Duke has found its basketball program making headlines for all the wrong reasons after head coach Mike Krzyzewski announced that he would be suspending his starting guard due to a bizarre pattern of unsportsmanlike behavior. Grayson Allen will be sidelined for an indefinite period of time after he was caught on video intentionally tripping an opposing player when Duke played Elon last night.
The tripping incident against Steven Santa Ana was Allen’s third in the past year and enough that the team and Mike Krzyzewski specifically felt that a simple apology, as Allen had offered in the past, wasn’t enough this time.
The coach issued a statement to the media surrounding the strange turn of events, offering:
"We have had the opportunity to thoroughly review the incident involving Grayson Allen from last night's game against Elon. As I stated last night, the incident was unacceptable and inexcusable. He took an important step last night by apologizing in person to Steven Santa Ana and Coach Matt Matheny.
"As a program, we needed to take further steps regarding his actions that do not meet the standards of Duke Basketball. To that end, we have determined that Grayson will be suspended from competition for an indefinite amount of time."
Duke’s continued success on the court along with their outspoken fan base has made the team a popular villain in the landscape of college basketball. To that end, Allen’s actions aren’t doing the program any favors, but perhaps his suspension will show that the team is serious about sportsmanship. Many are now proclaiming Grayson Allen the most loathsome player in the history of a program that’s been rife with them:
Particularly troubling to many was Allen’s violent reaction on the bench following the foul:
Speaking to the duration of the suspension, Krzyzewski was forthright in stating that he didn’t know how long it would take before he felt comfortable putting Allen back on the court. He said, "Maybe it's three [games]. Maybe it's two weeks. I don't know. He won't play until I feel good about the entire situation and where he is at. That's my responsibility as his coach and as a teacher of young men."
Allen’s averaged 20.6 points per game since last season, leading all players in major conferences, so while his absence will hinder the team’s performance on the court, letting him play under these circumstances would likely do even more harm to the program as a whole.
Grieving couple comforting each other
This response to someone grieving a friend might be the best internet comment ever
When someone is hit with the sudden loss of a friend or loved one, words rarely feel like enough. Yet, more than a decade ago, a wise Redditor named GSnow shared thoughts so profound they still bring comfort to grieving hearts today.
Originally posted around 2011, the now-famous reply was rediscovered when Upvoted, an official Reddit publication, featured it again to remind everyone of its enduring truth. It began as a simple plea for help: “My friend just died. I don't know what to do.”
What followed was a piece of writing that many consider one of the internet’s best comments of all time. It remains shared across social media, grief forums, and personal messages to this day because its honesty and metaphor speak to the raw reality of loss and the slow, irregular path toward healing.
Below is GSnow’s full reply, unchanged, in all its gentle, wave-crashing beauty:
Why this advice still matters
Mental health professionals and grief counselors often describe bereavement in stages or phases, but GSnow’s “wave theory” gives an image more relatable for many. Rather than a linear process, grief surges and retreats—sometimes triggered by a song, a place, or a simple morning cup of coffee.
In recent years, this metaphor has found renewed relevance. Communities on Reddit, TikTok, and grief support groups frequently reshare it to help explain the unpredictable nature of mourning.
Many readers say this analogy helps them feel less alone, giving them permission to ride each wave of grief rather than fight it.
Finding comfort in shared wisdom
Since this comment first surfaced, countless people have posted their own stories underneath it, thanking GSnow and passing the words to others facing fresh heartbreak. It’s proof that sometimes, the internet can feel like a global support group—strangers linked by shared loss and hope.
For those searching for more support today, organizations like The Dougy Center, GriefShare, and local bereavement groups offer compassionate resources. If you or someone you know is struggling with intense grief, please reach out to mental health professionals who can help navigate these deep waters.
When grief comes crashing like the ocean, remember these words—and hang on. There is life between the waves.
This article originally appeared four years ago.