In our A City Education series, City Year corps members share their experiences working as tutors and mentors in schools in hopes of closing the opportunity gap and ending the dropout crisis.

Growing up, I was constantly surrounded by adults who would take the time to encourage me either through their words, their actions, or a combination of the two. At the time, I truly didn’t know how blessed I was to have individuals recognize my potential and most importantly, make efforts so that I could recognize it too. However long those people were involved in my life, each served as a mentor.


It wasn’t until last year during my first year of service with City Year Chicago that I was able to understand how important mentors are in a young person’s development and how fortunate I am to have had so many. In understanding my purpose last year as a “near-peer mentor”, I valued my role and would do everything I could to develop meaningful relationships with my students.

One student who I was able to develop such a relationship with is Kevin Perez who I met while serving at Kelvyn Park High School in Chicago’s Hermosa community.

I worked closely with an English teacher at the school and in the beginning of the year, Kevin was a source of disruption during last period. He was the class clown who took pride in getting his classmates off task, which also caused him to get below average grades. One of City Year’s strategies to transform distracting behavior into positive behavior is to meet with students during lunch on leadership development. When it was time to decide which students would join me during my leadership lunches, I knew I wanted to invite Kevin.

When I first started having my leadership lunches, Kevin was the student who had something funny to say in response to any discussion question asked. He refused to seriously participate. However, I didn’t give up. I continued to have conversations with Kevin in the classroom, in the halls, and during our leadership lunches. I continued to work with Kevin not only on his leadership development but also on his grades as well.

Slowly but surely, Kevin began to make a change.

Now instead of me having to remind him when we were meeting for leadership lunches, he would see me during Morning Greeting and would say, “You’re picking us up during lunch today, right?”

Kevin became my biggest cheerleader when it came to motivating the other guys in our leadership lunches. Similarly, Kevin’s performance in the classroom began to improve. He would raise his hand, volunteer to assist in the classroom, and would even help other students who didn’t understand what was going on in class. This change in behavior also encouraged Kevin to focus on raising his grades.

On the last day of school, I held it together all day. However, when Kevin thanked me for pushing him throughout the year and gave me a hug I lost it—I cried.

To this day, I still keep in contact with Kevin.

Due to the relationship we developed last year, Kevin and I were asked to speak about our experience at City Year Chicago’s Women’s Leadership Breakfast hosted by Deloitte in December. The annual event is an opportunity for influential women to get together over food and learn more about City Year Chicago.

Kevin was still extremely nervous the day of the event. As I had done the previous year when Kevin was anxious about how he would perform on a test or quiz, I tried to refocus him on being confident in his ability instead, which in turn caused me to completely forget that I too was nervous.

I was the first to speak and confidently delivered a speech about my experience with City Year Chicago and more specifically my relationship with Kevin. As soon as Kevin reached the microphone, his confidence began to shine as he delivered a humorous and heart-felt speech that completely won over his audience. Tickled by his wit yet touched by his authenticity, Kevin received nothing but praise for his speech.

Understanding how far Kevin has come and witnessing him in action that day made me extremely proud and honored to know that I was able to play a part in helping him discover his potential. He is now a sophomore and getting good grades.

Serving with City Year has allowed me to work with amazing students like Kevin who need that extra push and need to know that there’s someone in their corner who won’t let them give up.

Photo of Deb DeHaas, Vice Chairman, Central Region Managing Partner and Chief Inclusion Officer for Deloitte, Kevin Perez, and Meghann Estrada courtesy of City Year Chicago

  • Man’s dog suddenly becomes protective of his wife, Internet clocks the reason right away
    Dogs have impressive observational powers.Photo credit: Canva

    Reddit user Girlfriendhatesmefor’s three-year-old pitbull, Otis, had recently become overprotective of his wife. So he asked the online community if they knew what might be wrong with the dog.

    “A week or two ago, my wife got some sort of stomach bug,” the Reddit user wrote under the subreddit /r/dogs. “She was really nauseous and ill for about a week. Otis is very in tune with her emotions (we once got in a fight and she was upset, I swear he was staring daggers at me lol) and during this time didn’t even want to leave her to go on walks. We thought it was adorable!”

    His wife soon felt better, butthe dog’s behavior didn’t change.

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    Otis knew before they did. Canva

    Girlfriendhatesmefor began to fear that Otis’ behavior may be an early sign of an aggression issue or an indication that the dog was hurt or sick.

    So he threw a question out to fellow Reddit users: “Has anyone else’s dog suddenly developed attachment/aggression issues? Any and all advice appreciated, even if it’s that we’re being paranoid!”

    The most popular response to his thread was by ZZBC.

    Any chance your wife is pregnant?

    ZZBC | Reddit

    The potential news hit Girlfriendhatesmefor like a ton of bricks. A few days later, Girlfriendhatesmefor posted an update and ZZBC was right!

    “The wifey is pregnant!” the father-to-be wrote. “Otis is still being overprotective but it all makes sense now! Thanks for all the advice and kind words! Sorry for the delayed reply, I didn’t check back until just now!”

    Redditors responded with similar experiences.

    Anecdotal I know but I swear my dog knew I was pregnant before I was. He was super clingy (more than normal) and was always resting his head on my belly.

    realityisworse | Reddit

    So why do dogs get overprotective when someone is pregnant?

    Jeff Werber, PhD, president and chief veterinarian of the Century Veterinary Group in Los Angeles, told Health.com that “dogs can also smell the hormonal changes going on in a woman’s body at that time.” He added the dog may “not understand that this new scent of your skin and breath is caused by a developing baby, but they will know that something is different with you—which might cause them to be more curious or attentive.”

    The big lesson here is to listen to your pets and to ask questions when their behavior abruptly changes. They may be trying to tell you something, and the news may be life-changing.

    This article originally appeared last year.

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    Why mass shootings spawn conspiracy theories

    Mass shootings and conspiracy theories have a long history.

    While conspiracy theories are not limited to any topic, there is one type of event that seems particularly likely to spark them: mass shootings, typically defined as attacks in which a shooter kills at least four other people.

    When one person kills many others in a single incident, particularly when it seems random, people naturally seek out answers for why the tragedy happened. After all, if a mass shooting is random, anyone can be a target.

    Pointing to some nefarious plan by a powerful group – such as the government – can be more comforting than the idea that the attack was the result of a disturbed or mentally ill individual who obtained a firearm legally.


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