Increasingly, Americans are feeling burned out. One of the major contributing factors is that we have a hard time “turning off” when we should. Whether you’re working from the office or at home, work can creep into your off-hours through emails, texts, Slack notifications, etc. Even if your work has guardrails in place to keep work separate from personal life, many people still struggle to transition from “work mode” to “rest of life mode.” If this sounds like you, you may want to consider adopting or creating a “shutdown ritual” that tells your brain and your body that it’s time to clock out.

“One of the trends that is a repeated refrain, if most so in work-from-home environments, is that work creeps into life,” HR professional and business consultant Charly Huang of AceBallMarkers.com tells GOOD. “Without an end-of-commute signal that it is ‘end of day,’ that laptop becomes a date to dinner, and those emails creep into family time. Gradually, that is a fast track to burnout.”

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Whats more important than getting that next task done? Shutting down. Recharging. Having a routine that triggers when work mode is done and its time to shift into life mode will help your brain destress and disconnect from work. Idk who needs to hear this, but that task can wait, go live your life, relax, have fun and figure out what easy routine you can add to the end of your workday to help you context shift from work to life. #shutdownroutine #workfromhome #productivitytips #rechargeyourself #endofworkday #simplifyyourday ♬ Stolen Dance (Instrumental) – Milky Chance

A shutdown ritual or routine may sound a little silly at first, but its purpose is to essentially reset and reboot your brain for non-work rest and activities. You know work is done, but your subconscious mind needs convincing. This isn’t just beneficial for employees, but managers and executives also benefit from workers having a good work-life balance, as it leads to happier, more productive, and more alert individuals.

“As someone who often works remotely, and who leads a company that has many remote workers, shutdown rituals are something I highly recommend,” Steve Schwab, CEO of Casago, tells GOOD. “I know from firsthand experience how working remotely can lead to not really winding down all that effectively. When people can incorporate ‘hacks’ like these to help with their energy levels and work/life balance, I am all for it.”

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So, what is your shutdown ritual? Well, that varies from person to person. Many workers have shared theirs online, and there are numerous options available, depending on your personality, mindset, and interests. Here are some of the most commonly mentioned rituals from folks online and those that reached out to GOOD :

Tidy up your workspace

When your laptop is closed and put away, the coffee mug is washed, and your work desk is decluttered, it not only creates a neater workspace but one that is “completed” without lingering reminders of work left there.

Work from home? Fake a commute

When it’s quitting time, take yourself and/or your dog out for a walk outside, or walk to a nearby cafe or bar for a beverage. Listen to a specific playlist or podcast that you’d likely listen to in the car or on the subway train if you were going to and from an office. This can help you transition smoothly.

Change your clothes

Much like the commute, this can mimic the thought of changing out of your suit and tie, dress, work uniform, or whatever “work clothes” you wear, even if you dress casually or work from home. An outfit change creates a shift in mindset.

Write or draw

Taking out a pencil and paper to write or draw whatever is currently in mind. If you’re not feeling very artistic, you could write down what you’ve accomplished today to remind yourself that you’ve done plenty of work already. You might also write a list of what you wish to accomplish tomorrow so it won’t linger in your mind during off-hours.

Get active

Going to the gym, the dojo, or outside for a run gets the body and the mind in a new place. Since your brain is focused more on lifting weights, your jogging route, mindful stretching, or vibing with a song on your workout playlist, you’ll be away from work in your brain.

Those are just the most frequently mentioned methods, but you can experiment to see what helps you transition from your work life to your real life. Ultimately, it’ll be beneficial for you mentally, physically, and professionally.

  • Air Force graduate tears up when friend steps in to ‘tap him out’ during graduation
    Photo credit: CanvaA lone soldier and friends celebrating.

    Sometimes the biggest moments in our lives might slip by unnoticed. That’s exactly what was happening to Airman Joel Usher. At his United States Air Force graduation ceremony, he stood alone, already knowing that no family members were coming to celebrate the occasion.

    Many people know what it feels like to hit a major milestone and wish someone were there. Usher was visibly emotional as fellow graduates reunited with cheering family members. Suddenly, a friend he made during training stepped forward. Phone in hand, recording the moment, he walked up to “tap him out.”

