Humans have been using candles to illuminate the world for thousands of years. From ancient Egyptians who used candles by dipping reeds in melted animal fat to modern-day humans who use candles daubed in aromatic oils, candles are everywhere, and in every season. From pumpkin-spiced candles in autumn to chocolate-scented candles in winter, these sculpted blocks of colored wax adorn the shelves of nearly every home. Yet, humans still don’t know there is a right way to light the candles. A woman who goes as KK (@kktweetshaha) on X shared a post, revealing how most people have been lighting candles incorrectly and instead, how it should be done.

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Representative Image Source: Pexels | The Vibrant Machine

KK’s thread, posted in March 2024, has caught the attention of more than 11 million people, who she calls the “candle clueless fools.” In the first tweet, she wrote, “Just learned that my fiancé, who buys candles all the time and we literally always have candles burning, did not actually know how they work and blew out a medium first burn candle 30 minutes after I lit it when I wasn’t paying attention and ruined it.”


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In the following tweet, she shared the picture of a lighted candle, glowing orange and gold, with its orange wax accumulating on the edges and sinking in the middle. “If a candle is not burned for long enough on first burn to melt edge to edge it will create a ‘memory ring,’” she described. “Once a candle has a memory ring, it will continue to tunnel and never burn all the way across.”


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As it turns out, this process, in technical terms, is called “candle tunneling.” According to Harlem Candle Company, candle tunneling is a problem that occurs when a candle isn’t burned carefully, and “when a hole forms down the center, leaving unused wax at the edges.” It happens when only a small portion of the wax surrounding the candle is used up for burning. Instead of evenly melting, the flame will start melting away a tunnel into the wax block, which will lower the level of the wick in the liquid. 

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Representative Image Source: Pexels | Pixabay

Once the wick sinks deeper into the wax, the flame won’t be able to get enough oxygen to sustain itself, causing the candle to whiff out. Hence, over time, it will become difficult to light up the wick again. Plus, think about all that expensive wax daubed on the edges, that will go to waste. KK referred to this hard outer ring as the “memory ring.”


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Continuing the thread, KK shared an image of a pastel yellow candle, demonstrating what candle tunneling looks like for real. In another tweet, she wrote, “This is why you should not light a large candle at night, which is unlikely to burn all the way across before you need to blow out to go to bed. Allow at least one hour per inch of candle width.”


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In the comment section, where people shared their opinions and experiences about candles, @jrumrman brought attention to the factor that it depends on what brand the candle has. “Some brands burn better than others. I never have this issue with Sugar Shack candles.” In another comment, @composttraining asked KK whether there is a way to prevent candle tunneling. To this, KK recommended “wrapping the candle in tin foil to increase the temperature across the surface.” @casper70000 even shared a picture of a burning candle wrapped at the edges with silver foil.



Harlem Candle Company explains that to prevent candle tunneling, all one needs to do is melt the outer wax surrounding the tunnel and make the surface even again. This can be done either with a heat gun or a hair dryer. Plus, the aluminum foil method that KK wrote about, also helps to trap and reflect the candle’s heat to melt the extra wax and smooth over the top layer, while filling up the sinkhole. Furthermore, to prevent tunnelling they suggest burning the candle long enough each time so that the entire top surface of wax is melted. 

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@boobyjargon shared a picture of their candle tunneling, looking at which KK felt hurt. @thanksrolf said, “Sounds more like a design issue. Those candles were made for power users that don’t exist anymore.” This is true. Harlem Candle Company explains that “improperly sized wicks” are one of the causes of candle tunneling. If the wick is too small, it might not be able to generate enough heat to melt the wax all the way. This is a problem with the candle design, which is why, mass-produced candles experience tunneling more often than luxury, custom-made candles.


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Another reason behind tunneling is poor candle-burning habits. This is because wax contains “memory.” So, the wax that has been sitting around in the candle cup is usually harder than the unmelted wax that was cooled again. So, while burning the candle a second or a third time, the softer wax will melt more easily and quickly than the harder portion of wax, which can trigger tunneling before the candle is snuffed out.


