Twenty-plus years of work around values-driven leadership development led me to conclude that too often we are asking the wrong questions in our business-ethics programs, our sustainable-business programs, and our executive-leadership training. We spend most of our time asking “What is the right thing to do?” and figuring out whether or not it can be done, and not enough of our time asking “How can I get the right thing done?”

There are lots of reasons for this focus, and some of them make a lot of sense. It’s true that there are often times when the “right” course of action is not entirely clear. But there are also many times when we do know what is right, and when we just don’t believe it’s possible to get it done. Shouldn’t we be spending at least some of our time trying to answer this question of “action,” as opposed to focusing exclusively on the question of “analysis”?

This recognition was the impetus for the development of a pioneering approach to values-driven leadership development, “Giving Voice To Values.” GVV was launched with the Aspen Institute as the incubator and founding partner along with Yale. It is now funded and housed by Babson College. Featured in Harvard Business Review, Financial Times, strategy+business, Stanford Social Innovation Review, and many others, GVV has been piloted in well over 100 schools and organizations on six continents.

My conversations with business practitioners at all levels, uncovered a set of principles that can help us to ask and answer the question “How can I voice my values effectively?” In order to do that more positively we address myths that make it more difficult to do fulfill that goal. Here are a couple of those myths:

Myth One: You need a bullet-proof argument to raise your values in the workplace.
Often we are acutely aware of all the arguments we may encounter if we voice our values in the workplace: This is just standard practice and everyone in our industry expects it; the market has already discounted for this behavior; if we change this, our colleagues will pay the price; it’s not material; and so on. And too often these arguments serve as preemptive rationalizations, leading us to stop looking for alternative ways of acting before we even start. And we believe that unless we had a magic response to all of these reasons and rationalizations, we can’t even raise our concerns.

But the fact is that individuals who voice and enact their values do not necessarily need to have unassailable arguments, any more than the rationalizations they wish to counter are unassailable either. The fact is, there are indeed convincing responses to each of the common objections and they are learnable. We just need to make sure that our values-driven positions are articulately and clearly expressed, so that they can be part of the conversation.

Myth Two: You have to be “in charge” to voice your values.
When we spoke to lower-level employees, they would often say “I can’t voice my values until I am the boss, and therefore have more power, influence, authority and credibility.” But when we spoke to more senior employees, they often said “This would be easier if I were more junior in the organization. I would not have so many folks depending on me and my risks would be lower.” But despite the fact that there are excuses for NOT speaking at any level, there are also folks who do speak and act, at every level of the organization. The trick is to recognize that the levers available to us and the most effective strategies are different. Someone lower in the organization can position him or herself as a “learner,” asking the crucial questions that help to raise risks. And someone higher in the organization can model a willingness to change his or her mind, to learn in public, and to even pay a short term price for longer term commitments.

There are other “myths” of course, like “I cannot voice my values if I’m a risk-averse person” or “I don’t have a real choice to voice my values.” And there are many ways to frame values conflicts that will make it more feasible for us to act positively. I have been collecting stories of individuals who voiced their values effectively in their jobs, and of tactics that helped them be successful. And I invite you to share your own stories, because the greatest myth is the one that says “Most people don’t want to do this.” In my work, I find many, many individuals who do, in fact, want to voice and enact their values and who want to become more effective at doing so. I invite you to join this conversation.

Mary C. Gentile PhD is the author of Giving Voice To Values: How To Speak Your Mind When You Know What’s Right (Yale University Press 2010), and is director of Giving Voice To Values, Babson College.

  • Man’s dog suddenly becomes protective of his wife, Internet clocks the reason right away
    Dogs have impressive observational powers.Photo credit: Canva

    Reddit user Girlfriendhatesmefor’s three-year-old pitbull, Otis, had recently become overprotective of his wife. So he asked the online community if they knew what might be wrong with the dog.

    “A week or two ago, my wife got some sort of stomach bug,” the Reddit user wrote under the subreddit /r/dogs. “She was really nauseous and ill for about a week. Otis is very in tune with her emotions (we once got in a fight and she was upset, I swear he was staring daggers at me lol) and during this time didn’t even want to leave her to go on walks. We thought it was adorable!”

    His wife soon felt better, butthe dog’s behavior didn’t change.

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    Otis knew before they did. Canva

    Girlfriendhatesmefor began to fear that Otis’ behavior may be an early sign of an aggression issue or an indication that the dog was hurt or sick.

    So he threw a question out to fellow Reddit users: “Has anyone else’s dog suddenly developed attachment/aggression issues? Any and all advice appreciated, even if it’s that we’re being paranoid!”

    The most popular response to his thread was by ZZBC.

    Any chance your wife is pregnant?

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    The potential news hit Girlfriendhatesmefor like a ton of bricks. A few days later, Girlfriendhatesmefor posted an update and ZZBC was right!

    “The wifey is pregnant!” the father-to-be wrote. “Otis is still being overprotective but it all makes sense now! Thanks for all the advice and kind words! Sorry for the delayed reply, I didn’t check back until just now!”

    Redditors responded with similar experiences.

    Anecdotal I know but I swear my dog knew I was pregnant before I was. He was super clingy (more than normal) and was always resting his head on my belly.

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    So why do dogs get overprotective when someone is pregnant?

    Jeff Werber, PhD, president and chief veterinarian of the Century Veterinary Group in Los Angeles, told Health.com that “dogs can also smell the hormonal changes going on in a woman’s body at that time.” He added the dog may “not understand that this new scent of your skin and breath is caused by a developing baby, but they will know that something is different with you—which might cause them to be more curious or attentive.”

    The big lesson here is to listen to your pets and to ask questions when their behavior abruptly changes. They may be trying to tell you something, and the news may be life-changing.

    This article originally appeared last year.

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