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A Noted Feminist Explains Why You Should Respond To Unsolicited Compliments With This One Phrase

by Penn Collins

May 17, 2017

Many of us become awkward and self-conscious when we receive compliments from our closest acquaintances and family members, but when those “kind” words come from a stranger, the unsolicited (and often unwelcome) praise can get downright painful. 

Many women have experienced compliments with less than virtuous intent, but Feminsta Jones, a feminist author from Philadelphia, put forth a tactic that shifts the power back into your hands and the awkwardness back on the other guy. 

Of course, just saying “I know” after being paid a creepy compliment could serve as the sort of “feisty” antagonism that further engages the unwelcome conversationalist, so Jones advises that you temper it with “Thank you.” 

She remarks that the intent of these interactions is often to make the subject respond as the man wishes, so subverting expectations while remaining polite is often the best rebuff a person can offer. 

She goes further into the logic and her understanding of this common scenario:

Other Twitter users were quick to chime in with the most egregious examples of this phenomenon, all memorialized in writing, demonstrating that the tactic works just as well in the virtual world as it does in the real one.

Why can’t these guys just be happy that you like the same things about yourself that they do? 

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A Noted Feminist Explains Why You Should Respond To Unsolicited Compliments With This One Phrase