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When it comes to having an opinion and finding an audience to hear it, humans have been looking for a good venue since the dawn of time. One effective way rumored to have started in 16th century Italy was to hold salons. These intimate forums were a meeting place for people to gather and discuss topics ranging from poetry and literature to politics and philosophy. Salons picked up steam in the drawing rooms of France in the 17th and 18th century when people gathered to talk about the most exciting issues of the day. In the 21st century, discussions are still going strong around the globe, be they salons or their modern day descendants: book clubs, knitting groups, poker games and supper clubs. Here’s how to get one started—and running strong.


Salons

Kathy Hamill was intrigued when her mother introduced her to salons in the 70s. Flash forward to 1998, when Hamill and her husband got the itch to start a salon in their Elgin, Illinois home. Explains Hamill, “It was an alternative entertainment form to things that are on screens.”

To get the word out, they ran ads in local papers. The night of their first salon, they expected a handful of people. Thirty-seven complete strangers arrived. “We sat on the step and bit our nails for a few minutes,” Kathy recalls.

Thirteen years later, their member roster has grown to more than 230, with people arriving from as far away as Ireland. Their numbers now expand through word-of-mouth, which they found to be the most effective advertising. The salon’s members are a diverse group of all ages and walks of life. Hamill credits this diversity for the salon’s success. “Many salons perish because they’re too homogenous.”

Elgin Salon’s structure is simple. Alerted by Hamill via email, the group meets every six weeks. Elgin Saloners discuss everything from fear and courage to ideal political systems and effective aphrodisiacs. “Subjects that are a little idiosyncratic, funny or odd usually work best,” recommends Hamill. And though there’s a stretch of three hours set aside for these discussions, guests tend to linger late into the night chatting. Hamill doesn’t mind. “I’m really glad I followed my whim,” she says. “The salon has been a joy and increased our circle of friends.”

Got a few ideas to share? Chances are, there’s a salon within driving radius. An easy search on Meetup, Facebook, Twitter, or other social media sites, can turn up a wealth of opportunities like Mindshare LA and Conversation Café. Looking for something more intimate? A book club might be just the ticket…

Book Clubs

Chance encounters and tenuous connections. That’s how easily Fiona Thompson says Book Clubs can come together. Years ago, she joined a reading group in Los Angeles. Upon moving to Portland, Oregon, she decided to seek out a new group with which to share her reading interests. Resources from the newspaper and library turned up groups, as did Goodreads, which also provided tools for starting a group. Thompson ultimately settled on a group recommended by a neighbor. Of her book club love, Thompson says, “For me, it’s a creative outlet and a night out with all my girlfriends.”

Thompson credits structure for the success of the book clubs she’s attended. She’s found having a group email list along with an appointed secretary to corral the troops integral. Most often, meetings rotate between members’ homes, with the host choosing the book to be read that month. Dinner is generally part of the mix, often coordinated with the read. As for adding a dinner guest to the mix, more than 24,000 authors are registered through Goodreads alone. Why not invite one to dinner? What better way to get a conversation started?

Read more about how to get involved in your neighborhood in the GOOD Guide to Your Community.

  • Man’s dog suddenly becomes protective of his wife, Internet clocks the reason right away
    Dogs have impressive observational powers.Photo credit: Canva

    Reddit user Girlfriendhatesmefor’s three-year-old pitbull, Otis, had recently become overprotective of his wife. So he asked the online community if they knew what might be wrong with the dog.

    “A week or two ago, my wife got some sort of stomach bug,” the Reddit user wrote under the subreddit /r/dogs. “She was really nauseous and ill for about a week. Otis is very in tune with her emotions (we once got in a fight and she was upset, I swear he was staring daggers at me lol) and during this time didn’t even want to leave her to go on walks. We thought it was adorable!”

    His wife soon felt better, butthe dog’s behavior didn’t change.

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    Girlfriendhatesmefor began to fear that Otis’ behavior may be an early sign of an aggression issue or an indication that the dog was hurt or sick.

    So he threw a question out to fellow Reddit users: “Has anyone else’s dog suddenly developed attachment/aggression issues? Any and all advice appreciated, even if it’s that we’re being paranoid!”

    The most popular response to his thread was by ZZBC.

    Any chance your wife is pregnant?

    ZZBC | Reddit

    The potential news hit Girlfriendhatesmefor like a ton of bricks. A few days later, Girlfriendhatesmefor posted an update and ZZBC was right!

    “The wifey is pregnant!” the father-to-be wrote. “Otis is still being overprotective but it all makes sense now! Thanks for all the advice and kind words! Sorry for the delayed reply, I didn’t check back until just now!”

    Redditors responded with similar experiences.

    Anecdotal I know but I swear my dog knew I was pregnant before I was. He was super clingy (more than normal) and was always resting his head on my belly.

    realityisworse | Reddit

    So why do dogs get overprotective when someone is pregnant?

    Jeff Werber, PhD, president and chief veterinarian of the Century Veterinary Group in Los Angeles, told Health.com that “dogs can also smell the hormonal changes going on in a woman’s body at that time.” He added the dog may “not understand that this new scent of your skin and breath is caused by a developing baby, but they will know that something is different with you—which might cause them to be more curious or attentive.”

    The big lesson here is to listen to your pets and to ask questions when their behavior abruptly changes. They may be trying to tell you something, and the news may be life-changing.

    This article originally appeared last year.

  • Throughout history, women have stood up and fought to break down barriers imposed on them from stereotypes and societal expectations. The trailblazers in these photos made history and redefined what a woman could be. In doing so, they paved the way for future generations to stand up and continue to fight for equality.

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    Why mass shootings spawn conspiracy theories

    Mass shootings and conspiracy theories have a long history.

    While conspiracy theories are not limited to any topic, there is one type of event that seems particularly likely to spark them: mass shootings, typically defined as attacks in which a shooter kills at least four other people.

    When one person kills many others in a single incident, particularly when it seems random, people naturally seek out answers for why the tragedy happened. After all, if a mass shooting is random, anyone can be a target.

    Pointing to some nefarious plan by a powerful group – such as the government – can be more comforting than the idea that the attack was the result of a disturbed or mentally ill individual who obtained a firearm legally.


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