Two years ago, Stephen Estrada was a happy 28 year old, enjoying the prime of his life. He was in a great relationship, he loved his job as a hairdresser, he took good care of himself by eating healthy, and he was in the gym all the time.

But he always had this nagging pain in his abdomen. And once, he noticed blood in his stool. He didn’t think much of it, but then the pain worsened. It got so bad he went to the emergency room (twice), but the doctors there told him nothing was wrong. They seemed to think he was trying to get painkillers. Finally he got an appointment with his primary care physician.


“I told her, ‘I don’t know what cancer feels like, but I have a feeling that’s what this is,’” he says. She told him he was too young. But Estrada could feel that the lymph nodes in his back were swollen to the size of peaches. “I need you to feel this,” he told her. “And as soon as she felt it, her face changed.”

Estrada was rushed in for a CT scan, which revealed Stage IV colon cancer. Within weeks, his doctors were discussing plans to keep him comfortable during end-of-life care.

“It was probably the first time in my life where I actually felt like it would be easier to not be around anymore,” Estrada says.

He needed someone to talk to. His doctors recommended colon cancer support groups, but the other patients were all much older than he was. Then one day, he saw a local newspaper in his oncologist’s office. It was from a place he’d never heard of—“Colontown.”

While breast cancer gets “Save the Boobies” t-shirts and all-pink-everything awareness campaigns; prostate cancer gets Movember; and skin cancer gets a Marc Jacobs line, colorectal cancer is rarely a part of the mainstream conversation. Yet it’s the second most fatal cancer in the United States, and incidences among young people (under 50) are on the rise. Many colon cancer patients like Estrada feel isolated and hopeless after their diagnosis.

When Erika Hanson Brown was diagnosed at 58, she had this experience. But she’s not one to sit around and lament an unsolved problem. Instead, she founded Colontown. An online “town” of over 2,500 “residents,” of which she is the mayor.

Brown, a Colorado resident, previously worked as a corporate recruiter, or a “professional networker” as she calls it. But when she got sick, she found that no one within her huge network had anything to say about colon cancer. People either had no experience with it, or they just weren’t comfortable talking about anything related to colons, rectums, and anuses.

But “the only thing that would have made me feel better is to talk to someone,” Brown says. So she put her professional networking skills to work, and Colontown was born.

Colontown exists on Facebook, but it’s not your typical Facebook group. It’s made up of over 40 neighborhoods dedicated to specific diagnoses and patient needs. There’s the Poop Chute Group for people with colon cancer; the Four Corners for Stage Four patients; and Care Partner Corner for caregivers.

“Each one of the neighborhoods are led by someone with exactly that experience,” Brown says. “The centralized group is Downtown, and that’s always busy.” Prospective members are personally vetted by Brown, and a welcoming committee of 16 people introduces every new member to the community and connects them to the appropriate neighborhoods.

Some of the most active neighborhoods are the Colontown Clinics—groups, sorted by tumor genetic profiles, dedicated to sharing clinical trial information and opportunities. Clinical trials can be the best (and sometimes only) hope for cancer patients, but they’re not always easily accessible. Every oncologist across the country isn’t familiar with every available trial, so you can’t count on your doctor to know about them all and recommend one. The National Institutes of Health maintains a database of all ongoing trials, but both doctors and patients have a hard time navigating it.

Dr. Christopher Lieu, who works in the Colorectal Cancer Multidisciplinary Clinic at the University of Colorado Denver, says patients who visit Colontown bring him information about clinical trials and treatments that is even new to him—and he’s a colorectal cancer specialist. “I always like to think that we’re doing this for the patient already, but I think oftentimes we’re not.”

Colontown “arms the patient with more information,” Lieu says, and it’s good information, more curated than the full libraries of information available on the internet. Informed patients can come to doctors like Lieu with high-quality ideas and questions or with clinical trials they want to sign up for, and it helps him provide better care.“There’s really this trend towards an openness of communication,” he says. “It used to be doctors just telling patients, ‘This is what you’re going to do. Don’t ask me any questions’.”