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“Diving into the world of candles and discovering the whole ‘memory ring’ saga is like stumbling into a secret society of candle lovers who speak in hushed tones about the right way to burn the wax. Who knew, right? It’s almost like there should be a candle-burning manual handed out with every purchase because getting it wrong can turn your beautiful new candle into a tunneling disappointment that looks more like a sad cave than a source of light and warmth,” wrote @arrtnem in a poetic comment.



  • Elementary teacher shares the 3 biggest mistakes modern parents need to fix immediately
    Photo credit: CanvaA toddler on a smartphone (left) and a troubled parent (right).

    An elementary school teacher and mother of three who goes by @earlyedventure on TikTok offers a strong perspective on parenting in a recent post. She maintains that modern parents are making three key mistakes that need to be addressed immediately.

    In an entertaining and highly viewed post, she doesn’t hold back. Laying out a thoughtful and compelling perspective, she sends a clear message to parents about exactly what needs to change with their kids.

    It’s time to throw out the digital tablets

    She begins her tough-love discussion with something many have heard, but few have heeded:

    “Throw away the iPad. I’m sorry, I don’t care what you say. The data is undeniable. This is different than TV and movie time. The research shows they are vastly different. When you put an iPad in front of them, and they’re getting that constant dopamine hit for an hour, even though you think it’s educational, you are frying their brain. They show up into the classroom. They have zero empathy. They cannot be engaged.”

    Solid data support her impassioned opinion. According to a 2024 study in JAMA Pediatrics, digital tablet use was associated with increased anger and frustration outbursts, such as tantrums. Early exposure to screens may also delay both cognitive development and socioemotional growth.

    It’s not just the effects of screen time itself that are concerning. It’s what kids may be missing in the moments when they would normally be learning how to struggle, cope, and grow. The Guardian reported that screen time may deprive toddlers of real interactions and exposure to as many as 1,000 spoken words a day.

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    “Let them fail”

    “Let them fail. Don’t tie their shoes for them. When their tower falls down, let them struggle and figure it out. Because when they come to the classroom, the level of helplessness is absurd,” the TikToker explains. “How I frame it to my kids: ‘Wow buddy. I’m really sorry that happened. Let’s figure out how to solve our problem.’ Start giving them that vocabulary now so that when they get older, and they get in these situations, they have that internal dialogue of, ‘Ugh, I need to solve this problem.’”

    A 2024 study in Frontiers in Psychology found that children build resilience through repeated experiences of challenge, not avoidance. Trial and error, emotionally distressing experiences, and adult-supported recovery are all critical for learning self-regulation.

    A 2024 report in Scientific American said that shielding children from failure can lead to more anxiety, lower coping ability, and reduced independence. By contrast, productive failure can build persistence, and children may develop stronger executive function as they mature.

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    “Bring back consequences”

    “Let’s bring back consequences,” the TikToker says. “As a parent, make your word as good as gold. That way, they know you mean what you say, and you’re gonna follow through on whatever it is that you say.”

    She adds, “I understand positive reinforcement. It has a time and a place for it. However, the real world has consequences for actions. Whether that’s at school or out in the real world, because a cop at the end of the day isn’t gonna give a sh** about what triggers them, when they spit in his face.”

    She advocates for kids by challenging their parents, saying, “Do it in a loving way. Do it with boundaries. But, I’m begging you, set them up for the real world. So that when they come to school, when they leave school, they are successful, functioning members of society that people want to be around. Me included.”

    Consequences are not punishment. Kids benefit from learning right from wrong through natural and logical repercussions. A 2024 report in Psychology Today said that over-intervention in parenting can prevent children from connecting actions to outcomes. This is a crucial skill for self-regulation and decision-making. Kids who rely too heavily on external direction may struggle to develop autonomy and self-control.

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    The TikTok community weighs in

    With an assertive, entertaining, and emotionally charged approach, her TikTok post sparked reactions from viewers. Some had thoughts on the message itself, while others shared opinions about the way adults are raising kids today. Here are some of those responses:

    “As a teacher, you can walk into a class and IMMEDIATELY tell who’s an iPad kid and who’s not”

    “As a behavior teacher, I like to frame it like this – we need to teach them about consequences for there actions now while those consequences are still safe and we can control them. if we wait, the world will be less kind in its consequences.”

