Hate to break it to you, but you’re not always in complete control of your thinking. Your decisions and thoughts are constantly influenced by outside forces and biases deep within your brain, or that are just hardwired through life experience, evolution, and so on. We don’t always think about how we’re thinking, and it could get us stuck in life.

Fortunately, the folks at Escaping Ordinary have cooked up an extensive list of the most common “mind traps” that have been taken from the Nobel Prize-winning behavioral psychologist Daniel Kahneman and his book Thinking, Fast and Slow. They have found 21 fallacies, biases, and other concepts that could interfere with logical, thoughtful thinking. We’re only going to go over ten of them—and note you may not be able to control them all—but recognizing them could help you make better decisions.

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Analyzing how you think could help you think better overall. Photo credit: Canva

1. Cognitive Dissonance

Have you ever tried to build IKEA furniture and quit midway saying it was junk anyway? This is Cognitive Dissonance, a belief (“This IKEA bookcase would be great!”) versus a new belief (“Meh, that bookcase sucked anyway.”). Instead of acknowledging your limitations and improving upon them (furniture assembly, in this case), you write it off as worthless and don’t improve.

2. The Halo Effect

The Halo Effect makes us cling to the first piece of information rather than the entire sum, especially when it’s positive. Positive first impressions influence the rest of our thinking, making objectively bad ideas or people seem better or trustworthy. It’s why many people stay in toxic romantic relationships—they remember and cling to the initial attractive qualities instead of stepping back to analyze the entire personality of their partner.

3. Confirmation Bias

Confirmation Bias is when you have an existing belief and try to find evidence to enforce that belief while unintentionally discarding any evidence that conflicts with that belief. Our egos keep us from wanting ourselves to think we’d believe in something false for so long. Hence, confirmation bias often keeps us from expanding our knowledge and has us filter the information we pay attention to. Even smart people make this mistake instead of retesting theories and asking bigger questions.

4. The Spotlight Effect

Ever go to a party thinking everyone notices that pimple on your cheek? The Spotlight Effect is when people determine that others are observing them more than they are. In reality, very few people or no one actually notices, and if they do notice, they don’t really care. So, just have fun, don’t be anxious, and don’t worry about the blemish.

5. The Anchoring Effect

When you’re entering an auto dealership, you’re entering a world of the Anchoring Effect. Have you ever seen the ridiculously expensive sticker price on a car then a slash over it with a new, lower price? It looks like a much better deal, but is it really? The dealer is actually using your “anchors” of price expectations to make it seem better when the “deal” is the profitable price they wanted you to pay in the first place.

6. The Baader-Meinhoff Phenomenon

Continuing from the previous entry, let’s say you didn’t fall for the Anchoring Effect at the dealership and bought a Nissan Cube. You never noticed it before, but all of a sudden you start seeing Nissan Cubes at the grocery store parking lot, in your neighborhood, and everywhere. This is the Baader-Meinhoff Phenomenon. It’s an illusion that something appears more often, but it was always there. You just hadn’t bothered to notice it before.

7. The Contrast Effect

This is another one that can apply to shopping. Paying $699.00 for wheels for a Mac Pro computer seems incredibly expensive and you’d probably look for cheaper options if you were buying the wheels alone for a computer tower. However, your brain might think it’s not so bad if you’re buying them alongside a new $6,999.00 Mac Pro. It’s best to check yourself to make sure you’re not getting upsold through comparison and contrast.

8. The Zeigarnik Effect

If you’re a person who hyper focuses on incomplete tasks to the point in which it’s causing anxiety and you’re ignoring all that you did finish or accomplish, you’re a victim of the Zeigarnik Effect. Psychologists say the best method to combat the negative impact is to handwrite your tasks down on a note pad to not only remind you of what is unfinished and needs to be checked off, but also to have a written history about all that you have accomplished once you complete those tasks so you can be kinder to yourself.

9. The Paradox of Choice

If you’re subscribed to Netflix or some other streaming service, it’s because they offer hundreds of different movies and TV shows, right? But how many times do you spend long periods of time scrolling through them all, feeling fatigued, and doing something else instead? This situation is the Paradox of Choice. We tire ourselves out because there are so many options in front of us that we end up choosing nothing out of mental paralysis. If presented with a smaller size of potential picks, it’s easier for our brains to weigh pros and cons while also feeling good about the final decision, since there is less chance of missing out on something better.

10. Gambler’s Fallacy

Ever see a gambler who thinks that, since the roulette wheel landed on black three times, it’s best to bet on red? Or did you take a multiple-choice test and pick option C even though B felt like the right answer because you had already chosen B in the previous two questions? It feels like it should change, even though statistically everything is the same. That’s the root of the Gambler’s Fallacy. It’s best to remember that there’s no “balancing force” behind guesses, choices, and chance.

