The human brain is a complex and capable organ. We put it through many troubling exercises, which might include thinking about work, play, what we have to do, what we can’t get to, and, probably, even thinking about thinking. T. Alexander Puutio, Ph.D., a teacher at Harvard and Columbia, shared with Psychology Today five habits that are making us dumber every day.

One of the first rules of problem-solving is understanding what’s causing the problem. Only then can we uncover the proper solutions. “Brain rot” can be linked to five common offenders that prevent us from reaching our fullest potential.

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5 major mental mistakes we make and the uncommon solutions:

1. Sleep deprivation

Getting enough sleep is extremely important for our health. Having a good night’s sleep tonight has direct effects on your cognitive abilities tomorrow—and even decades later. The National Heart, Lung, and Blood Institute reported on a study in 2024 that found adults in their ’30s and ’40s who had trouble sleeping showed poorer cognitive performance even a decade later. This decline wasn’t just from poor sleep quality but also the duration of poor sleep. “Skip it, and you degrade performance in measurable ways where our executive function dulls and our decision-making falters,” said Puutio. “Other research shows that even modest nightly sleep restriction impairs attention, working memory, mood, and judgment.”

Solution: Take time to be bored

The brain can restore itself in a ‘default state,’ according to Ashok Seshadri, M.D. of Mayo Clinic Health System. This is the normal way of recuperation, where we can internally reflect and encourage imagination. When the brain is extremely focused and performing an intense activity, it consumes large amounts of energy. The constant stimulation can be extremely hard on our nervous system. Taken in small doses, boredom is a helpful counterbalance to the highly stimulating and intense technological lives we live today. PsyPost shared on the benefits of finding moments for boredom, saying, “We need to embrace the pause. It is a space where creativity can prosper, emotions can be regulated, and the nervous system can reset.”

2. A fixed idea on how smart we are

It’s sometimes easy to get lost in an idea that we are only a certain level of smart. Even though we may learn new things, we think we have a limited bandwidth. Puutio writes, “By far the most performance-reducing habit is treating the brain as if it’s a fixed fixture. Psychologists call this the entity theory of intelligence, which is simply the belief that ability is innate and unchangeable.” We have a lifetime of learning behind us that suggests these thoughts just aren’t true.

Solution: The frustration zone

Proving this “fixed intelligence” idea wrong can be as simple as basic puzzle solving. The brain can reorganize and strengthen connections in response to hard tasks. Stepping just a little bit out of your intellectual comfort zone can have dramatic, positive effects. Occupational Therapist Sarah Bence wrote for Verywell Health, “Long-term brain-training activities can improve your working memory, verbal memory, and global functioning. Challenging yourself to try new activities can also improve brain functioning through a process called neuroplasticity.”

Science Direct published a study in July of 2025 about neuroplastic brain breakthroughs. It found that, “A deeper understanding of neuroplasticity—encompassing synaptic, structural, and functional adaptations—has dramatically expanded therapeutic possibilities.” And that, “… neuroplasticity-based interventions offer unprecedented opportunities for recovery, learning, and even cognitive enhancement…”

3. Our brains are lacking structure

You might have heard the term scatterbrained. Merriam-Webster dictionary defines it as, “Having or showing a forgetful, disorganized, or unfocused mind.” The brain prefers and flourishes doing the exact opposite of this. Puutio writes, “Our brains thrive on structure, purpose, and deadlines. Without them, we drift unfocused, sabotaging any spark of creativity we hoped to ignite.” He continues, “… even the most brilliant thinkers need disciplined structure to function at full capacity.”

Solution: Engaged in “single tasking”

It is a common belief that multitasking is not only an important ability but a true sign of intelligence. However, your brain cannot engage two cognitive tasks at once. It shifts focus back and forth between the two subjects. Carlos Alós-Ferrer, Ph.D., shared in Psychology Today that many modern techniques center around concentrating on one task at a time. Multitaskers are way less productive. A 2024 study in the National Library of Medicine found significant cognitive costs when people were task-switching. Tackling one obstacle at a time optimizes human performance and leads to improved cognitive function.

