I’ve been a small business owner for eight years now, and I’ve been given so much advice that I’ve forgotten more of it than I can remember. Growing my freelance web writing business from one writer to a team of ten has been challenging, rewarding, fulfilling, scary and totally fun. I couldn’t have done it without having my own personal team; a group of people who are truly dedicated to seeing me win.


Every single small business owner needs these five roles in your corner. They can be friends, family, neighbors, colleagues or competitors and more than one person can play a role. But you must have all five to see your business grow without completely losing your sense of self and sanity. I call them the 4 P’s and 1 C:

The Pusher

When you’re running a small business, there’s always more work to do—more to learn, more people to network with, more systems to learn—just more. It can get exhausting. The Pusher keeps you pushing the envelope, teasing from you what you’re truly capable of. For me, this is my accountability partner, Kim, who reminds me about my goals and what I need to do to reach them. Identify the person or people in your life who always points to the brass ring and push you to grow stronger.

The Pacer

On the flip side, when you have a Pusher, you’re also going to need a Pacer. He or she reminds you that too much growth all at once might not be the right thing for the business. Typically, the Pacer is someone who truly cares about the health of your business. And I don’t mean in a nagging type of way, “Do you think you’re doing too much?” Rather, The Pacer listens carefully to your business challenges and responds with thoughtful analyses of your current challenges.

The Protector

The Protectors feel close enough to you to remind you of the life you might be neglecting why you try to grow your business. Their role is to encourage you to find some balance in your life. They might be the people who say, “Maybe it really doesn’t make sense to travel to six cities in five weeks.” Small business owners by their natures push themselves; the Protector reminds you that you work to live, not live to work.

The Peerleader

This person could be a colleague, competitor or someone you turn to when the day just isn’t going well. But he or she is a peer—someone who understands the intricate challenges you face in your field.

I once had a terrible client meeting and I walked out and called my friend Matt, crying. He works in my field and he totally got what I was saying about why the meeting went so poorly—he talked it out with me. He agreed I didn’t handle certain parts of the meeting well, but he also reminded me that client engagements in our industry are complex. The Peerleader will give you the truth without the sugarcoat, but will remind you that you are human. Having someone who truly understands your field is critical when you’re a small business owner, and you don’t necessarily have ten other colleagues with whom you can share your daily challenges.

The Cheerleader

Everyone needs the person who tells you are fantastically talented and up for the challenge of running a business. The Cheerleader probably doesn’t understand the ins and outs of your field or your business, but knows you and what you want to represent to the world. He or she can function as the person you call when you don’t want to rehash all the gory details, but just want someone to remind you that you’re awesome. Every single one of us—small business owner or not—needs a cheerleader (many, preferably). Don’t forget to find the person—or people—in your life who remind you that you’re doing exactly what you should be doing.

With the 4 P’s and 1 C in your corner, you’ll be able to keep your audacity of spirit—the very thing in you that pushed you to jump into the roaring currents of business and pull yourself up the ladder of success.

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  • Man’s dog suddenly becomes protective of his wife, Internet clocks the reason right away
    Dogs have impressive observational powers.Photo credit: Canva

    Reddit user Girlfriendhatesmefor’s three-year-old pitbull, Otis, had recently become overprotective of his wife. So he asked the online community if they knew what might be wrong with the dog.

    “A week or two ago, my wife got some sort of stomach bug,” the Reddit user wrote under the subreddit /r/dogs. “She was really nauseous and ill for about a week. Otis is very in tune with her emotions (we once got in a fight and she was upset, I swear he was staring daggers at me lol) and during this time didn’t even want to leave her to go on walks. We thought it was adorable!”

    His wife soon felt better, butthe dog’s behavior didn’t change.

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    Otis knew before they did. Canva

    Girlfriendhatesmefor began to fear that Otis’ behavior may be an early sign of an aggression issue or an indication that the dog was hurt or sick.

    So he threw a question out to fellow Reddit users: “Has anyone else’s dog suddenly developed attachment/aggression issues? Any and all advice appreciated, even if it’s that we’re being paranoid!”

    The most popular response to his thread was by ZZBC.

    Any chance your wife is pregnant?

    ZZBC | Reddit

    The potential news hit Girlfriendhatesmefor like a ton of bricks. A few days later, Girlfriendhatesmefor posted an update and ZZBC was right!

    “The wifey is pregnant!” the father-to-be wrote. “Otis is still being overprotective but it all makes sense now! Thanks for all the advice and kind words! Sorry for the delayed reply, I didn’t check back until just now!”

    Redditors responded with similar experiences.

    Anecdotal I know but I swear my dog knew I was pregnant before I was. He was super clingy (more than normal) and was always resting his head on my belly.

    realityisworse | Reddit

    So why do dogs get overprotective when someone is pregnant?

    Jeff Werber, PhD, president and chief veterinarian of the Century Veterinary Group in Los Angeles, told Health.com that “dogs can also smell the hormonal changes going on in a woman’s body at that time.” He added the dog may “not understand that this new scent of your skin and breath is caused by a developing baby, but they will know that something is different with you—which might cause them to be more curious or attentive.”

    The big lesson here is to listen to your pets and to ask questions when their behavior abruptly changes. They may be trying to tell you something, and the news may be life-changing.

    This article originally appeared last year.

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