels of sugar or alcohol actually dehydrate the body. Caffeine was an aid to hydration as long as the levels weren’t too high. If your coffee or tea has about 80 milligrams of caffeine, it’s in the best range for hydration.

    It’s important for people to maintain a healthy level of hydration throughout their day. Dehydration can affect the body in ways ranging from minor issues to serious, even dangerous, side effects, such as constipation, dizziness, heart issues, dry skin, and increased hunger and thirst.

    Constipation

    One reason constipation can occur is that there aren’t enough fluids to keep the pipes moving. This causes the intestines to slow down or completely stop eliminating waste. Besides being painful, dehydration-induced constipation risks include: vomiting, fever, abdominal cramps, bloating, rectal bleeding, and even diverticulitis (trapped waste in small pouches of the intestines that become irritated and inflamed).

    Dizziness

    Severely dehydrated people can not only face dizziness, but also delirium. When dehydrated, people can become unfocused and confused about their surroundings. It’s even possible to suffer hallucinations and delusions, leading to unsafe behavior and a need for urgent medical attention.

    Heart attacks

    Your heart rate is linked to blood pressure and blood volume. Volume is indirectly affected by the regulation of fluid intake. As your blood pressure and volume drop, the heart has to work harder to maintain a healthy, working body. If this state is prolonged, the stress can damage the heart and, in severe cases, cause heart attacks.

    Dry Skin

    Wrinkles are a normal part of the aging process, but dehydrated skin can cause fine lines to appear. These lines can feel itchy and may even crack open, creating entry points for bacteria. How do you know dry skin is dehydrated skin, though? There’s a simple test you can do to find out: gently pinch your skin between your pointer finger and thumb. If the skin returns to its original position within a few seconds, you’re good. If it doesn’t, you’re probably dehydrated.

    Hungry?

    Dehydration can often reveal itself as hunger. Your brain signals to the body that fluids are needed, and you feel that as a need for a full meal or snack. If you’ve just had something to eat and still feel hungry, try drinking a glass of something (like milk!). It will fill up your stomach and help rehydrate your body.

    This article originally appeared last year. It has been updated.

  • Woman says her husband keeps ‘ruining’ romance novels by acting them out before she reads them
    Photo credit: CanvaA nightly seduction.
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    Woman says her husband keeps ‘ruining’ romance novels by acting them out before she reads them

    “I genuinely don’t deserve him and also he is ruining my books.”

    Sometimes people reveal the climactic scene in a great book we’re reading before we even get there. It may be annoying, but most of the time, the ruined moment happens by accident.

    One woman shared this challenge in her Reddit thread, My husband is spoiling the spicy scenes in my romance books by acting them out before I get to them. Is it all a weird coincidence, or is their real genius hidden behind one man’s romantic gesture?

    My husband is acting differently in the bedroom

    A woman writing under the Reddit tag u/Embarrassed-Friend-8 shared she loves romance novels. Enough to consume four to five a month. Recently, her husband of 11 years started acting differently in the bedroom with what she describes as “themed” nights. She explains, “I’ll think ‘okay, that was fun and a little random’ and move on.” But then the real unexpected twist occurs. She continues, “A few days later I’ll be reading my book, hit a spicy scene and actually have to put my Kindle down bc it’s the same scene. Like, the same vibe, the same moves, occasionally almost the same setup.”

    She thinks he might be reading ahead and playing a fun little prank. But then the story beneath the story begins to reveal itself.

    “I read on my Kindle. He’d have to get into my account, figure out where I am in each book, read ahead, and then coordinate. He’s a big tech/numbers guy, so if he’s doing this I guarantee there’s a spreadsheet involved somewhere.   I’m honestly not even mad. Genuinely if this is what’s happening it might be the most unhinged romantic gesture anyone has ever done for me. But he is technically spoiling the books??”

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    A sexy dinner date.
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    People love a good role-play story

    As this story started to gain traction, the comments section filled up fast with amused, confused, and thoroughly invested people. It’s hard to resist a great story that begins with, “11 years and he’s still out here finding new ways to be surprising. I genuinely don’t deserve him and also he is ruining my books.” These are some of the Redditors’ thoughts:

    “Made the mistake of reading this post to my husband and I think I actually saw a light bulb turn on above his head — gonna start locking my Kindle…”

    “Book mark your favorite scenes…give him a selection so there’s still an element of surprise.”

    “You made me laugh so hard this morning!”

    “Yes, but ruining them in the BEST possible way!”

    “Absolute legend behavior, but you’re right, he needs to drop some DLC that isn’t in the source material for the real surprises.”

    “This is adorable and also sweet and romantic!”

    “I mean, the husband is looking at this as ‘ok, challenge accepted!’”

    “Girl, start reading some spicier stuff!”

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    A woman looks through a spyglass.
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    The mystery is uncovered in a Reddit update

    In an update to the original post, the woman shared that she was very appreciative of the comments and support from readers of her posting. “Turns out you all were right. He had access to my shared Kindle library and got this idea for a prank, but once he did it a few times he really got ‘invested.’” She continues, “He’s going to stop spoiling my books but we did come up with another arrangement, also thanks to the comments here. I’m going to give him a list of pre-approved spicy scenes and he’ll choose (in no specific order) which he wants to surprise me with.”

    This husband was willing to go the extra mile to keep their relationship moving in a healthy direction. And yet, there was one more little update she had to add in, “YES there was a spreadsheet. Chili pepper emojis for spice levels. A column for notes (needs wine, links to Spotify playlists, etc). Color coding. Multiple tabs. More organization than even I was expecting. It will be ongoing and is now shared so I can drop in my own chili peppers and notes.”

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    A romantic couple as the sun sets.
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    Romance novels are not just for the ladies

    Romance novels aren’t simply a niche. It’s one of the most widely read genres worldwide. It’s not just casual reading either. Romance readers are voraciously digesting an average of five novels per month. A 2021 study in Humanities & Social Sciences Communications found that most readers are in relationships and looking for little escape and relaxation. Writing that is exciting, easy, and fun to read matters more than the sexual content.

    What might be surprising is that romantic literature appeals to male readers more than you might think. In a 2025 survey conducted with fans of romance books by Talker Research, 63% of the men considered themselves die-hard fans. Also, men spend 364 hours annually reading romance compared to women, who spend 312 hours.

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    A couple eats watermelon together.
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    A little bit of romance matters

    Research shows that doing something new together can reignite connection. A 2024 study in Science Direct found that passion and intimacy are directly related to overall relationship satisfaction. And it’s not the big swings at romance that matter most. It’s the small, attentive actions that bring more intimacy.

    A 2023 review in the National Library of Medicine found that in the psychology of a romantic relationship, responsiveness, emotional attunement, and mutual investment build a stronger, lasting connection.

    Romance might seem like something we’re all supposed to instinctively know how to do. This husband is willing to invest time and creativity into his marriage, even if his first attempts didn’t land perfectly. What she thought was a small frustration slowly turned into a stronger connection. All of this good started by simply trying and reading a little ahead.

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