Career strategist says if your boss says any of these 3 things, you should quit your job

If your boss says any of these things, update your resume.

Erik Barnes

Dec 17, 2025

By Erik Barnes

December 17, 2025

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Working is hard enough on its own. Deadlines, quotas, group projects, assignments, making that delivery on time, cooking a meal to perfection, and so much more can be on your shoulders depending on what you do for a living. No one needs a boss who makes your job more difficult or, worse, toxic. Many great workers are taken advantage of due to mistaking the need to improve their work ethic with being in a toxic work environment. Luckily, a career strategist knows what a toxic boss is (and isn’t), and what they say that should clue you in on whether or not you should tough it out or move on.

Jennifer Brick, a former corporate climber turned career coach, shared the three sentences that only a toxic boss says.

“It’s just the way that they are.”

If you go to your boss about a difficult or problematic coworker and they respond by saying, “It’s just the way that they are,” instead of trying to find a solution for all parties involved, that’s a red flag. Instead of reassuring you and connecting with the difficult teammate, they are showing they aren’t capable of properly leading their team or don’t care to. This response makes it clear they’re relying on you to suck it up and tolerate the problem or fix it yourself, which are both bad options for a number of reasons.

“I thought you were a team player.”

You might have heard this one when you were asked to perform a duty outside of your job description, told to cancel your vacation to cover a shift, or asked to work extra hours. There may be the rare moment or two when you don’t mind sacrificing your time for the team due to an emergency or a big push, but the “team player” comment is most often said by a toxic boss trying to manipulate or guilt-trip you into work beyond your legal or contractual obligations.

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“We are a family.”

Nope. Run if you hear this from your boss. Unless it is referring to your actual blood relatives or friends that you choose to call your kin, the word “family” doesn’t apply to anything else. There are two kinds of people who call non-relatives “family”: toxic bosses and cult leaders. Neither one of them has your best interests in mind. Actual families don’t have the ability to lay you off, either.

If you find yourself working for a toxic boss who says any or all of those sentences, do your best to detach yourself from your work during off-hours. You can find ways to power through by exercising, meditating, or having a refreshment to “detox” after each work day while you plan, update your resume, and develop additional skills for your next job search.

What does a good boss sound like?

But how do you know when you’ve found a good boss who is worth sticking around for when the job gets tough? When might it be worth powering through? Business consultant Robert H. Johnson Jr. reached out to GOOD to provide three green flag sentences bosses say:

“It’s my responsibility as your leader to highlight your strengths, and to coach and develop your gaps.”

Johnson has a point there. Many effective leaders choose to coach their employees rather than command them. It makes it clear what your objectives are and creates a relationship in which both you and your boss know what tasks you should be allowed to thrive in and which ones might need extra attention.

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“What feedback do you have for me?”

Johnson says that this is “a simple question that many leaders can ask to create a culture of psychological safety.” In a job you care about, you’d like to know what’s working and fix what doesn’t, right? A good boss wants the same. If they are asking this question, you know that you share what’s working for you and can collaborate on a plan for things that aren’t. Having consistent feedback can only help the working relationship.

“Let’s collaborate on a plan to improve your performance, build your confidence, and ensure your success.”

Collaboration on a performance plan with your boss clearly lays out all the stakes and expectations for both you and your employer. There are no tricks, boundaries are made, and goal posts are firmly set in place. Hearing your boss say this indicates not just transparent expectations, but reassures you that your success is your boss’ success, too.

“True leaders seek to understand the people they lead,” concluded Johnson. “They’re curious about their hopes, ambitions and aspirations.”

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A handwritten notice posted at a Walmart store has gone viral, and the more people read it, the more complicated the conversation got.

The sign, photographed and shared to r/walmart by user u/grizzlypupper in April 2024, begins plainly enough: “Attention all associates. Everyone needs to only work as many hours as they are scheduled. (If you are scheduled 5 hours do not go over that.)” So far, standard retail stuff. But the notice then lists six employees by name and tells each of them to leave early to compensate for a few minutes they’d already worked over their scheduled shifts the day before. One worker was told to clock out ten minutes early. Several others were directed to shave off five minutes.

The response on social media was immediate. Some workers defended the practice as straightforward scheduling management, arguing that staying over even a few minutes without authorization creates payroll headaches. Others found the optics jarring, given that most of the workers named had gone over by less than fifteen minutes, seemingly out of dedication rather than negligence.

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But the comment that drew the most attention came from someone who identified themselves as a current Walmart employee, as reported by Distractify in their coverage of the post. According to that commenter, the notice may actually violate Walmart’s own corporate policy. “Associates can report it to the wage and hour hotline,” they wrote, “and I’m pretty sure they will have to pay out the OT. I know for such a petty amount like this it won’t make a difference on your paycheck, but it’s about the principle.”

