Gay in America
, a new book of portraits by New York City photographer Scott Pasfield, calls itself an “enlightening look into the variety of gay life in the United States” that reflects “the same beautiful diversity found in any sampling of our population.” Gawker hailed the book as “a real picture of what today’s gay world is like” in “all its butch, femme, urban, rural, single, coupled, smiling, and struggling richness.”

So why are all the photos of dudes?


Gay in America features 140 faces from all 50 states and the District of Columbia. They are famous and unknown, black and white, masculine and feminine, dolled up and dressed down, and posed with planes and tiaras. But none of them are women. In April, GLAAD posed the question [PDF]: “Why gay men?” Pasfield’s response:

That goes back to shooting what I am, and what I know. I originally thought that I would like to try and shoot men and women from every state, but I really think that a woman, or a lesbian, has to go out and do that project, to make it as strong, to be one of them, as this project is for me and gay men.

Busting stereotypes and widening opportunities for gay men is an important goal. But this book is titled Gay in America—not Gay Men in America. Though Pasfied is clear that the project is by and for gay men, he also hopes to situate the book as a definitive resource for gays in general—and straight people, too. “I want the book to be an introduction to gay people,” Pasfield told GLAAD. “I hope it is a spokesperson for the gay community.” (Pasfield’s PR rep declined to comment).

The contradiction speaks to the difficulty of navigating inequality as a gay man. While giving voice to a diverse group of gay men is a radical notion, delegating men to represent all genders is just more of the same. Queer activist Miriam Zoila Perez told me she identifies with the term gay “as an umbrella term” more closely than she does to “lesbian.” But outsiders don’t always see her as central to the gay community as men are. Perez pointed me to an online dictionary definition of “gay” that illustrates the divide: “a homosexual person, especially a male.”

And gay life in America has often been perceived as “especially” male. As Americans began to identify as gay, gay men “may have been more publicly visible in the community, and more out in early generations of it,” Perez says, while “lesbians weren’t so much as mentioned in the public sphere.” Asking gay women to make themselves visible with their own photographic collection, while well-meaning, doesn’t address those structural inequalities that persist within the gay community today.

Of course, even a book that highlighted both gay men and women would only represent a corner of the queer universe, which include peoples of varying gender and sexual identities that don’t necessarily fall into simple categories like male/female and gay/straight. “I don’t know that any project would ever feel completely representative,” Perez told me. But a little more transparency would be nice. “The title has an ambiguity. You expect to see yourself in there, and you’re not.”

Photo by KLHint, Creative Commons Attribution License 2.0.

  • Man’s dog suddenly becomes protective of his wife, Internet clocks the reason right away
    Dogs have impressive observational powers.Photo credit: Canva

    Reddit user Girlfriendhatesmefor’s three-year-old pitbull, Otis, had recently become overprotective of his wife. So he asked the online community if they knew what might be wrong with the dog.

    “A week or two ago, my wife got some sort of stomach bug,” the Reddit user wrote under the subreddit /r/dogs. “She was really nauseous and ill for about a week. Otis is very in tune with her emotions (we once got in a fight and she was upset, I swear he was staring daggers at me lol) and during this time didn’t even want to leave her to go on walks. We thought it was adorable!”

    His wife soon felt better, butthe dog’s behavior didn’t change.

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    Otis knew before they did. Canva

    Girlfriendhatesmefor began to fear that Otis’ behavior may be an early sign of an aggression issue or an indication that the dog was hurt or sick.

    So he threw a question out to fellow Reddit users: “Has anyone else’s dog suddenly developed attachment/aggression issues? Any and all advice appreciated, even if it’s that we’re being paranoid!”

    The most popular response to his thread was by ZZBC.

    Any chance your wife is pregnant?

    ZZBC | Reddit

    The potential news hit Girlfriendhatesmefor like a ton of bricks. A few days later, Girlfriendhatesmefor posted an update and ZZBC was right!

    “The wifey is pregnant!” the father-to-be wrote. “Otis is still being overprotective but it all makes sense now! Thanks for all the advice and kind words! Sorry for the delayed reply, I didn’t check back until just now!”

    Redditors responded with similar experiences.

    Anecdotal I know but I swear my dog knew I was pregnant before I was. He was super clingy (more than normal) and was always resting his head on my belly.

    realityisworse | Reddit

    So why do dogs get overprotective when someone is pregnant?

    Jeff Werber, PhD, president and chief veterinarian of the Century Veterinary Group in Los Angeles, told Health.com that “dogs can also smell the hormonal changes going on in a woman’s body at that time.” He added the dog may “not understand that this new scent of your skin and breath is caused by a developing baby, but they will know that something is different with you—which might cause them to be more curious or attentive.”

    The big lesson here is to listen to your pets and to ask questions when their behavior abruptly changes. They may be trying to tell you something, and the news may be life-changing.

    This article originally appeared last year.

  • Throughout history, women have stood up and fought to break down barriers imposed on them from stereotypes and societal expectations. The trailblazers in these photos made history and redefined what a woman could be. In doing so, they paved the way for future generations to stand up and continue to fight for equality.

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    Why mass shootings spawn conspiracy theories

    Mass shootings and conspiracy theories have a long history.

    While conspiracy theories are not limited to any topic, there is one type of event that seems particularly likely to spark them: mass shootings, typically defined as attacks in which a shooter kills at least four other people.

    When one person kills many others in a single incident, particularly when it seems random, people naturally seek out answers for why the tragedy happened. After all, if a mass shooting is random, anyone can be a target.

    Pointing to some nefarious plan by a powerful group – such as the government – can be more comforting than the idea that the attack was the result of a disturbed or mentally ill individual who obtained a firearm legally.


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