For Stephen Estrada, the clinical trial information shared on Colontown was lifesaving. Through some of his Colontown neighbors, he heard about an immunotherapy trial taking place in Colorado, and they were looking for patients with exactly his type of cancer. He started the new treatment a year and a half ago, and today his tumor has shrunk to half its original size—and it’s still shrinking. He’s regained weight; his hair has grown back; and he’s working again. He’s part of the town government now, helping run the Clinic and the Four Corners.

Brown’s primary mission is to help patients be their own advocates and to learn about their own disease and seek out the support they need. She’s working to expand the Colontown model to other cancers. “I’ve got a global vision. The internet works for that,” she says.

“When you’re diagnosed with cancer, it’s such a scary thing, and everything’s moving so quickly and so slowly at the same time,” Estrada says. “Everyone could benefit from a support group like Colontown. It really had a hand in saving my life.”

  • Doctors couldn’t explain the pain in her daughter’s foot. Then a nurse looked closer and spotted something that led to a devastating diagnosis.
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    Elle Rugari is a nurse. So when her 4-year-old daughter Alice started complaining about foot pain one evening in late September of last year, Elle did what most parents do first: she gave her some children’s paracetamol, a wheat bag for warmth, and put her to bed. Alice had just had a normal day at childcare. There was no obvious injury.

    But Alice woke up screaming that night, and the pain kept coming back over the following days. She started limping. She cried more often than usual. “She doesn’t like taking medicine or seeing doctors,” Elle, who is from South Australia, told Newsweek. “So I knew it was something serious” when Alice started asking for both.

    At the emergency department, doctors X-rayed Alice’s foot. It showed nothing. But as they continued their assessment, a nurse noticed something else: tiny pinprick bruises scattered along Alice’s legs. Blood tests were ordered. While they waited for results, Elle pointed out something she’d spotted too: swollen lumps along her daughter’s neck.

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    Battling Leukaemia with all her might! ‼️VIDEO EXPLAINING IS ON MY PAGE‼️ Instagram & GoFundMe linked in bio 💛🎗️ #cancer #medical #hospital #help #cancersucks

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    The blood results, in the doctor’s words, came back “a bit spicy.” When Elle asked him directly whether he was thinking leukemia, he said yes. She and her partner Cody were transferred to the women’s and children’s hospital, and the diagnosis was confirmed the following day by an oncologist.

    For parents who aren’t medical professionals, those tiny bruises might easily have been overlooked. They’re called petechiae, and they’re caused by small capillaries bleeding under the skin when platelet counts drop. According to the American Cancer Society, bruising and petechiae appear in more than half of children diagnosed with leukemia, often alongside bone or joint pain and swollen lymph nodes. The limping, the foot pain, the bruises, the lumps on the neck: in retrospect, they were telling a clear story. In the moment, without blood work, they’re easy to miss.

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    As Newsweek reported, Alice is now three months into a three-year treatment plan on a high-risk protocol, meaning her course of therapy is more intensive than standard. She is losing her hair. She has hard days. And she sings Taylor Swift songs every single day.

    “She lets everyone around her know that she has leukemia and that she’s going to get rid of it,” Elle said. “She’s honestly the most amazing child.”

    Under the handle @elle94x, Elle shared Alice’s story on TikTok in December 2025, and the response has been overwhelming, with the video drawing over 1.3 million views. Many of the comments came from parents who recognized the pattern from their own experience. “My daughter was changing color and having fevers and complaining of leg pain and arm pain, and hospitals all kept saying it was her making it up,” wrote one user. “I didn’t give up, and it was leukemia.” Another wrote: “I thought my son had strep throat because he is nonverbal with autism. We got admitted that night for leukemia.”