Knowing and recognizing all of these may help you better understand how your brain works, and, hopefully, lead to better decisions in the long term. If you want to know about other cognitive concepts that could be hindering your progress or interfering with your day-to-day life, you can learn about the 11 other mind traps in Escaping Obscurity’s video below.

  • A bride collapsed during her own rehearsal dinner toast. The detective who burst in explained everything.
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    A bride collapsed during her own rehearsal dinner toast. The detective who burst in explained everything.

    She planned a prank for the rehearsal dinner and cast herself as the victim. The groom had no idea.

    Alexandra Lahde had been a couple of things on the night of her rehearsal dinner: a bride, a hostess, and, briefly, a corpse.

    The 28-year-old barista from Canada had spent months planning the evening at Fairmont Banff Springs, one of the most storied hotels in the country. The decor was themed around old Hollywood glamour and detective fiction, with a vintage typewriter welcome sign, magnifying glass name tags, and moody florals and candles throughout the room. If any of her 30 guests noticed the clues, they kept quiet about it. When Alexandra clinked her wine glass to give a toast, nobody suspected a thing.

    “I just wanted to take a second and thank you all so much for coming here,” she began. Then she started to cough. She tried to continue. She coughed again, clutched the counter beside her, and said, “Oh my God” before dropping to the floor. Two guests who had been in on it from the start called out, “She’s dead. She’s DEAD!” Her husband Ian rushed toward her. Before anyone else could react, a man in a detective costume burst through the doors, flashing a badge. “Nobody move! My name is Bert Hammel. I’m from a bad police department. I’ve been told there’s a murder,” he announced, before looking down at Alexandra’s motionless body. “I can’t feel a pulse. The bride has been poisoned.”

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    The evening was underway. The actor, Eric from the improv company THEY Improv, had been hired by Alexandra with help from her wedding planner Melissa Alison Events. The murder plot was tied to the Fairmont Banff itself, which has its own legendary ghost bride story. Selected guests had been pulled into a separate room before dinner, briefed on the plot, and given character roles to play. After the faux detective questioned them in front of the group, guests split into teams to solve the mystery.

    Alexandra told People magazine that she had only learned the full script about 15 minutes before her guests arrived, which suited her perfectly. “I find I work best when I have little to no plan, so I went into it pretty blind,” she said, “only having practiced my expression and fall in the bathroom a few times before!”

    The video, captured by videographer Alesia Hardy (@alesiafilms) of Alesia Films, has since gone massively viral. Viewers were particularly impressed by one logistical detail: the detective appeared within seconds of Alexandra hitting the floor, giving the groom and guests no time to spiral into genuine panic. “The fact that the detective was virtually immediate to signal that she was okay and it was a game is the PERFECT way to pull this off,” one commenter wrote.

    This article originally appeared earlier this year.

  • Woman at airport quietly pays for dad who couldn’t afford toddler’s $700 ticket
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    Woman at airport quietly pays for dad who couldn’t afford toddler’s $700 ticket

    Debbie Bolton didn’t introduce herself or ask for thanks, she just handed over her card.

    He had done the math when he booked the flight. His daughter was under two, which meant she could sit on his lap for free. By the time they got to the check-in counter at Omaha’s Eppley Airfield, she was two, which meant she couldn’t.

    The ticket agent broke it to him simply: his daughter needed her own seat, and that seat would cost $749. The man stepped away from the counter, hugged his daughter, and started making calls. He’d told the agent he couldn’t afford to rebook his own ticket, let alone buy a second one. A fellow traveler who witnessed the scene, Kevin Leslie, later described what happened next on Facebook: “He was hit with emotion. He mentioned he couldn’t afford to rebook this flight or get her the ticket with such short notice. He stepped aside and tried to make a few calls. Hugging his daughter and grabbing his head, you could tell he was heartbroken.”

    That’s when the woman standing behind him in line spoke up.

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    “I wanna buy her ticket,” she told the agent, pointing to the little girl. The agent, caught off guard, double-checked: “You know how much this ticket costs, right?” The woman said yes. She pulled out her credit card and told the agent to charge it.

    The man asked for her name so he could pay her back. She told him not to worry about it and walked away.

    Leslie posted about what he’d seen, and the photo he’d taken began circulating on Facebook, eventually racking up tens of thousands of shares. People wanted to know who the woman was. Within hours, she was identified: Debbie Bolton, co-founder and Global Chief Sales Officer of Norwex, a sustainable cleaning products company.

    The story resurfaced in a big way in November 2025, when TikTok creator Bo Grant (@marriedtoalunatic) shared a video about it that went viral all over again, introducing the moment to millions of people who’d never heard it.