4. Filling our brains with low-grade distractions

Puutio writes, “It’s the mental equivalent of leaving candy on your desk when you’re on a diet.” He continues, “Place it in a steady drip of bad inputs, gossip, outrage, and low-grade distraction, and it will inevitably adapt downward.” Your brain is adaptive and will shift toward exactly where you send it. Scrolling through unhealthy images and engaging with toxic trolls on the Internet will inevitably cause you problems. Stimulating your mind with images just because you can, or you’re feeling lazy, can be a real energy drain.

Solution: Take a thought walk

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Mindful walking has important, positive effects on the brain. One specific technique can be establishing a rhythmic stride. A study in 2021 in the National Library of Medicine found that establishing a consistent pace supported short and long-term cognitive benefits. Participants in the study showed improvements in inhibitory control, selective attention, and overall executive function. Science Daily reported a 2023 study on walking that found regular walks strengthened the connections “in and between” brain networks. Taking a “thought walk” has also been shown to slow the onset of Alzheimer’s disease in older adults.

5. Alcohol

If you’ve had more than a few glasses of alcohol, you know exactly how it can change your thought patterns. Heavy drinking causes literal damage to the brain. Alzheimer’s disease is 41% more common in heavy drinkers, according to an autopsy-based study referenced by Puutio in his aforementioned Psychology Today article. Heavy drinkers were shown to have significantly higher odds of developing vascular brain lesions (as much as 133% higher probability). “Alcohol is perhaps the most obvious form of self-sabotage,” said Puutio. “[People] consuming eight or more alcoholic drinks per week is linked to clear markers of brain injury.”

Solution: Have a mocktail instead

The habit of not drinking has been a growing trend since the pandemic. A 2025 Gallup Poll shared by NPR found that only 50% of Americans aged 18 to 34 say they drink alcohol. And, 66% believe drinking even in moderation has harmful effects. According to the World Health Organization, scientists believe ‘any’ amount of alcohol can increase the risk of cancer, lead to depression and anxiety, and show negative effects on general health.

According to a story in the Houston Chronicle, restaurant franchises like Taco Bell are implementing a mocktail menu. The company hopes to boost its beverage sales to five billion dollars by the year 2030 by offering energy drinks and agua frescas of strawberry passion fruit, dragon fruit, berry, and mango peach. Business Insider reported that traditional bars will have to serve non alcoholic options to remain competitive. With more people consuming fewer alcoholic drinks or stopping completely, restaurants looking to maintain sales margins will have to adapt.

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The brain is a very complex organ that requires attention and positive habits to maintain healthy function. Many of the diseases that afflict the brain as we get older can be avoided or more successfully navigated through positive actions today. Every person has their own experiences when it comes to mental health and brain function, but the professionals seem to agree: treat yourself well or face the consequences.

  • Licensed therapist says these 3 steps stop rude people from hijacking your mind
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    Licensed therapist Jeffrey Meltzer offers three steps for dealing with rude people. In his helpful TikTok post under the name therapytothepoint, he suggests helpful tactics that go far beyond setting simple boundaries.

    Rude people are almost impossible to avoid, and the instinct to snap back or make a passive-aggressive remark can be strong. Meltzer shares some practical mental health advice that can lead to a calmer resolution.

    It Begins With Emotional Regulation

    Some individuals might believe that other people are responsible for how they make us feel. Meltzer suggests that self-regulation is an important first step to dealing with disrespectful people. Despite instincts to retaliate or escalate the situation, staying calm is more effective.

    Meltzer proposes that reciprocating aggression will only embolden a rude person and even justify their poor behavior. Instead, calmness and controlling our emotions will disrupt the pattern. Meltzer explains, “You might feel angry, embarrassed, disrespected, but calmness is about your behavior, despite the internal chaos you may be having. At the end of the day, emotional regulation is your strength, and reactivity gives your power away.”

    A 2024 study in the National Library of Medicine found that people’s ability to reappraise a stressful event in a more balanced way was strongly linked to greater resilience and better recovery from stress. The strategy helps people stay calmer by changing how the brain interprets the event.

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    Passive Aggression Is NOT a Solution

    An easy response might be the simple eye roll, sarcasm, or a retaliatory personal dig. Meltzer points out that these are only ego attempts to win an unwinnable situation. “Instead, be straightforward. I’m open to talking about this, but not like that. It’s hard for me to connect when you speak to me that way.” Meltzer explains that these tactics bring clarity and remove the defensive guard of said rude individuals.