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    Medical experts recommend that parents seek urgent evaluation for any child with unexplained bruising that appears in unusual places, doesn’t heal normally, or comes alongside other symptoms like fatigue, bone pain, or swollen lymph nodes. Norton Children’s Hospital pediatric oncologist Dr. Mustafa Barbour advises that if symptoms don’t improve or don’t have a clear explanation, it’s always worth making an appointment.

    Elle said there are still days when the weight of it hits hard. But Alice’s attitude keeps pulling her forward. “There are still days where it feels so, so overwhelming,” she said. “But she’s such a little champion.”

    This article originally appeared earlier this year.

  • Licensed therapist says these 3 steps stop rude people from hijacking your mind
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    Licensed therapist Jeffrey Meltzer offers three steps for dealing with rude people. In his helpful TikTok post under the name therapytothepoint, he suggests helpful tactics that go far beyond setting simple boundaries.

    Rude people are almost impossible to avoid, and the instinct to snap back or make a passive-aggressive remark can be strong. Meltzer shares some practical mental health advice that can lead to a calmer resolution.

    It Begins With Emotional Regulation

    Some individuals might believe that other people are responsible for how they make us feel. Meltzer suggests that self-regulation is an important first step to dealing with disrespectful people. Despite instincts to retaliate or escalate the situation, staying calm is more effective.

    Meltzer proposes that reciprocating aggression will only embolden a rude person and even justify their poor behavior. Instead, calmness and controlling our emotions will disrupt the pattern. Meltzer explains, “You might feel angry, embarrassed, disrespected, but calmness is about your behavior, despite the internal chaos you may be having. At the end of the day, emotional regulation is your strength, and reactivity gives your power away.”

    A 2024 study in the National Library of Medicine found that people’s ability to reappraise a stressful event in a more balanced way was strongly linked to greater resilience and better recovery from stress. The strategy helps people stay calmer by changing how the brain interprets the event.

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    Passive Aggression Is NOT a Solution

    An easy response might be the simple eye roll, sarcasm, or a retaliatory personal dig. Meltzer points out that these are only ego attempts to win an unwinnable situation. “Instead, be straightforward. I’m open to talking about this, but not like that. It’s hard for me to connect when you speak to me that way.” Meltzer explains that these tactics bring clarity and remove the defensive guard of said rude individuals.

    A 2026 study in Psychology Today reported that passive-aggressive behaviors worsen relationship dynamics and fail to resolve disagreements. Criticism, ostracism (ignoring others), and sabotage all undermine cooperation and relational success.

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    Role play works

    Practice makes perfect has value in dealing with rude people. “You don’t magically become composed under pressure; you train for it.” Meltzer continues, “Practice with a friend. Practice with your therapist. Have them be rude. Respond calmly. Respond assertively. Respond clearly. Because in real life, you don’t rise to the moment, you fall to your level of preparation.”

    A 2024 study in the National Library of Medicine revealed that an individual’s level of assertiveness can be trained. The strategy of preparation reduced feelings of stress, anxiety, and depression.

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    Stay Calm, Be Assertive, and Practice

    The solutions offered by Meltzer seem to resonate. Several people reveal their own struggles when facing similar predicaments. These are some of their comments:

    “Practice with a therapist? Why didn’t I think of that”

    “You don’t rise to the moment you fall to the level of your preparation. I’m gonna memorize that.”

    “I’m waiting for you to write a book about all your amazing insights”

    “I can handle them but i internalize later n let it ruin my day”

    “The real skill is knowing when to ignore and when to address it. Not everything deserves your energy.”

    “Rudeness is a weak man’s imitation of strength. Just say that to them and if they continue, walk away with a smile.”

    Meltzer advises that the best way to handle rudeness begins with how we respond. Diffusing a situation helps maintain peace of mind. Remaining composed helps control our own reactions. In the end, rehearsing for success allows us to stay confident when difficult situations arise.