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    Woman Identified as Debbie Bolton after interaction with a stranger and his 2 year old child is caught on camera #karma #kindnessmatters #norwex #heartwarming #debbiebolton

    ♬ original sound – Bo Grant

    Bolton, who spoke with Newsweek about the incident, said she noticed the father growing increasingly distressed at the counter and felt she had to do something. “He seemed like he couldn’t afford it and was traveling to visit family,” she said. She described the decision as straightforward. “I always ask myself every day, ‘Whose miracle can I be today?’” she said. “That day I was given the opportunity to be a miracle for someone else and I took action.”

    She said she hadn’t expected the story to travel as far as it did. “I honestly didn’t expect the story to resonate with so many people,” she told Newsweek. “My only intention was to help someone in need.” When Norwex confirmed her identity to CBS News at the time, the company’s chief marketing officer Amy Cadora said they were “very proud” of her. “She’s kind, caring and generous,” Cadora said. “That’s why none of us was a bit surprised.”

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    “In a world full of Karens, be a Debbie!” Today, our Co-Founder Debbie Bolton is sharing a special message straight from the heart. 💚 We want to thank you for the incredible outpouring of kindness, messages, and support after her airport story touched so many this past weekend. As we head into the busiest time of year, we challenge you to look for simple opportunities to show kindness. It’s woven into everything we do at Norwex, from our home office to our Consultant community that Debbie has helped nurture since 1994. One person alone can’t change the world…but together? Together we can create something extraordinary. 💚 #norwex #sustainability #cleanhome #cleanliving #thankyou

    ♬ original sound – Norwex

    This article originally appeared earlier this year.

  • A couple sat in an Olympian’s seat and asked her to swap. She has a name for exactly what they were doing.
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    Cynthia Appiah just got back from competing at the 2026 Winter Olympics in Milan. She finished 13th in the monobob and 14th in the two-woman event at the Cortina Sliding Centre, racing alongside brakewoman Dawn Richardson Wilson. A few years before that, she was on a flight from Toronto to Calgary when a couple decided her seat looked better than their own.

    Appiah is a national team athlete whose training means she flies between the two cities constantly. Over the years she’s accumulated enough airline points to occasionally upgrade, and on this particular flight she’d used some to book a premium economy aisle seat. She chose the aisle specifically so she could move around freely during the four-hour flight without climbing over anyone. She paid for the upgrade at the time of booking, as she always does, because she doesn’t want to be an inconvenience to other passengers.

    She boarded, found her row, and discovered a woman already sitting in her seat. The woman’s boyfriend was next to her in the adjacent window seat. Appiah triple-checked her ticket. The seat was hers.

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    When she pointed this out, the woman acknowledged it without much embarrassment. She knew she was in the wrong seat, she said. She was just wondering if Appiah might not mind switching with her own seat, just one row back, so she could sit next to her boyfriend for the flight. Her seat was also premium economy, but it was a window seat.

    Appiah’s answer was no.

    “I told her, nope, I paid for this seat. I would rather stick with my seat,” she said in the TikTok video, as reported by Narcity Canada. “I was just like, I bought the aisle and I’m not moving.”

    The woman was upset, but as Appiah noted, she knew there wasn’t much of a fight to be had. She moved. The flight proceeded.

    Appiah posted the story to TikTok under the caption “Seat selection is your friend. I promise you,” and it spread rapidly, resonating with the sizable portion of the traveling public who have been in exactly her position. What made her framing stand out was a phrase she used for what the couple had attempted: “Nice bullying.” The strategy of occupying someone’s seat and then sweetly asking them to accommodate you, banking on social pressure to make refusal feel rude. As Appiah put it, people should not “kindly ask, but really bully, people into giving up their seats.”

    Her point wasn’t that couples shouldn’t want to sit together. It’s that the time to sort that out is before the flight, not after someone has already paid for the seat you’re sitting in. “If you don’t want to pay for seat selection, then that’s up to you and you deal with the consequences,” she said.

    The response in the comments was largely in agreement. A Delta flight attendant with 28 years of experience said that seat swaps are only really reasonable when they involve seats of equivalent value. A window seat for a window seat. An aisle for an aisle. Asking someone to trade a paid aisle upgrade for an unrequested window seat is a different thing entirely.

    Appiah grew up in Toronto public housing, the daughter of Ghanaian immigrants, and was introduced to sport through a Blue Jays community outreach initiative in her neighborhood. She made Canada’s national bobsleigh team through years of work, competed at the 2022 Beijing Winter Olympics, and has now completed her second Olympic Games in Milan.

    She also recently competed on Jeopardy, incorrectly answered a question about Tim Hortons, and says she may never fully recover. She is, by all available evidence, exactly the kind of person who is going to politely but firmly keep the seat she paid for.

    You can follow Cynthia Appiah (@cyndiesel) on TikTok to learn more about her daily life as a bobsleigh athlete. 

    This article originally appeared earlier this year.

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