Athletes at the 2018 Winter Olympic Games train more than just muscle to get this far. Some of the most decorated Olympians, and Paralympians, also focus on taking care of their minds and emotional needs in order to stay at the top of their respective games. A new video series called “My Focus,” presented by Milk Life, shows how athletes sharpened their mental skills for their quest to win gold at the Games.
Here are some of their secrets to getting and staying ahead of the competition.
They Know When To Laugh It Off
Olympic gold medalist freestyle skier Maddie Bowman knows that in order to be successful as an athlete, she has to take care of her herself both mentally and physically. Bowman talks about being comfortable in her own skin, and skiing with passion. Having sustained knee injuries and criticism since winning a gold medal in 2014 in Sochi, she says, “you have to find your own way. For me, I had to get comfortable with being vulnerable.”
Bowman also finds wellness benefits in laughter. “I love hearing a joke or telling a joke at the top of a run,” she told Team USA’s Karen Price. “It always happens naturally and gives you a little smile and reminds me that I’m out here just doing this for fun.”
The result of being in good place mentally? She calls it “skiing with flow.”
They Know The Power Of Mental Strength
“You have to learn from everything, but at the end of the day, your mind is your greatest tool,” says Paralympic snowboarder Keith Gabel. He knows his internal strength is just as important as his external ability. He’s been working on meditation and says that mental strength can “separate the men from the boys.”
Olympic bobsled bronze medalist Jamie Greubel Poser agrees. Because she and her teammates don't get much time to train on the ice each day — only about two minutes out of the hours spent on strength and endurance training — she talks about the importance of “taking advantage of every moment.” She says she utilizes visualization techniques, such as “mind runs,” and other mental training tasks during her time off the track to mentally prepare for races.
They Use Togetherness
Two-time Paralympic sled hockey player Rico Roman is an Iraq War veteran, a Purple Heart recipient, and a gold medal recipient. He knows a thing or two about leadership and teamwork. But he also finds that it’s the little things that count outside the rink when it comes to creating the chemistry needed for a team capable of winning gold.
“A lot of us are definitely working hard again in the gym, and on the ice,” he told Team USA’s Doug Williams. “But I think also getting along off the ice, all living under one roof now, eating dinners together, going around the city together. I think building that team bond, that brotherhood, and taking that into the Games will be a huge advantage for us.”
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This response to someone grieving a friend might be the best internet comment ever
When someone is hit with the sudden loss of a friend or loved one, words rarely feel like enough. Yet, more than a decade ago, a wise Redditor named GSnow shared thoughts so profound they still bring comfort to grieving hearts today.
Originally posted around 2011, the now-famous reply was rediscovered when Upvoted, an official Reddit publication, featured it again to remind everyone of its enduring truth. It began as a simple plea for help: “My friend just died. I don't know what to do.”
What followed was a piece of writing that many consider one of the internet’s best comments of all time. It remains shared across social media, grief forums, and personal messages to this day because its honesty and metaphor speak to the raw reality of loss and the slow, irregular path toward healing.
Below is GSnow’s full reply, unchanged, in all its gentle, wave-crashing beauty:
Why this advice still matters
Mental health professionals and grief counselors often describe bereavement in stages or phases, but GSnow’s “wave theory” gives an image more relatable for many. Rather than a linear process, grief surges and retreats—sometimes triggered by a song, a place, or a simple morning cup of coffee.
In recent years, this metaphor has found renewed relevance. Communities on Reddit, TikTok, and grief support groups frequently reshare it to help explain the unpredictable nature of mourning.
Many readers say this analogy helps them feel less alone, giving them permission to ride each wave of grief rather than fight it.
Finding comfort in shared wisdom
Since this comment first surfaced, countless people have posted their own stories underneath it, thanking GSnow and passing the words to others facing fresh heartbreak. It’s proof that sometimes, the internet can feel like a global support group—strangers linked by shared loss and hope.
For those searching for more support today, organizations like The Dougy Center, GriefShare, and local bereavement groups offer compassionate resources. If you or someone you know is struggling with intense grief, please reach out to mental health professionals who can help navigate these deep waters.
When grief comes crashing like the ocean, remember these words—and hang on. There is life between the waves.
This article originally appeared four years ago.