Thoughts about reading circa 2008 and the death of David Foster Wallace

Is the surfeit of lists touting the “best books of 2008” leaving you thoroughly confused about what to read next? Relax. This is not another one of those tidy wrap-ups. Instead, I’d like to muse on what I read this past year, regardless of when it was published. (If for some reason you haven’t had your fill of actual year-end lists, here are favorites from Paste, NPR, and by journalist/blogger Maud Newton.)I once thought biography was a genre for the middle-aged. My favorite book that I read this year is a biography. So depending upon how you define “middle-aged”-I am 42-I was either wrong or right. Regardless, I was blown away by the mastery of John Matteson‘s Pulitzer Prize-winning Eden’s Outcasts: The Story of Louisa May Alcott and Her Father. I read it in that kind of obsessive, “What comes next?”-manner usually reserved for a thriller, sneaking 15-minute installments here and there.Sticking to the Alcott theme, I also re-read Little Women. I was surprisingly impressed by the novel’s sophistication. According to a wildly unscientific poll I conducted, men don’t read this book. They should. It is absorbing, complex, and features quite a range of male characters to boot. So, boys, grab a copy and read it proudly-even out in the open.Speaking of being ashamed to read a novel in public, I furtively revisited Lady Chatterly’s Lover in 2008. It is shockingly graphic. Still. Are there any women literary novelists who have described the inability (and ability) to reach orgasm so thoroughly as D.H. Lawrence? I also picked up The Catcher in the Rye again and was underwhelmed, but you probably already knew about that.


Like biography, I used to think opera was for the over-the-hill crowd. This year, I attended three performances and was enchanted by them all. Feeling a bit insecure about my musical knowledge, I am thankful to Alex Ross for his The Rest of Noise: Listening to Music in Twentieth Century. As I read it, I wished I had his ability to tell stories and be erudite at the same time. I am also indebted to the hilariously nimble The Wonder Singer by George Rabasa, a light, comic novel that taught me about vocal training and other operatic thingamabobs.Young American novelists typically underwhelm me due to their lack of ambition. Case in point: novels about making it as a young literati, such as Ed Park‘s Personal Days and Keith Gessen‘s All The Sad Young Literary Men. Both are admirable and fun to read, but ultimately safe-as are domestic stories, such as Roxana Robinson‘s Cost, which rarely stray beyond the boundaries of the nuclear family. Three novelists, however, took chances and swept me away (even if they sometimes exceeded their grasp): Salvatore Scibona’s The End, Alexander Hemon‘s The Lazarus Project, and Rachel Kushner‘s Telex From Cuba all won my approval and garnered National Book Award nominations. I can’t wait to read these young authors’ next offerings.But, the novelist I read this year with both the ambition to take on a big topic and the chops to pull it off is Kevin Brockmeier. I read A Brief History of the Dead this summer. Months later I still lie in bed thinking about his audacity to create a realistic, thickly described afterlife and the compassion he displays when summoning up scenes of loss that brought me to tears over and over again. The novel is suffused with a sense of genuine empathy and love.On the topic of death and love, there is an overarching ache of 2008. The literary event that trumps all others is not a book at all, but rather the death of David Foster Wallace (pictured at top) at age 46. He was the voice of my generation, middle-aged or not. He struggled to counter the cynicism in which we cuspy Gen Xers too often take refuge, without denying its omnipresent temptation. He started with cynicism as his premise, not a final, apathetic stopping point. He abandoned snobbery, the last refuge of the insecure. Then he wrote: He thought it all through, carefully, slowly, taking irony and intellectual analysis and language to their limits, ever thinking, ever seeking to find, what on the other side? Faith? Hope? Love? Through him, I learned that one can yoke metaphysics and ennui to a persistent desire to be optimistic. For him, I will continue to try.I do not know if the afterlife is as Brockmeier describes: a warm, familiar place where one exists as long as someone is alive to remember you. But if it is, then DFW will remain there as long as the Earth is peopled. For what it’s worth, Mr. Wallace, this year is for you.(Photo of David Foster Wallace from Flickr user Steve Rhodes)

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    Reddit user Girlfriendhatesmefor’s three-year-old pitbull, Otis, had recently become overprotective of his wife. So he asked the online community if they knew what might be wrong with the dog.

    “A week or two ago, my wife got some sort of stomach bug,” the Reddit user wrote under the subreddit /r/dogs. “She was really nauseous and ill for about a week. Otis is very in tune with her emotions (we once got in a fight and she was upset, I swear he was staring daggers at me lol) and during this time didn’t even want to leave her to go on walks. We thought it was adorable!”

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    Girlfriendhatesmefor began to fear that Otis’ behavior may be an early sign of an aggression issue or an indication that the dog was hurt or sick.

    So he threw a question out to fellow Reddit users: “Has anyone else’s dog suddenly developed attachment/aggression issues? Any and all advice appreciated, even if it’s that we’re being paranoid!”

    The most popular response to his thread was by ZZBC.

    Any chance your wife is pregnant?

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    The potential news hit Girlfriendhatesmefor like a ton of bricks. A few days later, Girlfriendhatesmefor posted an update and ZZBC was right!

    “The wifey is pregnant!” the father-to-be wrote. “Otis is still being overprotective but it all makes sense now! Thanks for all the advice and kind words! Sorry for the delayed reply, I didn’t check back until just now!”

    Redditors responded with similar experiences.

    Anecdotal I know but I swear my dog knew I was pregnant before I was. He was super clingy (more than normal) and was always resting his head on my belly.

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    So why do dogs get overprotective when someone is pregnant?

    Jeff Werber, PhD, president and chief veterinarian of the Century Veterinary Group in Los Angeles, told Health.com that “dogs can also smell the hormonal changes going on in a woman’s body at that time.” He added the dog may “not understand that this new scent of your skin and breath is caused by a developing baby, but they will know that something is different with you—which might cause them to be more curious or attentive.”

    The big lesson here is to listen to your pets and to ask questions when their behavior abruptly changes. They may be trying to tell you something, and the news may be life-changing.

    This article originally appeared last year.

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