Walmart’s own ethics page states explicitly that the company is “committed to complying fully with all applicable laws and regulations dealing with wage and hour issues, including off-the-clock work” and overtime pay. Whether a store-level manager directing employees to offset previously worked minutes crosses that line is a question workers would need to raise through official channels.

It’s not the first time Walmart has faced scrutiny over hour management. As Market Realist noted in covering the story, the Pechman Law Group has documented at least two separate lawsuits from former Walmart employees alleging the company skimped on overtime pay, in one case by allegedly adjusting time clock records manually to avoid paying the time-and-a-half rate that kicks in over 40 hours.

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Walmart has not commented publicly on the specific notice. The store location was not identified in the Reddit post.

For many workers in the comments, the frustration wasn’t about the policy itself but the execution. “When they cut our hours, it’s like one or a half an hour each day,” wrote u/Wooden_Tomato919. “Just give me a whole half day off. But that would benefit me, not them.” Another user, u/JediFed, offered a manager’s perspective: “If I need another 10 minutes to clean everything up, I should take that 10 minutes and clean everything up.”

A notice meant to manage labor costs ended up raising a question that goes a bit further than scheduling: if an employee works the time, are they owed the pay? Under the Fair Labor Standards Act, for most hourly workers, the answer is yes.

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Each year on the holiday that bears his name, Martin Luther King Jr. is remembered for his immense contributions to the struggle for racial equality. What is less often remembered but equally important is that King saw the fight for racial equality as deeply intertwined with economic justice.

To address inequality – and out of growing concern for how automation might displace workers – King became an early advocate for universal basic income. Under universal basic income, the government provides direct cash payments to all citizens to help them afford life’s expenses.

In recent years, more than a dozen U.S. cities have run universal basic income programs, often smaller or pilot programs that have offered guaranteed basic incomes to select groups of needy residents. As political scientists, we have followed these experiments closely.

One of us recently co-authored a study which found that universal basic income is generally popular. In two out of three surveys analyzed, majorities of white Americans supported a universal basic income proposal. Support is particularly high among those with low incomes.

King’s intuition was that white people with lower incomes would support this type of policy because they could also benefit from it. In 1967, King argued, “It seems to me that the Civil Rights Movement must now begin to organize for the guaranteed annual income … which I believe will go a long, long way toward dealing with the Negro’s economic problem and the economic problem with many other poor people confronting our nation.”

But there is one notable group that does not support universal basic income: those with higher levels of racial resentment. Racial resentment is a scale that social scientists have used to describe and measure anti-Black prejudice since the 1980s.

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At the same time, the results of the study also suggest that coalition building is possible, even among the racially resentful.

Economic status matters. Racially resentful whites with lower incomes tend to be supportive of universal basic income. In short, self-interest seems to trump racial resentment. This is consistent with King’s idea of how an economic coalition could be built and pave the way toward racial progress.

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Income is not the only thing that shapes attitudes, however. Some of the strongest supporters of universal basic income are those who have higher incomes but low levels of racial resentment. This suggests an opportunity to build coalitions across economic lines, something King believed was necessary. “The rich must not ignore the poor,” he argued in his Nobel Peace Prize lecture, “because both rich and poor are tied in a single garment of destiny.” Our data shows that this is possible.

This approach to coalition building is also suggested by our earlier research. Using American National Election Studies surveys from 2004-2016, we found that for white Americans, racial resentment predicted lower support for social welfare policies. But we also found that economic position mattered, too.

Economic need can unite white Americans in support of more generous welfare policies, including among some who are racially prejudiced. At a minimum, this suggests that racial resentment does not necessarily prevent white Americans from supporting policies that would also benefit Black Americans.

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During his career as an activist in the 1950s and 1960s, King struggled with building long-term, multiracial coalitions. He understood that many forms of racial prejudice could undermine his work. He therefore sought strategies that could forge alliances across lines of difference. He helped build coalitions of poor and working-class Americans, including those who are white. He was not so naive as to think that shared economic progress would eliminate racial prejudice, but he saw it as a place to start.

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Currently, the nation faces an affordability crisis, and artificial intelligence poses new threats to jobs. These factors have increased calls for universal basic income.

Racial prejudice continues to fuel opposition to universal basic income, as well as other forms of social welfare. But our research suggests that this is not insurmountable.

As King knew, progress toward economic equality is not inevitable. But, as his legacy reminds us, progress does remain possible through organizing around shared interests.

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1. Wiping with dry paper The concept of chopping down forests to dry-wipe our bodies baffled many users.
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7. Medical bankruptcy The idea that getting sick could make you homeless is a concept many hope will be extinct.
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12. Fast fashion The cycle of buying cheap clothes to wear once and throw away was called out by u/rabbity_devotee for filling landfills and exploiting labor.
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14. Child influencers Putting children on the internet for profit before they can consent was a major ethical concern.
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