Iman Shares Her Secret To A Lasting Marriage With David Bowie
It was about priorities
It’s hard to imagine a couple that was more glamorous than David Bowie and Iman. She’s a model, actress and entrepreneur, and he was a revolutionary entertainer that forever changed music, fashion and art. Given the weak track record that superstar couples have with marriage, their 24 years together was a true anomaly. Just before Bowie’s death in February, Iman sat down with the The Oprah Winfrey Network to discuss how they made it work.
“We both understand the difference between the person and the persona,” she told the network. “When we are home, we are just Iman and David. We’re not anybody else.” She also believes you have to be ready to make the commitment. “I think the secret to a lasting marriage is timing, first of all,” she says. “You have to be at the right time in your life that you’re ready for an ever-lasting relationship, that it becomes first, a priority in your life.”
For many women, striking the appropriate career-family balance is a massive challenge. For Iman’s part, she boils down the constant swirl of personal, professional and domestic demands down to a question of priorities. “If your career is important to you, don’t get married and have children. Because something will give,” she says. “I know we, as women, we want to be able to have it all. But we can’t have it all at the same time.”
After Bowie’s passing, Iman shared an inspiring message on Instagram, a poem by Rune Lazuli. It read, “Each tear is a poet, a healer, a teacher.” The line was accompanied by the om symbol, which represents the all-encompassing cosmic vibration of the universe.