    A 2026 study in Psychology Today reported that passive-aggressive behaviors worsen relationship dynamics and fail to resolve disagreements. Criticism, ostracism (ignoring others), and sabotage all undermine cooperation and relational success.

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    Role play works

    Practice makes perfect has value in dealing with rude people. “You don’t magically become composed under pressure; you train for it.” Meltzer continues, “Practice with a friend. Practice with your therapist. Have them be rude. Respond calmly. Respond assertively. Respond clearly. Because in real life, you don’t rise to the moment, you fall to your level of preparation.”

    A 2024 study in the National Library of Medicine revealed that an individual’s level of assertiveness can be trained. The strategy of preparation reduced feelings of stress, anxiety, and depression.

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    Stay Calm, Be Assertive, and Practice

    The solutions offered by Meltzer seem to resonate. Several people reveal their own struggles when facing similar predicaments. These are some of their comments:

    “Practice with a therapist? Why didn’t I think of that”

    “You don’t rise to the moment you fall to the level of your preparation. I’m gonna memorize that.”

    “I’m waiting for you to write a book about all your amazing insights”

    “I can handle them but i internalize later n let it ruin my day”

    “The real skill is knowing when to ignore and when to address it. Not everything deserves your energy.”

    “Rudeness is a weak man’s imitation of strength. Just say that to them and if they continue, walk away with a smile.”

    Meltzer advises that the best way to handle rudeness begins with how we respond. Diffusing a situation helps maintain peace of mind. Remaining composed helps control our own reactions. In the end, rehearsing for success allows us to stay confident when difficult situations arise.

  • Love educator shares how awkward flirting can be turned into a romantic superpower
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    In a recent TED Talk, love coach Francesca Hogi shared how even your awkward flirting can be a superpower. Sometimes mistaken as off-putting, flirting actually offers a powerful gateway to real human connection.

    By reframing flirting as an act of curiosity, she explains how anyone can kickstart attraction and open the door to lasting love. In an impassioned presentation, Hogi demystifies flirting and explains why building attraction matters.

    Flirting can be a superpower

    Hogi explains that for 12 years she’s been helping people fall in love as both a matchmaker and a coach. “As a love professional, I can assure you that many dating problems can be solved with flirting,” Hogi says. “If you’re single, it helps you to connect and fall in love. If you’re partnered, it helps you to reignite or maintain the spark of chemistry that brought you together in the first place.”

    Many might have concerns about their ability to flirt. Will they be received well, or are they even doing it right? Hogi explains, “I’ve got good news for the introverts out there. You don’t have to be extroverted to be a magnet for connection. In fact, I believe that introverts have a secret advantage when it comes to flirting because your efforts at being more open feel more genuinely inspired by another person and therefore special.”

    She shares that flirting can give you confidence and courage. She also acknowledges that feeling awkward is normal. “Confidence with flirting comes from knowing yourself, your intentions, reading the room, discerning other people’s reactions, and adapting accordingly,” she says. “Sometimes it’s going to be awkward, sometimes it’s going to be embarrassing, and that’s okay.”

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    Healthy flirting

    “Flirting gives you more agency over human connection,” says Hogi.

    She then describes the two foundational principles of healthy flirting. The first is presence: being in the moment and avoiding distractions like a phone or the surrounding environment. The second is enthusiasm. Getting the right vibe while being enthusiastic goes a long way toward mastering the art of flirting. These principles have a strong effect on other people.

    Hogi explains that expressing positive intentions has a large impact on outcomes:

    “You have the ability to leave other people feeling good for having interacted with you…Even your unspoken appreciation for a shared moment of connection, no matter how brief, can often be felt. Lean into being the version of you who leaves other people with a smile on their face and notice how much more magnetic you become.”

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    Hogi inspires the crowd

    People seem quite taken with Hogi’s energy and charisma. Some of the comments expressed admiration for her vibe and flirtatious delivery on stage. Hogi was sharing her own version of flirting as a superpower:

    “Even this presentation feels like shes flirting…especially her laughs”

    “She is such a good public speaker, ten minutes of speech with no filler words whatsoever”

    “Flirting is a way making one feel seen and acknowledged.”

    “Where were you, Francesca, when I needed these words? Like, 40 years ago? Never too late, right?”

    “Had me clapping in the end! She’z good”

    “I feel better about my flirting abilities after watching this now.”