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    1 year ago today. it’s been a journey man still can’t believe i’ve made it this far but is only the beginning more blessing to come💫#fypシ #militarytapout #explorepage

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    A teary-eyed moment defined by friendship

    Caught completely off guard, a teary-eyed Usher smiles, turning what could have been a lonely memory into one defined by friendship. He posted the video on TikTok with a title overlay reading, “i had no one at my graduation to tap me out but that one good friend i met during training found me and come through for me…”

    At military graduations, there’s a tradition known as “tapping out.” Family members or close supporters step forward at the end of the ceremony to officially greet and escort the graduates away. According to the AF WingMoms, it can be an emotional experience, but the Air Force views its military purpose as a productive way to maintain orderly disbursement.

    An overwhelming gesture

    In an exclusive interview with People, Usher described how important that kind act was, leaving him holding back tears:

    “When my friend tapped me out, I was overwhelmed in the best way possible. It wasn’t just about finishing, it was about having someone there who truly had my back in that moment.”

    Usher went on to explain that the achievement was important, but the friendship and support shown to him are what he remembers most. After sharing the moment online, he was surprised by all the feedback. He believes the overwhelming response was a strong reminder of the beauty behind meaningful acts of kindness.

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    Best friends take a group selfie.
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    TikTok post resonates

    After 4.6 million views, people flooded the comments with emotional reactions. For some, the small gesture perfectly captured the kind of bond people form while going through difficult experiences together. This wasn’t a performative moment—just someone refusing to let another person experience an important occasion alone.

    For others, it was heartbreaking. Often, soldiers don’t have family members who are able to make the trip, or they find themselves on a solitary journey. Either way, the idea that people can accomplish something amazing and still be left to stand alone afterward can be difficult to swallow.

    Here are some of the comments:

    “i’m glad you made a good friend along the way who came looking for ya. those are the meaningful connections you make while in the military”

    “now this just broke my heart”

    “Those teary eyes”

    “This just breaks my heart! Everyone should have someone tap them out. So much respect for the military”

    “The pain in bros eyes. Went to my soul. Brother we are here for u! Ty for serving”

    “sometimes thats all we need! Just one good friend”

    “I’m so sorry no one from your bloodline was there for you in that moment but you have all of TikTok cheering you on and we are so proud of your accomplishments”

    “Ex military that tap means more than you think.”

    “i really wish they had a volunteer program for something like this… let other mamas and dads come and be there for these young men and women.. we never know how bad they just need SOMEONE to be there for them”

    “Been there my man. But you’re going to be an amazing soldier. Use that to be the best you can be”

    The mix of responses shows why meaningful moments shouldn’t be faced alone. Friendship and community are defined by simple choices: stepping in, showing up, and refusing to let a proud day also become someone’s loneliest. These small acts turn milestone accomplishments into memories carried forward with a tearful, joyful smile.

  • Dogs display many traits of great leaders − here are 5 breeds that can be your leadership role models
    Photo credit: meaghanbrowning/RooM via Getty ImagesWatching how dogs approach life can provide lessons for leaders.

    I have been a dog lover ever since I was a kid and have spent years learning about the temperaments and histories of different dog breeds, as well as famous dogs and their adventures. I have attended a variety of dog shows to meet various breeds and talk with their owners, and I’ve also lived with several dogs – including a dachshund, otterhound, German shepherd, Indian spitz and Labrador retriever – over the course of my life.

    Beyond my canine concerns, I’m a professor of management who loves teaching courses and conducting research on leadership. So, it was a no-brainer for me to combine my two interests to write a book, “Learning Leadership from Dogs.” Various dog breeds embody distinct traits and behaviors that we humans can emulate to become better leaders.

    Here are five qualities dogs model that any leader, at work or in life, can learn from.

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    The author’s own otterhound Fiona was always up for a good time. Aditya Simha

    Joie de vivre

    Happy-go-lucky hounds have an abundance of joie de vivre, a French phrase that refers to a cheerful and exuberant enjoyment of life. My own otterhound, Fiona, amply embodied this trait. A simple walk in the woods or hike on the beach was all she ever wanted.

