As time flies, relationships can naturally change and fade. Often, you mean to send a text or make a call, only to look up and realize it’s been two years since you last communicated with that person. So how do you reconnect without making it weird?

Sara Sutton, the founder of FlexJobs and a networking expert, shared a simple, 10-word message that can help create reconnections: “You crossed my mind, and I wanted to say hi.”

Sutton believes this straightforward message works whether you’re trying to reconnect with a colleague for professional reasons or rekindle a faded friendship.

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The message may seem too simple for some, but that’s the point. It’s simply a statement of fact: you’re thinking of the person. Offering a simple “hello” also acknowledges them without adding pressure to respond.

An invitation, not an interruption

People typically feel good when they know they’re being thought of, and this message offers a way to express that without making things awkward. It also avoids any sense of manipulation or pressure to respond. It puts the ball in their court to say thanks, reply and re-engage, or simply let it lie. In any case, you’ll likely get a sense of whether the person genuinely wants to reconnect.

It can still feel awkward to reconnect with someone, even if the “You crossed my mind, and I wanted to say hi” message works. Plus, not every relationship is equal. Your connection with this person may have ended with unresolved conflict or lingering feelings.

Other ways to reconnect

Fortunately, there are other approaches if you want to rekindle a friendship. If it’s been a while since you last spoke, you might start by sending a friend request and a message on social media. You could also share a photo of the two of you and say, “Came across this and wanted to say hey,” or something similar. If you have a shared interest, such as having been teammates in college, you might reference a recent article about the team you both played for.

With former colleagues, you may not have their personal contact information or feel comfortable using it after such a long time. Experts suggest using LinkedIn for initial contact, since that’s the platform’s purpose. Alternatively, sending a festive email during the holiday season with a quick reminder of who you are (“Happy holidays from your former cubicle mate at [Company]”) can help break the ice.

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Whatever method you choose, it’s best to make it easy for the other person to respond quickly, if they choose to. Make no mistake: initiating a reconnection can still feel awkward. But it’s likely the other person hasn’t reached out for similar reasons. At worst, they’ll feel good knowing you thought of them and move on. At best, they’ll thank you for taking the first step to reconnect.

  • A farmer caught a person dumping 421 tires on his land and his response is legendary
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    A farmer caught a person dumping 421 tires on his land and his response is legendary

    After years of his land being treated like a junkyard, Stuart Baldwin decided it was time to send a very large, rubbery message.

    Living on a farm often means dealing with the beauty of nature, but for Stuart Baldwin, a livestock farmer in Haydock, it also meant dealing with the mess left behind by others. Baldwin says about 25 times a year his land is targeted by “fly-tippers,” people who illegally dump trash on private property. As the Manchester Evening News reported, the situation recently reached a breaking point when Baldwin discovered a staggering 421 tires scattered across his fields.

    Instead of just cleaning up the mess and footing the bill, Baldwin decided to check the CCTV cameras he had recently installed. The footage clearly showed a van arriving at the property and unloading the massive haul of rubber.

    Baldwin didn’t immediately call the authorities or retaliate. In a move that reflects a very grounded sense of fairness, he tracked the man down and gave him a chance to make it right. He offered the man a few days to return and clear the field himself.

    When the deadline passed and the tires remained, Baldwin decided that if the man wouldn’t come to the tires, the tires would go to the man. Utilizing a truck from his family’s recycling business, Baldwin and a group of volunteers loaded every single one of the 421 tires and drove them straight to the address associated with the van. As The Daily Mail reported, they carefully unloaded the entire pile into the man’s front garden, ensuring no property was damaged in the process.

    This wasn’t just about a “petty” dispute. Illegal dumping is a massive problem that places a heavy financial and emotional burden on farmers. According to official government data from the UK, authorities dealt with over 1.2 million fly-tipping incidents in the last year alone. Baldwin’s daughter, Megan, told reporters that the family simply wanted to prove a point about respect and accountability. They wanted to show that a farmer’s land is a livelihood, not a convenient trash can.

    The community response has been overwhelmingly supportive. Baldwin noted that people have even approached him on the street to thank him for standing up for the neighborhood. While he joked that the culprit was likely feeling “deflated” after the delivery, the message was serious. By returning the waste to its source, Baldwin turned a frustrating violation of his property into a legendary lesson in personal responsibility.

    This article originally appeared earlier this year.

  • Her bosses wore the same sneakers but only she got fired. So she took them to court and won.
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    Her bosses wore the same sneakers but only she got fired. So she took them to court and won.

    Elizabeth Benassi was 18, the youngest person in her office, and fired after three months.

    Elizabeth Benassi was 18 years old, three months into her first professional job, and trying hard not to stand out. She had even quietly asked her manager not to mention her age to coworkers, worried they’d write her off as the kid of the group.

    The manager told them anyway, at a bowling alley team-building night.

