Woman's unconventional explanation why time doesn't heal a heartbreak resonates with many

Many people cling to the saying "Time heals," yet often find themselves doubting it. Even those who believe the phrase can struggle with pain long after the fact. Heartbreak, for example, can trap some in misery for years, while others emerge stronger. When a TikTok user, @baliquicktalk, interviewed a woman on the streets of Bali, he asked if time truly heals a broken heart. Her answer was insightful: “I think so, but you have to be intentional about it.”

The woman pointed out that while many trust the phrase "Time heals," time alone isn’t enough. What truly matters is how we use that time. She explained that healing depends on one’s mindset and the effort put into moving forward. “You know, you can say I have this time to process these things and I need to make use of it,” she said, adding, “Otherwise, it’s just time.” Her final thought was clear: time only heals if we give it purpose.

People had opinions to share and many agreed with the woman’s unique perspective. @jude.pereze pointed out another perspective saying, “Time doesn’t heal, it just teaches us how to live with pain.” @dgap.97 added to the woman’s answer saying, “It’s not time that heals you, it’s what you do during that time.” Many people pointed out another opinion, saying that even though time may heal, heartbreak can come back rushing in a jiffy. @ayaaauna remarked, “How can you tell if you’ve healed or not? It’s fine sometimes but other times you’re still crying even though you’re getting back on track.”

Still, others mentioned that there is not always complete healing from heartbreak. @mushroomilicious wrote, “Time won’t heal, but as time goes by, we learn to live with it as if it's been a part of our lives. If you are lucky, it’ll just be scars or, it’ll itch sometimes.” People were curious to explore different approaches to heartbreak, which were revealed through the comments. @a_melt pointed out, “Time heals nothing, we just get used to living with the hurt feeling. The hole that is in your heart can never be filled with time.” @joyboytrading added, “Time heals but you have to help time heal you. Explore new things, get busy.”

Some people were exceptionally impressed and touched by the words the woman spoke, especially about putting meaning into time. @mzzzznan shared, “It’s funny how I saw this after my relationship ended. Her words have become a mantra for me to live by.” @huliaana wrote, “I love this. I love how she says you need to be intentional when it comes to healing.”

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