In our week-long series, Now and Then, GOOD writers each choose a beloved piece of pop culture from back in the day and pit it against its modern-day equivalent, with a fresh pair of adult eyes. May the best zeitgeist win.

I was 11 when Snoop Dogg’s first album, Doggystyle, came out. That was gangsta rap’s heyday, when MTV still played music videos by people like Snoop, Dr. Dre, Warren G, and the Dogg Pound Gangstaz, much to the dismay of my mother. At that time my mom was a principal at a middle school serving mostly low-income minorities in Tucson, Arizona. For her, gangs and the violence they wrought were an everyday reality, not entertainment. When I asked her if she’d buy me Doggystyle in a Wherehouse music store one afternoon, it was as if I’d asked her to buy me crack or a switchblade. “Absolutely not!” she gasped. That day, I had to make do with Digable Planets.


It turned out that Digable Planets were actually pretty great, and I listened to “Rebirth of Slick” on repeat until my Discman broke. Nevertheless, my illicit love for the foulmouthed Doggfather remained, and years later, when I stopped relying on my parents for all my money, I bought Doggystyle.

If you’re a rap fan, you know Doggystyle is a great record. And even if you’re not a rap fan, if you grew up in the ‘90s, chances are you nodded your head at least once to a Doggystyle hit: “Gin and Juice,” “Murder Was the Case,” “Doggy Dogg World,” “Tha Shiznit,” “Who Am I (What’s My Name)?”—practically every song sounded engineered to be played loudly in a teenager’s first car, with Wendy’s wrappers crunching underneath tapping feet. My favorite, however, was “Ain’t No Fun (If the Homies Can’t Have None).”

Ever ridden in your gross older brother’s car? Ever been to a beer-drenched frat party? Ever played lacrosse? If you’ve ever done any of those things, or their approximations, it’s very likely you’ve encountered “Ain’t No Fun.” The 12th track on Doggystyle, “Ain’t No Fun” stands out as the most misogynistic song on the record; quite the feat for an album that also contains “Gz Up, Hoes Down.” The song begins with Nate Dogg singing, “When I met you last night baby/ Before you opened up your gap/ I had respect for you lady/ But now I take it all back.” And things only get worse from there.

Like teenagers shouting at a movie screen, “Ain’t No Fun” is collaborative derision, with several members of “The Dogg Pound” chiming in to share their distaste for “bitches.” Kurupt raps that he doesn’t give a fuck about women because they always want his money. Snoop advises everyone to not trust hoes, who have a tendency to “get scandalous” and “pull voodoo.” Warren G says all women need to give him oral sex immediately. The chorus anchoring each verse is simple: “It ain’t no fun if the homies can’t have none.” Translation: “I don’t like having sex with women unless all my friends get to have sex with them, too.”

Putting it all to paper nowadays makes it sound pretty revolting. I was less shocked when I was dancing to “Ain’t No Fun” in college, bourbon staining my shirt and much of the floor around me. Back then, shouting along to misogynistic, homophobic, violent rap lyrics was as normal as trying to drink three beers in 30 seconds. That is to say, normal for my college experience, but certainly not smart or thoughtful.

When I moved to Los Angeles late last year, several years after graduating college, I started listening to a band named Odd Future, led by a charismatic teenager who called himself Tyler, the Creator. A few months later Tyler and his group would be household names, but when I found them they were little more than a small cadre of L.A. kids trying to make it big in hip hop—probably not too unlike Snoop Dogg and his friends two decades ago. I liked Odd Future’s dirty beats and interesting rhyme patterns, and I liked the DIY ethic they seemed to bring to their music. But then I paid attention to the lyrics.

On one Odd Future song, the lyrics describe Taylor Swift getting kidnapped and held hostage. On another, Tyler says he won’t wear a mask to attack a woman because “I want the ho to know it’s me.” On another, Earl Sweatshirt, probably the most talented rapper in Odd Future, says he’d like to feed acid to a woman before taping her mouth shut and putting her in the trunk of his car. The rape fantasies abound and all women are “bitches,” some of them were even deserving of death.

I tried my best to listen to Odd Future anyway. I tried to enjoy the music behind the lyrics and the complex, indirect rhyme schemes. I tried to appreciate the group’s energy. I tried to cheer on their abhorrence of music industry convention. But eventually all my thoughts came back to the fact that, to really listen to Odd Future, I’d have to listen to lots of songs about raping and murdering women. Did I want to be almost 30 and listening to a kid scream “Bitch, suck dick!” on a song of the same name? I thought of my mom. I decided Odd Future wasn’t for me.

Why was I so into “Ain’t No Fun” but now can’t tolerate Odd Future’s woman-hating? I’ve stopped turning off my brain when I listen to music. One of the greatest things about music is that it doesn’t really ask you to think. People call it the universal language because so much of it is about how it makes you feel. When I was younger, it was easy to separate my physical impulses from my mind—Snoop sounded fun and made me feel fun, so I screamed Snoop. Nowadays I know women who have been raped. I know women who have been beaten up by men. I know women who have suffered true humiliation at the hands of guys who thought they were nothing but bitches. In New York, I once saw a guy shove a woman into traffic during an argument. Violence and misogyny are no longer musical devices to me; they’re real problems that make the world a truly worse place.

