In February of 2012, I started my very own Giving Pledge. I was frustrated by the lack of donations to worthy nonprofits on my part at the end of 2011.


The problem was that my husband and I didn’t make giving a priority throughout the year. Once the “giving season” and the last chance to get those tax-deductible donations in arrived, we simply couldn’t afford to donate a lot of money all at once. Not many people can, I suspect.

I noted that waiting until the end of the year to donate money to a good cause is a terrible giving strategy.

I should know better, considering I’ve worked in nonprofit development and fundraising in some capacity for nearly 10 years. There’s a need for money year round, not just in December.

Since I declared my Giving Pledge – to donate to at least one nonprofit each month – I’ve blogged about whom I’ve donated to and why. My goal was for my husband and I to give to more organizations and feel better about our philanthropic efforts at the end of the year.

After two full years of my Giving Pledge, I can safely say “mission accomplished.” Compared to my 2011, my charitable contributions when up significantly in 2012 and 2013. Looking back at my donations in these two years, I learned a few things about myself and my giving habits. Here are six of those lessons:

1. Personal connections make a big difference. In many cases, it was less the cause I donated to and more the person I was supporting through the donation. And it wasn’t always someone close to me personally. My husband often suggested a donation based on his own professional relationships. It felt good to publicly show our support.

2. My donations often coincided with my philanthropy-related blog posts. Not to say that if I write about your nonprofit, I will donate money. But I was affected when I wrote about organizations and their work. I suspect this is due to my getting to know the organization better through research and that newfound personal connection.

3. Sometimes I donate on a whim. I suspect many of us do this. Some of my donations were to support the recovery efforts for Hurricane Sandy or the local youth and family services agency after the shooting at Sandy Hook Elementary School in Newtown, Connecticut. Closer to home, I also supported The One Fund Boston. These were all no brainer donations for me. I wanted needed to help. Immediately.

4. The more tangible the gift, the better. During the two years of my Giving Pledge, I purchased four faucets to provide clean, safe water to areas that lack sanitation and contributed to microloans that helped women start new businesses and new lives for their families. I also helped pay for three months of education for a child. Bottom line: it feels good to know exactly how my money will be spent.

5. Good communication after the donation matters. Being on the nonprofit development side of the coin, I pay close attention to the follow up that is made after a making a gift. A handwritten note or personal email goes a long way in my book. Some organizations were amazing at this, while others failed to send me a generic thank you letter. When an organization sends me too many solicitations, I start to tune out completely.

6. Giving does become a habit once you become deliberate with donating your money. I did not have problems finding organizations to which to send money. In fact, I often found the donations would just come to me, somehow, each month. After a while, there was very little thinking about where my donation would end up, and I almost never had to remind myself of my pledge.

While I can’t say I’m surprised by my observations and lessons learned from the experience, it’s interesting to look at my donations as a whole. I’m still participating in my Giving Pledge and blogging about it. At some point, I may choose one cause or organization to maximize my donations even more. For now, I’m donating and narrowing down where I most want my money to go. My family has been a key part of this process as well. We make a difference together.

We might never get on this giving pledge list, but together we can make an impact by simply designating some of our money each month to put back into our communities.

Do you make charitable contributions on a regular basis? What observations have you made about your giving?

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    Reddit user Girlfriendhatesmefor’s three-year-old pitbull, Otis, had recently become overprotective of his wife. So he asked the online community if they knew what might be wrong with the dog.

    “A week or two ago, my wife got some sort of stomach bug,” the Reddit user wrote under the subreddit /r/dogs. “She was really nauseous and ill for about a week. Otis is very in tune with her emotions (we once got in a fight and she was upset, I swear he was staring daggers at me lol) and during this time didn’t even want to leave her to go on walks. We thought it was adorable!”

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    Girlfriendhatesmefor began to fear that Otis’ behavior may be an early sign of an aggression issue or an indication that the dog was hurt or sick.

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    The potential news hit Girlfriendhatesmefor like a ton of bricks. A few days later, Girlfriendhatesmefor posted an update and ZZBC was right!

    “The wifey is pregnant!” the father-to-be wrote. “Otis is still being overprotective but it all makes sense now! Thanks for all the advice and kind words! Sorry for the delayed reply, I didn’t check back until just now!”

    Redditors responded with similar experiences.

    Anecdotal I know but I swear my dog knew I was pregnant before I was. He was super clingy (more than normal) and was always resting his head on my belly.

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    So why do dogs get overprotective when someone is pregnant?

    Jeff Werber, PhD, president and chief veterinarian of the Century Veterinary Group in Los Angeles, told Health.com that “dogs can also smell the hormonal changes going on in a woman’s body at that time.” He added the dog may “not understand that this new scent of your skin and breath is caused by a developing baby, but they will know that something is different with you—which might cause them to be more curious or attentive.”

    The big lesson here is to listen to your pets and to ask questions when their behavior abruptly changes. They may be trying to tell you something, and the news may be life-changing.

    This article originally appeared last year.

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