It’s been discussed on Twitter more than any other show in 2017—and has catalyzed much needed conversations about preventing teen suicide—but school districts across the nation continue to be uncomfortable talking with students about Netflix’s hit series 13 Reasons Why. And thanks to the popularity of the show, some folks are being reminded that they don’t want teenagers to read the book it’s based on, either.
Officials in Mesa County Valley School District in Colorado recently ordered librarians to take Thirteen Reasons Why off school library shelves over concerns that it, like the series, glamorizes suicide. “Due to recent events and media attention on the Netflix movie 13 Reasons Why, I am going to have this book temporarily removed from any kind of check out,” curriculum director Leigh Grasso wrote in an email to district librarians on April 28, reported Grand Junction’s newspaper, The Daily Sentinel.
[quote position="left" is_quote="true"]I dare any censor to tell that girl it was inappropriate for her to read my book,[/quote]
Grasso and other administrators in Mesa County have cause for worry: During the 2016-2017 school year, seven students in the 22,000-student district, which is located about 40 miles east of the Utah state line, have died by suicide. “It would be hard for anybody who has dealt with suicide to not have a heightened awareness of things, to perhaps be a little more cautious about things,” Grasso explained to The Associated Press on Tuesday about her decision.
Like the series, the novel tells the story of the suicide of the main character, 16-year-old Hannah Baker, by addressing real issues that teens face, like drugs, bullying, and sexual assault. Since its publication in 2007, the best-selling book has proven popular with teenagers, but it has also sparked plenty of controversy. By 2012, it ranked third on the American Library Association’s annual list of challenged books—books that parents, teachers, or other community members try to get removed from library shelves. Novels such as Harper Lee’s To Kill A Mockingbird and Suzanne Collins’ The Hunger Games have also made the list in recent years.
In 2012 Asher told CNN that attempts to get the book removed make him believe that it’s even more necessary. "If people are dealing with it, we need to talk about it. Otherwise, we contribute to the main reason people don't reach out for help,” Asher said.
“The very day I found out Thirteen Reasons Why was the third most challenged book, I received an email from a reader claiming my book kept her from committing suicide. I dare any censor to tell that girl it was inappropriate for her to read my book,” Asher added.
Meanwhile, in Mesa County, district librarians successfully pushed back against yanking the young adult novel off shelves. “Once we start pulling and censoring books for all students as a reactive measure there is no line to which we follow,” wrote one librarian in an email, reported the Sentinel.
District officials have acknowledged that there is no evidence that those students in the community who killed themselves had either read the book or watched the series. Since students are reading the book—and with 19 out of 20 copies checked out of Mesa County school libraries, they definitely are—a better idea might be for concerned parents and teachers to actually discuss the novel (and series) with teens. Hint: Talking points are out there.
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This response to someone grieving a friend might be the best internet comment ever
When someone is hit with the sudden loss of a friend or loved one, words rarely feel like enough. Yet, more than a decade ago, a wise Redditor named GSnow shared thoughts so profound they still bring comfort to grieving hearts today.
Originally posted around 2011, the now-famous reply was rediscovered when Upvoted, an official Reddit publication, featured it again to remind everyone of its enduring truth. It began as a simple plea for help: “My friend just died. I don't know what to do.”
What followed was a piece of writing that many consider one of the internet’s best comments of all time. It remains shared across social media, grief forums, and personal messages to this day because its honesty and metaphor speak to the raw reality of loss and the slow, irregular path toward healing.
Below is GSnow’s full reply, unchanged, in all its gentle, wave-crashing beauty:
Why this advice still matters
Mental health professionals and grief counselors often describe bereavement in stages or phases, but GSnow’s “wave theory” gives an image more relatable for many. Rather than a linear process, grief surges and retreats—sometimes triggered by a song, a place, or a simple morning cup of coffee.
In recent years, this metaphor has found renewed relevance. Communities on Reddit, TikTok, and grief support groups frequently reshare it to help explain the unpredictable nature of mourning.
Many readers say this analogy helps them feel less alone, giving them permission to ride each wave of grief rather than fight it.
Finding comfort in shared wisdom
Since this comment first surfaced, countless people have posted their own stories underneath it, thanking GSnow and passing the words to others facing fresh heartbreak. It’s proof that sometimes, the internet can feel like a global support group—strangers linked by shared loss and hope.
For those searching for more support today, organizations like The Dougy Center, GriefShare, and local bereavement groups offer compassionate resources. If you or someone you know is struggling with intense grief, please reach out to mental health professionals who can help navigate these deep waters.
When grief comes crashing like the ocean, remember these words—and hang on. There is life between the waves.
This article originally appeared four years ago.