Thanks to the public testimony of Sharon Bialek, we have a sharper idea of the sexual harassment allegations lodged against Republican presidential candidate Herman Cain by a string of female acquaintances and employees over the past several decades. But in the nine days since the allegations first surfaced, our wider cultural understanding of sexual harassment has only clouded.

What is sexual harassment? Who decides? Commentators have been busy drawing up their own definitions. Forbes‘ Richard Miniter called sexual harassment “a broad range of things” encompassing everything from “If you want that promotion you must sleep with me” to “Nice earrings.” It was not sexual harassment when Fox News analyst Bob Beckel “threw a candy corn down my dress yesterday, and I didn’t sue,” fellow commentator Andrea Tantaros has decided. Sean Hannity told Ann Coulter that sexual harassment constitutes “the conversations and the things we joke about on a regular basis.” Kentucky Congressman Rand Paul said that he now avoids telling “a joke to a woman in the workplace, any kind of joke, because it could be interpreted incorrectly.” To conservative political commentator Laura Ingraham, sexual harassment is a woman willing to say she was “so offended” in exchange for a paycheck. David Brooks is not entirely sure whether consensual sex constitutes sexual harassment. The National Review‘s John Derbyshire believes that sexual harassment does not exist. “I do have a sense of humor,” Cain said in his own defense, “and some people have a problem with that.”


This is no longer just about Cain and what he did or did not do—it’s about what men like John Derbyshire, Bob Beckel, and Rand Paul are allowed to get away with in the office. The conversation surrounding the Cain allegations has centered on the idea that sexual harassment is a matter of a woman’s perception—and if harassment is determined exclusively in each woman’s mind, it would take just one humorless brat, hypersensitive underling, or lying gold-digger to ruin a good man’s career.

In fact, a woman’s perception is hardly central to a legal sexual harassment claim. The Equal Employment Opportunity Commission recognizes two forms of workplace sexual harassment that can inspire a discrimination claim. The first is “quid pro quo” harassment, in which unwelcome sexual conduct is “used as the basis for employment decisions” affecting the employee. (For example, if an employee is “coerced into submitting to unwelcome sexual advances in return for a job benefit”). The second is “hostile environment,” where the unwelcome sexual conduct does not directly affect hiring and firing decisions, but nevertheless “unreasonably interfer[es] with an individual’s job performance” or creates an “intimidating, hostile, or offensive working environment.”

Quid pro quo cases often come down to a determination of fact—they are decided based on whether the jury “believes what’s being alleged actually happened,” says D.C. attorney and sexual harassment law expert Lynne Bernabei. A hostile work environment case, on the other hand, does hinge on perception—just not the victim’s. “A sexually hostile work environment is much harder to prove, because you have to establish that the harassment is severe or pervasive,” says Bernabei. In most courts, “you have to have a lot of incidents, sexually charged remarks, and negative comments about women to prove severe or pervasive sexual harassment.” Adds Bernabei, “it’s rarely a single event that creates a hostile work environment claim, except in the case of an attempted rape or a rape.”

The hostile work environment calculation—Do the incidents constitute “harassment”? Are they bad enough to be considered “severe”? Did they happen long enough to be “pervasive”?—is the work of judges and juries, not victims. Courts typically make that determination based on the perception of a “reasonable person.” Due to the history of gender-based violence and lopsided power structures in the American workplace, some courts have gone further to establish a “reasonable woman” standard to guide juries. “When you look at the reasonable person in the plaintiff’s position, sometimes you have to look at the ‘reasonable woman’ because women will experience actions differently than men,” Bernabei says.

But the “reasonable woman” is not your office’s especially humorless, sensitive, or money-hungry woman. In many cases, the judges and juries imagining how a “reasonable woman” would perceive sexual harassment are, in fact, men.

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  • Man’s dog suddenly becomes protective of his wife, Internet clocks the reason right away
    Dogs have impressive observational powers.Photo credit: Canva

    Reddit user Girlfriendhatesmefor’s three-year-old pitbull, Otis, had recently become overprotective of his wife. So he asked the online community if they knew what might be wrong with the dog.

    “A week or two ago, my wife got some sort of stomach bug,” the Reddit user wrote under the subreddit /r/dogs. “She was really nauseous and ill for about a week. Otis is very in tune with her emotions (we once got in a fight and she was upset, I swear he was staring daggers at me lol) and during this time didn’t even want to leave her to go on walks. We thought it was adorable!”

    His wife soon felt better, butthe dog’s behavior didn’t change.

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    Girlfriendhatesmefor began to fear that Otis’ behavior may be an early sign of an aggression issue or an indication that the dog was hurt or sick.

    So he threw a question out to fellow Reddit users: “Has anyone else’s dog suddenly developed attachment/aggression issues? Any and all advice appreciated, even if it’s that we’re being paranoid!”

    The most popular response to his thread was by ZZBC.

    Any chance your wife is pregnant?

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    The potential news hit Girlfriendhatesmefor like a ton of bricks. A few days later, Girlfriendhatesmefor posted an update and ZZBC was right!

    “The wifey is pregnant!” the father-to-be wrote. “Otis is still being overprotective but it all makes sense now! Thanks for all the advice and kind words! Sorry for the delayed reply, I didn’t check back until just now!”

    Redditors responded with similar experiences.

    Anecdotal I know but I swear my dog knew I was pregnant before I was. He was super clingy (more than normal) and was always resting his head on my belly.

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    So why do dogs get overprotective when someone is pregnant?

    Jeff Werber, PhD, president and chief veterinarian of the Century Veterinary Group in Los Angeles, told Health.com that “dogs can also smell the hormonal changes going on in a woman’s body at that time.” He added the dog may “not understand that this new scent of your skin and breath is caused by a developing baby, but they will know that something is different with you—which might cause them to be more curious or attentive.”

    The big lesson here is to listen to your pets and to ask questions when their behavior abruptly changes. They may be trying to tell you something, and the news may be life-changing.

    This article originally appeared last year.

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