Sometimes I wish I could go back to the days when it was easy to enjoy a Snoop song about treating women like garbage, but I can’t. As much as I’m glad there was a time when I found joy in stupidity, I’m twice as happy that I now know you shouldn’t lose respect for a woman because she has sex with you, as Nate Dogg would have had me believe. I sold my copy of Doggystyle to Amoeba Records years ago. I’ve still got that Digable Planets album, though.

  • How couples divide chores may shape sexual desire in ways you wouldn’t expect
    Photo credit: CanvaPeople cleaning at home.

    As many couples aim for more equal partnerships, dividing responsibilities isn’t always straightforward. In households where both partners work full-time, figuring out how to share chores has become an important part of maintaining balance at home.

    A new study published in The Journal of Sex Research examined whether couples dividing household chores is linked to a woman’s sexual desire. The researchers found that the relationship between the division of household labor and sexual desire varies based on beliefs about gender roles.

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    A couple cleans together.
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    Household labor balanced against sexual desire

    This pattern has long been explained in narrow ways. Low sexual desire among women in long-term relationships is often treated as an individual issue: stress, relationship dissatisfaction, or hormonal changes. Instead, this study examined a broader social dynamic: how work is divided at home compared to perceptions of what that balance should look like.

    Focusing on two different survey samples, the researchers found that women generally reported lower sexual desire than men while also indicating that they perform more household labor than their male partners. Mothers who took on a greater share of household responsibilities reported the lowest levels of sexual interest.

    The study also examined the impact of benevolent sexism, which refers to beliefs that reinforce traditional gender roles, such as women as caregivers and men as providers. A couple’s attachment to these beliefs significantly influences how household labor and sexual desire are connected.

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    A woman is cleaning while her child plays.
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    Belief systems sway the balance of sexual motivation

    Women who held more egalitarian beliefs and preferred equal partnerships reported the highest levels of sexual desire when chores were split evenly. But when they found themselves doing a greater share of the household labor, they reported the lowest levels of sexual motivation.

    For women who endorsed more traditional gender roles, the pattern was different. In those cases, taking on more household responsibilities was not associated with the same decrease in sexual desire.

    Leading the research was Alexandra Liepmann, a PhD student in the Department of Psychology and Neuroscience at the University of Colorado Boulder. “Although women who endorse more traditional gender roles may not experience these costs in their sexual desire for their partner when doing more household labor, they may still experience costs in their personal and professional lives,” Liepmann told PsyPost.

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    Studies that connect the dots

    Adding to the evidence of this imbalance was a 2023 study focused on the distribution of household labor. It found that many relationships still adhere to unequal standards for women’s responsibilities compared to men’s.

    Another 2023 study found that women’s sexual desire tends to be more sensitive to the context of a relationship, particularly how things are going at home. This supports the idea that a woman’s perception of expected equality can affect her level of desire.

    Taken together, these findings indicate that household labor and beliefs about fairness may directly affect sexual desire for some women. Couples who divide chores more evenly may experience better intimacy outcomes regardless of their personal beliefs about gender roles and responsibilities.

  • Air Force graduate tears up when friend steps in to ‘tap him out’ during graduation
    Photo credit: CanvaA lone soldier and friends celebrating.

    Sometimes the biggest moments in our lives might slip by unnoticed. That’s exactly what was happening to Airman Joel Usher. At his United States Air Force graduation ceremony, he stood alone, already knowing that no family members were coming to celebrate the occasion.

    Many people know what it feels like to hit a major milestone and wish someone were there. Usher was visibly emotional as fellow graduates reunited with cheering family members. Suddenly, a friend he made during training stepped forward. Phone in hand, recording the moment, he walked up to “tap him out.”

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    1 year ago today. it’s been a journey man still can’t believe i’ve made it this far but is only the beginning more blessing to come💫#fypシ #militarytapout #explorepage

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    A teary-eyed moment defined by friendship

    Caught completely off guard, a teary-eyed Usher smiles, turning what could have been a lonely memory into one defined by friendship. He posted the video on TikTok with a title overlay reading, “i had no one at my graduation to tap me out but that one good friend i met during training found me and come through for me…”

    At military graduations, there’s a tradition known as “tapping out.” Family members or close supporters step forward at the end of the ceremony to officially greet and escort the graduates away. According to the AF WingMoms, it can be an emotional experience, but the Air Force views its military purpose as a productive way to maintain orderly disbursement.

    An overwhelming gesture

    In an exclusive interview with People, Usher described how important that kind act was, leaving him holding back tears:

    “When my friend tapped me out, I was overwhelmed in the best way possible. It wasn’t just about finishing, it was about having someone there who truly had my back in that moment.”

