By Cameron Glover
What do we do when a student misbehaves? Traditional methods of discipline — like reprimanding, detention, or suspension — may not actually solve the problem. Those approaches usually fail to produce long-term solutions, making it more likely for students to disengage or drop out altogether.
Restorative justice is becoming a more recognized approach, particularly in education. In schools, it’s leading to more engaged, passionate, and community-focused students. But what exactly is restorative justice? In short, it’s a collaborative alternative. “Restorative” here means putting more focus on repairing the harm caused by an incident than on punishing the guilty parties.
Schools are beginning to use this method to empower students as self-advocates and problem-solvers. One school committed to this transformative approach is XQ Vista High School in Vista, California. Vista High has taken steps to employ restorative justice in its educational framework and has seen a real improvement in its student body.
[quote position="full" is_quote="true"]Incorporating this approach to handle missteps and behaviors helps to bring self-awareness, ownership, and self-responsibility to students.[/quote]
Vista High puts focus on the students’ abilities to self-improve and advocate for themselves by relying on cooperative problem-solving. It might be in the form of peer mediation, restorative circles (where a student that has harmed others sits in a circle, hearing the voices of those they have harmed), or group discussions. Doing things this way aims to encourage students to do better without relying on the shame of their past actions to eclipse their chances for retribution.
Craig Gastauer, curriculum and instruction lead at Vista High School, spoke about what led to the school’s switch from traditional techniques to a restorative justice model. “Students do not always understand how to communicate their discomfort, stress, or anxiety and, as a result, cannot focus as intently on their learning when these factors are in the forefront of their minds,” he explains.
“Restorative practice is about building relationships and developing a community to help ensure that every student knows they are an important part of a caring community,” he adds.
By pivoting to a community-based approach, students feel more invested in both their education and their peers. “Students understand that their actions impact the community and the relationships around them,” Gastauer says. “Restorative practices build healthy communities, increase social capital, reduce the impact of crime, decrease antisocial behavior, repair harm, and restore relationships.”
The results haven’t just affected students; the environment has been better for educators, too. As one teacher at Vista describes it, “it feels like family in the classroom.” This increased sense of safety and trust promotes empathy from teachers — a key component of student success. This, along with an emphasis on collaboration, encourages everyone to build on their strengths in order to uplift the community rather than just the individual.
[quote position="full" is_quote="true"] When we see restorative justice in the classroom, success becomes a collective endeavor.[/quote]
“The essence of restorative practices is simple: Human beings are happier, more productive, and more likely to make positive changes in their behavior when those in positions of authority do things with them rather than to them or for them,” Gastauer says.
Though it may be a new term for some, restorative justice’s potential for engaging and energizing students, particularly those who are struggling, is promising to say the least. After all, when students — like those at Vista — are given the opportunity to learn from their mistakes, a real transformation can happen. For students’ positive growth as well as their transition into the broader community, restorative justice may have a place in education for years to come.
Grieving couple comforting each other
This response to someone grieving a friend might be the best internet comment ever
When someone is hit with the sudden loss of a friend or loved one, words rarely feel like enough. Yet, more than a decade ago, a wise Redditor named GSnow shared thoughts so profound they still bring comfort to grieving hearts today.
Originally posted around 2011, the now-famous reply was rediscovered when Upvoted, an official Reddit publication, featured it again to remind everyone of its enduring truth. It began as a simple plea for help: “My friend just died. I don't know what to do.”
What followed was a piece of writing that many consider one of the internet’s best comments of all time. It remains shared across social media, grief forums, and personal messages to this day because its honesty and metaphor speak to the raw reality of loss and the slow, irregular path toward healing.
Below is GSnow’s full reply, unchanged, in all its gentle, wave-crashing beauty:
Why this advice still matters
Mental health professionals and grief counselors often describe bereavement in stages or phases, but GSnow’s “wave theory” gives an image more relatable for many. Rather than a linear process, grief surges and retreats—sometimes triggered by a song, a place, or a simple morning cup of coffee.
In recent years, this metaphor has found renewed relevance. Communities on Reddit, TikTok, and grief support groups frequently reshare it to help explain the unpredictable nature of mourning.
Many readers say this analogy helps them feel less alone, giving them permission to ride each wave of grief rather than fight it.
Finding comfort in shared wisdom
Since this comment first surfaced, countless people have posted their own stories underneath it, thanking GSnow and passing the words to others facing fresh heartbreak. It’s proof that sometimes, the internet can feel like a global support group—strangers linked by shared loss and hope.
For those searching for more support today, organizations like The Dougy Center, GriefShare, and local bereavement groups offer compassionate resources. If you or someone you know is struggling with intense grief, please reach out to mental health professionals who can help navigate these deep waters.
When grief comes crashing like the ocean, remember these words—and hang on. There is life between the waves.
This article originally appeared four years ago.