Between the railings, I saw two couples having breakfast at the dining table. “Oh great,” I grunted. “Another dry conversation with the elderly.”


My friend and I were running late for the first panel discussion but we decided to stay and eat at our humble bed and breakfast. I dreaded awkward small talk with people with whom I had nothing in common. The conversation wouldn’t be sustainable.

It had been almost a month since I began the MFA Design for Social Innovation program at the School of Visual Arts. From the first day of our boot camp, I was compelled by the notion of sustainability. We played a game that replicated sustainable systems, mapped out system, met entrepreneurs and discussed various needs in this world. As a visual artist, I wanted to know how one could measure the impact of a sustainable design. I needed my “ah-ha!” moment.

That weekend I found myself at the B&B, my colleagues and I had taken a trip to Rhode Island for A Better World by Design Conference. Unexpectedly, the conference had a robust schedule and I did not want to stop the flow of creative stimulation. I simply couldn’t waste my time having trivial conversations with strangers over pancakes when I had better things to do.

When I went downstairs, I greeted the two couples and grabbed a seat at the dining table. Immediately, a woman sitting across me asked what I do and what brought me to Rhode Island. After I told her that I was a design student, I learned that she was a retired architect from California and shared rich insights she has accumulated over the years.

At one point we got into a deep conversation about Joseph Eichler, an American real estate developer who believed modern architecture should be affordable to the middle class. I was fascinated by the fact that Eichler was not an architect but collaborated with other like-minded designers who shared the same principles and values of his. The lady at breakfast said that she had recently visited the Eichler homes with a real estate developer and after he examined the simplicity of tongue and groove decking, the thoughtful layout, and echoes of biophilia, all he could say was, “son of a bitch!”

And without saying another word, everybody at the dining table laughed and shared an “ah-ha!” moment. That’s when I realized what a sustainable design should look like—it should leave generations 50 years from now baffled by the accomplishment of a successful design with good intentions.

Ironically, the theme of this conference was “Pause and Effect.” I’m sure there were many people who found this weekend to be a retreat. But for me, the conference felt like an extension of school. I had been restlessly driven by intellectual prosperity and forgotten how to engage with others. After all, I am studying social innovation.

This humbling experience made me wonder if I had missed opportunities where I could have had rich conversations with people I would least likely speak too. Because change starts from “the self,” I hope to become more conscientious of the people and opportunities around me. And hopefully this shift in paradigm will lead to more “ah-ha!” moments in the future.

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  • Man’s dog suddenly becomes protective of his wife, Internet clocks the reason right away
    Dogs have impressive observational powers.Photo credit: Canva

    Reddit user Girlfriendhatesmefor’s three-year-old pitbull, Otis, had recently become overprotective of his wife. So he asked the online community if they knew what might be wrong with the dog.

    “A week or two ago, my wife got some sort of stomach bug,” the Reddit user wrote under the subreddit /r/dogs. “She was really nauseous and ill for about a week. Otis is very in tune with her emotions (we once got in a fight and she was upset, I swear he was staring daggers at me lol) and during this time didn’t even want to leave her to go on walks. We thought it was adorable!”

    His wife soon felt better, butthe dog’s behavior didn’t change.

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    Otis knew before they did. Canva

    Girlfriendhatesmefor began to fear that Otis’ behavior may be an early sign of an aggression issue or an indication that the dog was hurt or sick.

    So he threw a question out to fellow Reddit users: “Has anyone else’s dog suddenly developed attachment/aggression issues? Any and all advice appreciated, even if it’s that we’re being paranoid!”

    The most popular response to his thread was by ZZBC.

    Any chance your wife is pregnant?

    ZZBC | Reddit

    The potential news hit Girlfriendhatesmefor like a ton of bricks. A few days later, Girlfriendhatesmefor posted an update and ZZBC was right!

    “The wifey is pregnant!” the father-to-be wrote. “Otis is still being overprotective but it all makes sense now! Thanks for all the advice and kind words! Sorry for the delayed reply, I didn’t check back until just now!”

    Redditors responded with similar experiences.

    Anecdotal I know but I swear my dog knew I was pregnant before I was. He was super clingy (more than normal) and was always resting his head on my belly.

    realityisworse | Reddit

    So why do dogs get overprotective when someone is pregnant?

    Jeff Werber, PhD, president and chief veterinarian of the Century Veterinary Group in Los Angeles, told Health.com that “dogs can also smell the hormonal changes going on in a woman’s body at that time.” He added the dog may “not understand that this new scent of your skin and breath is caused by a developing baby, but they will know that something is different with you—which might cause them to be more curious or attentive.”

    The big lesson here is to listen to your pets and to ask questions when their behavior abruptly changes. They may be trying to tell you something, and the news may be life-changing.

    This article originally appeared last year.

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    When one person kills many others in a single incident, particularly when it seems random, people naturally seek out answers for why the tragedy happened. After all, if a mass shooting is random, anyone can be a target.

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