  • Love educator shares how awkward flirting can be turned into a romantic superpower
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    In a recent TED Talk, love coach Francesca Hogi shared how even your awkward flirting can be a superpower. Sometimes mistaken as off-putting, flirting actually offers a powerful gateway to real human connection.

    By reframing flirting as an act of curiosity, she explains how anyone can kickstart attraction and open the door to lasting love. In an impassioned presentation, Hogi demystifies flirting and explains why building attraction matters.

    Flirting can be a superpower

    Hogi explains that for 12 years she’s been helping people fall in love as both a matchmaker and a coach. “As a love professional, I can assure you that many dating problems can be solved with flirting,” Hogi says. “If you’re single, it helps you to connect and fall in love. If you’re partnered, it helps you to reignite or maintain the spark of chemistry that brought you together in the first place.”

    Many might have concerns about their ability to flirt. Will they be received well, or are they even doing it right? Hogi explains, “I’ve got good news for the introverts out there. You don’t have to be extroverted to be a magnet for connection. In fact, I believe that introverts have a secret advantage when it comes to flirting because your efforts at being more open feel more genuinely inspired by another person and therefore special.”

    She shares that flirting can give you confidence and courage. She also acknowledges that feeling awkward is normal. “Confidence with flirting comes from knowing yourself, your intentions, reading the room, discerning other people’s reactions, and adapting accordingly,” she says. “Sometimes it’s going to be awkward, sometimes it’s going to be embarrassing, and that’s okay.”

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    Healthy flirting

    “Flirting gives you more agency over human connection,” says Hogi.

    She then describes the two foundational principles of healthy flirting. The first is presence: being in the moment and avoiding distractions like a phone or the surrounding environment. The second is enthusiasm. Getting the right vibe while being enthusiastic goes a long way toward mastering the art of flirting. These principles have a strong effect on other people.

    Hogi explains that expressing positive intentions has a large impact on outcomes:

    “You have the ability to leave other people feeling good for having interacted with you…Even your unspoken appreciation for a shared moment of connection, no matter how brief, can often be felt. Lean into being the version of you who leaves other people with a smile on their face and notice how much more magnetic you become.”

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    Hogi inspires the crowd

    People seem quite taken with Hogi’s energy and charisma. Some of the comments expressed admiration for her vibe and flirtatious delivery on stage. Hogi was sharing her own version of flirting as a superpower:

    “Even this presentation feels like shes flirting…especially her laughs”

    “She is such a good public speaker, ten minutes of speech with no filler words whatsoever”

    “Flirting is a way making one feel seen and acknowledged.”

    “Where were you, Francesca, when I needed these words? Like, 40 years ago? Never too late, right?”

    “Had me clapping in the end! She’z good”

    “I feel better about my flirting abilities after watching this now.”

    “She’s good , reading her body language generally teaches me more about flirting than learning it itself”

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    The power behind a flirtatious connection

    Flirting can have a powerful effect on both the initiator and the person on the receiving end. It isn’t necessarily about romance or sex. It helps build and strengthen relationships in everyday life.

    A 2025 study on ResearchGate analyzed where and how people flirt. The results suggested that people who flirt can improve with practice. The best flirting involved humor, confidence, and social skills. A 2026 study on ScienceDirect found that flirting can be an effective way for people to express their personality and individual differences. While personality traits and sex were linked to how often and how skillfully people flirted, these influences had only modest effects on overall outcomes.

    Hogi suggests flirting requires nuance and a little bit of courage. Practice prepares you for any occasion. “Attentiveness, compliments, playfulness—there’s nothing complicated about these actions, yet they have the potential to spark and sustain connection over time,” she says. “That’s a true superpower we can all tap into.”

    Hogi and the research suggest flirting isn’t just a trivial social game. It’s a meaningful way to express personality, build connections, and boost self-confidence. Flirting isn’t shallow. It doesn’t need to involve manipulation or outcome-obsessed action. These small everyday acts of courage embolden human connection and reveal individual superpowers in all of us.

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