Last summer, I took a more or less calculated risk. I left my wonderful, full-time job (at GOOD, as a matter of fact) and went back to graduate school. This was a change, to say the least. Especially given that I had been in the working world for several years. And was moving from my home in sunny Los Angeles to Edinburgh, Scotland, which is sort of like going to serve in the Night’s Watch. And was going back for computer science after studying philosophy and working as a writer. I changed just about everything at once. Even my cash flow reversed!

Unless there’s no doubt whatsoever that you are doing exactly what you were put on this earth to do (maybe you’re Lionel Messi, or, you know, the Lionel Messi of accounting or whatever) you’ve probably wondered what it would be like to switch gears and go explore that other thing you were always interested in. Well, I did it, and I’m here to report back.


(Oh, and one caveat: The following is most relevant—if it’s relevant at all—for people who are considering off-the-beaten path things in the spirit of exploration. If you’re considering law school or medical school, both of which saddle you with life-altering debt and tie you to a career, the following probably doesn’t apply.)

Dip Your Toes in the Water First

This is pretty common sensical. Grad school can be expensive. And even if you’re funded, you’ll be sacrificing time and the salary you could be making doing something else. So test your interest first. I did some coding on the side to make sure I liked it—and even then I chose a one-year masters degree. (The one-year masters, by the way, is very popular in the U.K. I highly recommend it.)

If you’re considering culinary school, for example, maybe volunteer in a restaurant or bakery or construct some sort of cooking curriculum for yourself first. In other words, find a low-commitment version of the thing you may want to do and do that first.

It’s Actually Probably Not Completely Different

I studied philosophy in college; now I’m doing computer science. What could be more different, right? One’s all about logical reasoning and working with abstractions and uncovering inconsistencies and the other…. Well, the other is fundamentally also about those things. Actually, the differences are sort of superficial. Maybe you have a math background and you want to go study music. Read Gödel, Escher, Bach. Surprise! Music and math are totally related.

Even if you’re going from medieval history to astrophysics, there will be skills that transfer. At the end of the day, there are a few really important general cognitive tools—conceptual analysis, facility with language, mathematical reasoning, creative thinking—and most of them are useful in most contexts (the Messi exception applies here, too).

The Lifestyle Change Is the Big One

I was prepared for a really harsh adjustment to the academic aspect of school. But you know what? The lifestyle change was the curveball. All of a sudden I didn’t have a clear separation between work and free time. Eating out all the time felt a little irresponsible. I was surrounded by nerds instead of hipsters and yuppies (to generalize and stereotype). These are the adjustments that were hardest, not the work itself. This will be especially true if you switch cities, countries, or languages at the same time.

You’ll Be Better Prepared

In college, I was prone to procrastination. I often prioritized fun and then scheduled just enough time to get my work done. After working in a real job for many years, I just no longer have the same impulse to procrastinate. Working all day feels natural. If you’ve adjusted to the 9 to 5, you’ll be shocked at how good you are at getting stuff done in school. If you have classmates who went straight into grad school, you’ll shake your head when you see them pulling all-nighters. You’ll also approach school as an opportunity rather than an obligation. You’ll be more efficient and more motivated.

Know Why You’re Doing It

Yes, so this is all about exploration, but you should still know why you’re going back to school. If you’re following some latent and ill-defined impulse, it can be hard to articulate your rationale. But have some answer. Know you’re doing it because it’s on your bucket list. Or know you’re doing it because you needed a change. Or know you’re doing it simply to explore. You don’t need an answer that makes sense to everybody, just have some answer you can give yourself when you ask yourself “Why the fuck am I doing this again?” Because you’ll probably ask yourself that more than once.

Enjoy the Ride

If you do go back to school to change directions or explore, enjoy the exploration. Yes, you’ll have friends advancing along some clearly defined path towards some clearly defined goal. Maybe you’ll be tossing yourself off some mid-level rung of the corporate ladder you’re clinging to. That can be uncomfortable. But what you’re doing is spending a year or two or three having an entirely new experience, rather than settling for the same old routine. If you enjoy the ride, that can be an excellent way to spend your time—and, really, what’s more precious than time? It’s all we have. So enjoy it.

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  • Man’s dog suddenly becomes protective of his wife, Internet clocks the reason right away
    Dogs have impressive observational powers.Photo credit: Canva

    Reddit user Girlfriendhatesmefor’s three-year-old pitbull, Otis, had recently become overprotective of his wife. So he asked the online community if they knew what might be wrong with the dog.

    “A week or two ago, my wife got some sort of stomach bug,” the Reddit user wrote under the subreddit /r/dogs. “She was really nauseous and ill for about a week. Otis is very in tune with her emotions (we once got in a fight and she was upset, I swear he was staring daggers at me lol) and during this time didn’t even want to leave her to go on walks. We thought it was adorable!”

    His wife soon felt better, butthe dog’s behavior didn’t change.

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    Girlfriendhatesmefor began to fear that Otis’ behavior may be an early sign of an aggression issue or an indication that the dog was hurt or sick.

    So he threw a question out to fellow Reddit users: “Has anyone else’s dog suddenly developed attachment/aggression issues? Any and all advice appreciated, even if it’s that we’re being paranoid!”

    The most popular response to his thread was by ZZBC.

    Any chance your wife is pregnant?

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    The potential news hit Girlfriendhatesmefor like a ton of bricks. A few days later, Girlfriendhatesmefor posted an update and ZZBC was right!

    “The wifey is pregnant!” the father-to-be wrote. “Otis is still being overprotective but it all makes sense now! Thanks for all the advice and kind words! Sorry for the delayed reply, I didn’t check back until just now!”

    Redditors responded with similar experiences.

    Anecdotal I know but I swear my dog knew I was pregnant before I was. He was super clingy (more than normal) and was always resting his head on my belly.

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    So why do dogs get overprotective when someone is pregnant?

    Jeff Werber, PhD, president and chief veterinarian of the Century Veterinary Group in Los Angeles, told Health.com that “dogs can also smell the hormonal changes going on in a woman’s body at that time.” He added the dog may “not understand that this new scent of your skin and breath is caused by a developing baby, but they will know that something is different with you—which might cause them to be more curious or attentive.”

    The big lesson here is to listen to your pets and to ask questions when their behavior abruptly changes. They may be trying to tell you something, and the news may be life-changing.

    This article originally appeared last year.

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    Why mass shootings spawn conspiracy theories

    Mass shootings and conspiracy theories have a long history.

    While conspiracy theories are not limited to any topic, there is one type of event that seems particularly likely to spark them: mass shootings, typically defined as attacks in which a shooter kills at least four other people.

    When one person kills many others in a single incident, particularly when it seems random, people naturally seek out answers for why the tragedy happened. After all, if a mass shooting is random, anyone can be a target.

    Pointing to some nefarious plan by a powerful group – such as the government – can be more comforting than the idea that the attack was the result of a disturbed or mentally ill individual who obtained a firearm legally.


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