    This kind of optimism and cheerfulness can make leaders more empathetic and pleasant to work with, partly because psychology research finds that positive moods increase helping, generosity and interpersonal understanding. Those are key ingredients of empathy.

    Followers feel and perform better when led by good-natured, enthusiastic leaders who look on the bright side. A leader’s joie de vivre can be passed on to the team. Scholars of positive leadership call this process emotional contagion – how a mood or emotional tone can spread through a group.

    Courage

    Who wants to follow a timid leader, right? Most people want a leader who is brave and who walks the talk – someone who’s courageous enough to do the right thing under all circumstances, not just when it’s convenient to do so.

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    Some Dutch shepherds are military working dogs with the U.S. Army. Defense Visual Information Distribution Service

    While there are many dog breeds that embody courage, I want to single out the Dutch shepherd. Smaller than the German shepherd and the Belgian Malinois, the Dutch shepherd is used in police and military work because of its athleticism, trainability and strong work ethic. Just like how Dutch shepherds run toward danger to protect others, courageous leaders take risks for their values and to support their team.

    Intelligence

    Leaders must not only know about their domain, they also need to be able to understand which of their followers needs to be treated or led differently. Both emotional and cognitive intelligence are essential for effective leadership and have positive consequences for their followers’ attitudes and performance.

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    Border collies are great at herding and know the best ways to keep different sheep in line. Fernando Lavoz/Nur Photo via Getty Images

    I point to the border collie as a dog that exemplifies both forms of intelligence. The border collie not only knows how to herd sheep, but also which sheep to herd with patience and which sheep need a bit more sharpness.

    This intelligence is something that needs to be guided and channeled. Border collies left without enough work or stimulation are famous for finding their own “jobs,” such as herding the human children, chasing shadows or inventing new mischief around the house.

    Without proper direction, even brilliance can become counterproductive – another lesson leaders can keep in mind when managing their own flocks.

    Kindness

    Kindness is one quality that is sadly not given the amount of attention it merits in the world of management, even though it can shape whether followers feel respected, trusted and willing to contribute.

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    Newfoundlands are kind, gentle giants. kozorog/iStock via Getty Images Plus

    Displaying kindness is a canine specialty. The dog breed that comes to mind for me here is the Newfoundland. First bred in Canada and known as a fine water rescue dog, these gentle giants are supremely kind to everyone and display a benevolent, protective nature.

    Leaders similarly need to be kind to their followers, even if a team member has failed at a task. A kind response does not mean ignoring mistakes; it means correcting them in a way that preserves dignity, making followers more likely to learn, speak up and try again. Together those patterns facilitate work environments that promote what researchers call psychological safety: a shared belief that people can ask questions, admit mistakes and raise concerns without fear of embarrassment, rejection or punishment.

    Resilience

    Resilience is not just toughness; it is the ability to recover from setbacks, adapt under pressure and keep moving forward when things don’t go as planned. Leaders rely on it during crises, failed projects, public criticism or periods of organizational change, all moments when uncertainty is high and confidence can falter.

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    A Rhodesian ridgeback bounces back from failure in order to be ready for the next challenge on the horizon. Ines Arnshoff/iStock via Getty Images Plus

    Any leader can look to the Rhodesian ridgeback as a resilience role model. This breed hails from South Africa and was originally used to assist in lion hunting – an activity fraught with peril and with high prospects of failure. Rhodesian ridgebacks are dauntless dogs, always ready to try another dangerous hunt even in the wake of repeated failures.

    Like these dogs, leaders often must confront perilous tasks with a high likelihood of failure, and they must be ready to bounce forward so they can eventually seize success. Without resilience, leaders may panic, withdraw or become overly reactive, especially during a crisis. When that happens, uncertainty spreads, confidence erodes and teams are less likely to stay focused or move forward effectively.

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    Different breeds have different personalities – but they’re all good boys and girls. Compassionate Eye Foundation/David Leahy/Digital Vision via Getty Images

    Dogs are the most popular choice of pet in the United States and worldwide. You probably don’t need to look far to find some furry friends who can inspire you with their admirable characteristics. Dogs may never author a leadership book, but they live out leadership lessons in courage, kindness and joy every day.

    This article originally appeared on The Conversation. You can read it here.

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