    “She’s good , reading her body language generally teaches me more about flirting than learning it itself”

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    The power behind a flirtatious connection

    Flirting can have a powerful effect on both the initiator and the person on the receiving end. It isn’t necessarily about romance or sex. It helps build and strengthen relationships in everyday life.

    A 2025 study on ResearchGate analyzed where and how people flirt. The results suggested that people who flirt can improve with practice. The best flirting involved humor, confidence, and social skills. A 2026 study on ScienceDirect found that flirting can be an effective way for people to express their personality and individual differences. While personality traits and sex were linked to how often and how skillfully people flirted, these influences had only modest effects on overall outcomes.

    Hogi suggests flirting requires nuance and a little bit of courage. Practice prepares you for any occasion. “Attentiveness, compliments, playfulness—there’s nothing complicated about these actions, yet they have the potential to spark and sustain connection over time,” she says. “That’s a true superpower we can all tap into.”

    Hogi and the research suggest flirting isn’t just a trivial social game. It’s a meaningful way to express personality, build connections, and boost self-confidence. Flirting isn’t shallow. It doesn’t need to involve manipulation or outcome-obsessed action. These small everyday acts of courage embolden human connection and reveal individual superpowers in all of us.

  • Retired U.S. Navy chief explains how to end discipline anxiety with wholesome ‘butler’ trick
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    During an interview on The Diary of a CEO podcast, retired U.S. Navy chief Chase Hughes explained how to end discipline anxiety. Using a simple perspective shift, often referred to as the “butler” trick, he describes a method of “prioritizing the needs of our future self.”

    Hughes shares that understanding discipline is one of the fastest ways to change everything in our lives. We might wish discipline would arrive like a lightning bolt of motivation. However, Hughes suggests the solution lies in our relationship with discipline and the perspective we take on it, which ultimately relieves our anxiety.

    End discipline anxiety

    Hughes begins by explaining the importance of understanding what discipline actually is: “I define discipline as your ability to prioritize the needs of your future self ahead of your present self.” He goes on to explain that a simple reframing can change the link between discipline and anxiety.

    “If I can start looking backwards with gratitude, [it] is the fastest way to make discipline dopamine-generating,” Hughes says. “I want past-tense me to be a source of dopamine for present-tense me. Cause most of us look back with regret. ‘I shouldn’t have drank that much. I shouldn’t have mouthed off at the family reunion. You know whatever it is, I shouldn’t have overslept.’”

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    The butler trick for discipline

    Instead, it’s possible to prioritize long-term endeavors over short-term desires. In the full YouTube video of the interview, Hughes describes the butler trick as a way of treating your future self as someone you can serve today, just like a butler. The concept of looking forward with concerned awareness and backward with gratitude can help release the connection between anxiety and discipline. This reframing and release of negativity help people better motivate themselves and manage their present circumstances.

    A 2025 study in SAGE Journals found that future self-orientation directly impacts discipline-related outcomes. This trick can lead to meaningful behavior change. By reframing our relationship with the past, we directly affect our relationship with discipline and procrastination. A 2023 study published by Springer Nature found that procrastination and self-control significantly influence attitudes toward time. How someone relates to time ultimately shapes whether discipline feels easy or overwhelming.

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    Thoughts on the butler trick

    Viewers seemed universally impressed by the solution Hughes offers in the butler trick for discipline. Here are some of their thoughts:

    “I love it when Past Me has done something great to support Future Me. Sometimes it’s all I got, but it’s enough.”

    “This is the best advice on discipline I’ve ever heard in my life”

    “He’s giving you the blueprint for ultimate self care”

    “Be methodically organized and make your life less complicated and more suitable to your needs.”

    “I’ve heard everything can be looked at as a learning opportunity. Selfless gratitude + learning seems like a strong combo.”

    “Be my own butler. Love this!”

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    Discipline changes everything

    Hughes underscores the value discipline has in changing our lives:

    “Discipline is kind of the gateway drug to everything else in authority, and it’s the gateway to composure. But getting your discipline modified is one of the fastest ways to make everything else change.”

    Discipline can mistakenly be associated with punishment and rigid routine management. With Hughes’ framing, it might be better described as stewardship. Instead of battling the present, you can serve the future. The butler trick can help us all be more thoughtful toward the person we are becoming.

    You can watch the full interview with Chase Hughes on The Diary of a CEO podcast below:

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