Since Monday, a lot of music fans have been mad about Rihanna’s two collaborations with one-time boyfriend and very public abuser Chris Brown. We’re pissed at Brown for expecting us to forgive him without any evidence of rehabilitation, disappointed with Rihanna for welcoming him back into the fold, and angry on behalf of abused women everywhere. Commentators have been citing statistics of how often battered women go back to their lovers, writing open letters to the pop stars, warning that this sends a damaging message to young girls—and young guys. On Twitter, some people dropped bombs like “When he beats you this time, you can blame yourself,” or “Chris Brown and Rihanna: The New Bobby and Whitney.” I was mad, too—mad that people appeared to be angrier at Rihanna than the person who beat her, mad that Brown will probably never have to face the consequences of his actions.

Brown and Rihanna dismissed the peanut gallery with a friendly Twitter exchange. Still, there’s no denying that this collabo makes a statement. The question is, whose statement is it? Did Rihanna decide that working with Brown was a good idea, or did her producers and handlers push her in this direction? Rihanna is notoriously “handled”; in a 2009 interview for GQ about the incident with Chris Brown, she chose her words haltingly as a publicist hovered at arm’s length, thrice interrupting her. Even her tweets shouldn’t be assumed to be her genuine reactions; both stars have been coached every step of the way.


Billboard.com solicited a comment from The-Dream, the producer behind the new remixes, who said that the track’s were “Rih’s idea.” He went on to explain the collaboration this way:

For me, it’s just music—two talented people doing a record together, doing two records together, and that’s what it was…it wasn’t about an incident that happened. The true thing really is to forgive, and… you want to believe in people.

Translation: It’s just business. Regardless of who suggested the collaboration, multiple people surely weighed in on the decision—how it would improve Rihanna’s image, how it would sway public opinion, how it would allow both stars to move on from some very, very bad press. Rihanna and Brown didn’t write these lyrics. They didn’t plan the media blitz. They may not have even been in the studio together. These remixes say very little about what Rihanna’s feeling and how she’s healing. For The-Dream and everyone else profiting off the release, it’s “just music,” not a statement about “an incident.” At least that’s what they’ll tell the press.

The fact is, the music industry requires pop stars to eschew their own emotional processes in favor of crafting—and preserving—a particular image. Let’s be honest about Rihanna’s options and autonomy. Ta-Nehisi Coates, writing in The Atlantic, wrote that “[n]othing about being able to sing or dance or entertain guarantees sound thinking.” And nothing about show biz guarantees that one artist’s thought process shapes her decisions or the public narrative about her. That’s more than reason enough to get mad.

Photo via (cc) Flickr user MikeARB.

  • Man’s dog suddenly becomes protective of his wife, Internet clocks the reason right away
    Dogs have impressive observational powers.Photo credit: Canva

    Reddit user Girlfriendhatesmefor’s three-year-old pitbull, Otis, had recently become overprotective of his wife. So he asked the online community if they knew what might be wrong with the dog.

    “A week or two ago, my wife got some sort of stomach bug,” the Reddit user wrote under the subreddit /r/dogs. “She was really nauseous and ill for about a week. Otis is very in tune with her emotions (we once got in a fight and she was upset, I swear he was staring daggers at me lol) and during this time didn’t even want to leave her to go on walks. We thought it was adorable!”

    His wife soon felt better, butthe dog’s behavior didn’t change.

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    Otis knew before they did. Canva

    Girlfriendhatesmefor began to fear that Otis’ behavior may be an early sign of an aggression issue or an indication that the dog was hurt or sick.

    So he threw a question out to fellow Reddit users: “Has anyone else’s dog suddenly developed attachment/aggression issues? Any and all advice appreciated, even if it’s that we’re being paranoid!”

    The most popular response to his thread was by ZZBC.

    Any chance your wife is pregnant?

    ZZBC | Reddit

    The potential news hit Girlfriendhatesmefor like a ton of bricks. A few days later, Girlfriendhatesmefor posted an update and ZZBC was right!

    “The wifey is pregnant!” the father-to-be wrote. “Otis is still being overprotective but it all makes sense now! Thanks for all the advice and kind words! Sorry for the delayed reply, I didn’t check back until just now!”

    Redditors responded with similar experiences.

    Anecdotal I know but I swear my dog knew I was pregnant before I was. He was super clingy (more than normal) and was always resting his head on my belly.

    realityisworse | Reddit

    So why do dogs get overprotective when someone is pregnant?

    Jeff Werber, PhD, president and chief veterinarian of the Century Veterinary Group in Los Angeles, told Health.com that “dogs can also smell the hormonal changes going on in a woman’s body at that time.” He added the dog may “not understand that this new scent of your skin and breath is caused by a developing baby, but they will know that something is different with you—which might cause them to be more curious or attentive.”

    The big lesson here is to listen to your pets and to ask questions when their behavior abruptly changes. They may be trying to tell you something, and the news may be life-changing.

    This article originally appeared last year.

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    Mass shootings and conspiracy theories have a long history.

    While conspiracy theories are not limited to any topic, there is one type of event that seems particularly likely to spark them: mass shootings, typically defined as attacks in which a shooter kills at least four other people.

    When one person kills many others in a single incident, particularly when it seems random, people naturally seek out answers for why the tragedy happened. After all, if a mass shooting is random, anyone can be a target.

    Pointing to some nefarious plan by a powerful group – such as the government – can be more comforting than the idea that the attack was the result of a disturbed or mentally ill individual who obtained a firearm legally.


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