    Usher went on to explain that the achievement was important, but the friendship and support shown to him are what he remembers most. After sharing the moment online, he was surprised by all the feedback. He believes the overwhelming response was a strong reminder of the beauty behind meaningful acts of kindness.

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    TikTok post resonates

    After 4.6 million views, people flooded the comments with emotional reactions. For some, the small gesture perfectly captured the kind of bond people form while going through difficult experiences together. This wasn’t a performative moment—just someone refusing to let another person experience an important occasion alone.

    For others, it was heartbreaking. Often, soldiers don’t have family members who are able to make the trip, or they find themselves on a solitary journey. Either way, the idea that people can accomplish something amazing and still be left to stand alone afterward can be difficult to swallow.

    Here are some of the comments:

    “i’m glad you made a good friend along the way who came looking for ya. those are the meaningful connections you make while in the military”

    “now this just broke my heart”

    “Those teary eyes”

    “This just breaks my heart! Everyone should have someone tap them out. So much respect for the military”

    “The pain in bros eyes. Went to my soul. Brother we are here for u! Ty for serving”

    “sometimes thats all we need! Just one good friend”

    “I’m so sorry no one from your bloodline was there for you in that moment but you have all of TikTok cheering you on and we are so proud of your accomplishments”

    “Ex military that tap means more than you think.”

    “i really wish they had a volunteer program for something like this… let other mamas and dads come and be there for these young men and women.. we never know how bad they just need SOMEONE to be there for them”

    “Been there my man. But you’re going to be an amazing soldier. Use that to be the best you can be”

    The mix of responses shows why meaningful moments shouldn’t be faced alone. Friendship and community are defined by simple choices: stepping in, showing up, and refusing to let a proud day also become someone’s loneliest. These small acts turn milestone accomplishments into memories carried forward with a tearful, joyful smile.

  • 59% of Americans worry about sunscreen chemicals. Only 32% understand how sunscreen works.
    Two persons applying sunscreen while sitting on a beach.

    Tiffany Miller for Melanoma Research Alliance

    Many Americans think of sunscreen at the beach. Fewer consider wearing it for the drive there. And many are questioning if they should wear sunscreen at all.

    These trends, uncovered in a new national survey from the nonprofit Melanoma Research Alliance (MRA), highlight a central challenge in skin cancer prevention.

    Skin cancer is the most common form of cancer in the United States, according to the CDC. Nine in 10 skin cancers, including melanoma, are linked to exposure to ultraviolet (UV) radiation, according to the MRA. Reducing exposure to UV radiation lowers the risk of skin cancer, making sunscreen a key part of prevention.

    A survey of 2,000 adults found that most Americans have a basic understanding of the risks of sun exposure, but that awareness doesn’t always translate into action. More than 8 in 10 recognize that spending long hours in the sun contributes to melanoma risk, yet roughly one-quarter say they rarely or never use sunscreen when spending time outdoors.

    Then there are those everyday moments that most people don’t recognize as risky. The light coming through the window over the sink. The short walk from the parking lot. The hour in the bleachers with the sun hitting one side of your face. A single sunburn can be dangerous, but it’s the accumulation of exposure over time that often drives risk.

    Sunscreen is widely recognized as an effective tool for skin cancer prevention, yet confusion and misinformation persist, especially on social media. Fifty-three percent of respondents say they have seen claims that sunscreen ingredients may be harmful. Fifty-nine percent say they are concerned about what’s in sunscreen, and 38% don’t believe sunscreen is safe and effective.

    An infographic on Melanoma Research Alliance's surveys on sunscreen facts and usage.

    Many Americans also say they aren’t sure how sunscreen works. Only about a third can correctly explain the difference between types of sunscreens, while a much larger share reports being unsure.

    Sunscreen works by absorbing or blocking UV radiation from reaching the skin, preventing DNA damage that can cause skin cancer. In the United States, the active ingredients in sunscreen undergo rigorous review by the Food and Drug Administration, which evaluates them as over-the-counter drugs. This drug-level standard requires extensive testing and contributes to a more limited set of approved UV filters compared with Europe, where sunscreens are regulated as cosmetics. The FDA is currently evaluating additional methodologies for assessing sunscreen ingredients, a process that could expand the number of approved UV filters available to U.S. consumers.

    All of this is unfolding during a period of real progress in melanoma research. While melanoma remains the deadliest form of skin cancer, more than 8,500 Americans are expected to die from it in 2026, roughly one person every hour, according to the American Cancer Society. Recent advances are improving outcomes for many patients with advanced disease, though approximately 50% of patients do not respond to current treatments, according to MRA, underscoring why prevention and early detection remain critical.

    Survey methodology: The Melanoma Research Alliance commissioned Atomik Research to conduct an online survey of 2,000 U.S. adults between March 27 and April 1, 2026. The sample is nationally representative based on gender, age, and geography. Margin of error: ±2 percentage points at a 95% confidence level. Atomik Research, part of 4media group, is a creative market research agency.

    This story was produced by Melanoma Research Alliance and reviewed and distributed by Stacker.

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