This weekend saw a firestorm of controversy surrounding NFL players’ decision to kneel during the national anthem following Donald Trump’s statement during an Alabama rally, referring to “son of a bitch” demonstrating players whose actions he saw as a fireable offense. Sunday’s games saw an increased players refusing to rise for the anthem, with many more locking arms in a show of solidarity.
Those on both sides of the controversy were quick to express their opinions on the issue, and some of those critical cited NFL rules that would appear at face value to make the issue more black-and-white than ideological.
While these “rules” were mentioned in responses, no clear support or documentation to the actual NFL rules was given (although some pointed to NFL policies, which are not the same as rules), causing those who support the protesters’ rights to cry foul.
Accounting for the ethics and morality of the displays seen Sunday may prove impossible, so many embroiled in the debate sought clarity on what the NFL’s existing rules actually say on the matter. Unfortunately for those seeking a clear directive or imperative on the books, the policy is ill-defined at best. The 2017 NFL rules only make clear in Rule 4 (“Game Timing”) Section 2, Article 1:
“Both teams must be on the field to kick off at the scheduled time for the start of each half. Prior to the start of the game, both teams are required to appear on the field at least 10 minutes prior to the scheduled kickoff in order to ensure sufficient time for proper warm-up. Designated members of the officiating crew must notify both head coaches personally of the scheduled time for kickoff prior to the start of each half.”
That language is the closest the NFL comes to defining player obligations for the period of time that usually includes the performance of the national anthem.
As it pertains to discipline administered outside the scope of the existing rules, the league’s collective bargaining agreement generally forbids enforcement of policies not clearly stated in the rules.
However, The Washington Post’s Mark Maske spoke to a league representative who suggested that discipline may nonetheless be administered to protesting players.
It’s not clear how this would be possible with the scope of the rules and league’s CBA with the NFLPA so clearly defined, but SB Nation suggests language in Article 8 of the “Game Timing” rule that may allow the league to punish players conveying “personal messages” during pre-game activities.
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This response to someone grieving a friend might be the best internet comment ever
When someone is hit with the sudden loss of a friend or loved one, words rarely feel like enough. Yet, more than a decade ago, a wise Redditor named GSnow shared thoughts so profound they still bring comfort to grieving hearts today.
Originally posted around 2011, the now-famous reply was rediscovered when Upvoted, an official Reddit publication, featured it again to remind everyone of its enduring truth. It began as a simple plea for help: “My friend just died. I don't know what to do.”
What followed was a piece of writing that many consider one of the internet’s best comments of all time. It remains shared across social media, grief forums, and personal messages to this day because its honesty and metaphor speak to the raw reality of loss and the slow, irregular path toward healing.
Below is GSnow’s full reply, unchanged, in all its gentle, wave-crashing beauty:
Why this advice still matters
Mental health professionals and grief counselors often describe bereavement in stages or phases, but GSnow’s “wave theory” gives an image more relatable for many. Rather than a linear process, grief surges and retreats—sometimes triggered by a song, a place, or a simple morning cup of coffee.
In recent years, this metaphor has found renewed relevance. Communities on Reddit, TikTok, and grief support groups frequently reshare it to help explain the unpredictable nature of mourning.
Many readers say this analogy helps them feel less alone, giving them permission to ride each wave of grief rather than fight it.
Finding comfort in shared wisdom
Since this comment first surfaced, countless people have posted their own stories underneath it, thanking GSnow and passing the words to others facing fresh heartbreak. It’s proof that sometimes, the internet can feel like a global support group—strangers linked by shared loss and hope.
For those searching for more support today, organizations like The Dougy Center, GriefShare, and local bereavement groups offer compassionate resources. If you or someone you know is struggling with intense grief, please reach out to mental health professionals who can help navigate these deep waters.
When grief comes crashing like the ocean, remember these words—and hang on. There is life between the waves.
This article originally appeared four years ago.