    That detail didn’t make it into the headline-grabbing part of Benassi’s story, but it sets the scene for everything that followed. Benassi had joined Maximus UK Services in August 2022, a firm that works with the UK’s Department for Work and Pensions to help people back into employment. Her colleagues were mostly in their early twenties. She was the youngest by a noticeable margin, and she felt it.

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    Then came the trainers incident. One morning, Benassi wore athletic shoes to the office, unaware the company had a dress code against them. Her manager, Ishrat Ashraf, called her out on it immediately. Benassi apologized. But as she looked around the room, she noticed something: other colleagues were wearing the same style of shoes. No one had said a word to them.

    She sent Ashraf a measured email. “This morning you mentioned that I am not allowed to wear trainers to work,” she wrote, as reported by The Metro. “Despite not being aware of this, as I have never worn trainers to work before, I apologized for this, and you rolled your eyes. I have now realized that I am not the only one wearing trainers today, and I have not seen anyone receive the same chat that I have.”

    The email made things worse. Ashraf escalated it to the operations manager, who emailed Benassi to say her footwear was “totally unacceptable.” A month later, she was called into a probationary review meeting and dismissed. The company cited her performance, conduct, attendance, timekeeping, and the dress code violation. Benassi pushed back, filing a legal case for victimisation and age-related harassment.

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    The case was heard at an employment tribunal in Croydon, south London. The tribunal dismissed the age harassment claim, but it upheld the victimisation finding, and the picture it painted of Benassi’s time at the company was pointed. Employment Judge Forwell noted that no allowance had been made for the fact that she was new and might not have known about the dress code, and concluded the treatment showed “a desire to find fault” with her from the start. As HR Magazine reported, the judge observed that Benassi was “literally being scrutinised from the moment of her arrival.”

    The company’s explanation for why other employees weren’t pulled up over their trainers, that one colleague had a sore foot, was also rejected. The judge noted that if that were true, Ashraf would have mentioned it at the time.

    Benassi was awarded £29,187 in compensation (around $37,800 in US dollars). In her testimony, she described what she had been trying to avoid all along. “I didn’t want to be treated differently, or as I had put it, ‘as the baby of the group,’” she told the tribunal. The ruling suggests that’s exactly how she was treated anyway.

    This article originally appeared earlier this year.

  • This  hand-written Walmart note about employee hours is a real head-scratcher
    A note from a Walmart manager to the employteesPhoto credit: u/Grizzlypupper / Reddit

    A handwritten notice posted at a Walmart store has gone viral, and the more people read it, the more complicated the conversation got.

    The sign, photographed and shared to r/walmart by user u/grizzlypupper in April 2024, begins plainly enough: “Attention all associates. Everyone needs to only work as many hours as they are scheduled. (If you are scheduled 5 hours do not go over that.)” So far, standard retail stuff. But the notice then lists six employees by name and tells each of them to leave early to compensate for a few minutes they’d already worked over their scheduled shifts the day before. One worker was told to clock out ten minutes early. Several others were directed to shave off five minutes.

    The response on social media was immediate. Some workers defended the practice as straightforward scheduling management, arguing that staying over even a few minutes without authorization creates payroll headaches. Others found the optics jarring, given that most of the workers named had gone over by less than fifteen minutes, seemingly out of dedication rather than negligence.

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    A note from the manager to the employees. Photo Credit: @Grizzlyupper/Reddit

    But the comment that drew the most attention came from someone who identified themselves as a current Walmart employee, as reported by Distractify in their coverage of the post. According to that commenter, the notice may actually violate Walmart’s own corporate policy. “Associates can report it to the wage and hour hotline,” they wrote, “and I’m pretty sure they will have to pay out the OT. I know for such a petty amount like this it won’t make a difference on your paycheck, but it’s about the principle.”

    Walmart’s own ethics page states explicitly that the company is “committed to complying fully with all applicable laws and regulations dealing with wage and hour issues, including off-the-clock work” and overtime pay. Whether a store-level manager directing employees to offset previously worked minutes crosses that line is a question workers would need to raise through official channels.

    It’s not the first time Walmart has faced scrutiny over hour management. As Market Realist noted in covering the story, the Pechman Law Group has documented at least two separate lawsuits from former Walmart employees alleging the company skimped on overtime pay, in one case by allegedly adjusting time clock records manually to avoid paying the time-and-a-half rate that kicks in over 40 hours.

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    Walmart has not commented publicly on the specific notice. The store location was not identified in the Reddit post.

    For many workers in the comments, the frustration wasn’t about the policy itself but the execution. “When they cut our hours, it’s like one or a half an hour each day,” wrote u/Wooden_Tomato919. “Just give me a whole half day off. But that would benefit me, not them.” Another user, u/JediFed, offered a manager’s perspective: “If I need another 10 minutes to clean everything up, I should take that 10 minutes and clean everything up.”

    A notice meant to manage labor costs ended up raising a question that goes a bit further than scheduling: if an employee works the time, are they owed the pay? Under the Fair Labor Standards Act, for most hourly workers, the answer is yes.

    This article originally appeared last year.

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