    “A lot of parents won’t listen to this advice because it actually requires them to work harder at home.”

    “All three points- spot on!”

    “This made me feel better about my own parenting, thank you”

    “YES! YES! YES! Teacher for 22 years! Kids have changed because parenting has changed.”

    “Passionate teacher telling the truth. Thank you.”

    “And also as parents we should put our phones down and be bored with them.”

    “Best TikTok I’ve seen in awhile!! Teacher of 23 years and I could not agree more!!”

    “Parent is a VERB”

    This conversation resonates so strongly because the TikTok post challenges how children are growing up today. Between tech screens and constant stimulation, teachers and experts question whether kids have enough space to make mistakes and learn from them. Protecting children from discomfort might seem like care, but science suggests it can create people who are less mature and less resilient. This mother of three and teacher of many believes, “If you digest these and apply them, your kids will suck less out in the real world.”

  • A Texan moved to England and shared 3 things nobody warned her about. The one about cereal is painfully relatable.
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    A Texan moved to England and shared 3 things nobody warned her about. The one about cereal is painfully relatable.

    Ashley Jackson traded South Texas sunshine for South Manchester drizzle. She has notes.

    Ashley Jackson (@themossycactus) spent twenty years in Texas before packing up and moving to South Manchester, England with her British husband and their two kids. The decision, she told Newsweek, came down to practical realities: affordable healthcare, family support, safer gun laws, and the kind of walkable community life that’s harder to find in Texas, where she said “you drive everywhere and these opportunities aren’t there.”

    She’s been documenting the adjustment on TikTok under the handle @themossycactus, and a February video laying out her “3 harsh truths” for Americans considering a similar move has struck a nerve.

    A Texan’s three warnings for Americans in England

    Truth number one: the weather. “It’s cold, it’s rainy, it’s hot… there is no AC, and sometimes it’s all in the same day,” Jackson said. Coming from Texas, where the sun is a reliable constant, the erratic grey of northern England takes getting used to. Interestingly, Jackson said she has actually come around on the weather personally, but she still complains about it, because complaining about the weather is practically a requirement of British social life.

    Truth number two: the humour. “You are never going to be as funny or sarcastic as they are,” she said. “You can strive, but they will probably always be one up.” British sarcasm is its own dialect, and Jackson said you just have to accept that you will never fully master it.

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    What’s the best way to “blend” in with you guys? Let me know in the comments. ⬇️✨ #britishculture #uk #americanintheuk #texaninengland

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    Truth number three: the cereal aisle. “You won’t have 99 choices of cereal, but your life will be better for it. You’ll get about a quarter of that.” The American supermarket experience complete with, wall-to-wall options and twelve varieties of the same thing doesn’t really exist in the same way in the UK, and Jackson said adjusting to less choice is actually a net positive once you stop expecting it.

    The habits she picked up to blend in

    To go with the harsh truths, Jackson shared three habits she’s adopted to blend in: eating a sausage sandwich once a week, using understatements as a communication style, and moaning about the weather even when she secretly doesn’t mind it.

    She’s not alone on this

    Jackson’s experience reflects a broader trend. A Harris Poll survey found that 52% of Americans believe they can achieve a higher quality of life abroad, with 49% citing lower cost of living, 48% citing dissatisfaction with the political climate, and 35% citing security concerns as reasons to leave.

    For Jackson, the surprises weren’t all hard ones. “In many ways, it was better than I expected,” she told Newsweek. “I wasn’t expecting the community support we have found.”

    She tried to prepare for everything. The sausage sandwich, nobody warned her about.

    You can follow Ashley Jackson (@themossycactus) on TikTok for more lifestyle content.

  • Career expert shares polite but effective way to reclaim credit when someone steals your idea
    Photo credit: CanvaYou can get the credit you deserve without looking defensive.

    Having your ideas stolen or not getting proper credit for your work brings on a terrible and sadly common feeling. It puts you in an awkward spot because you deserve the recognition or reward, but don’t want to come off as weak, defensive, or needy when trying to correct and reclaim what was yours. It’s frustrating. Fortunately, a former lawyer and career expert has a great solution.

    On social media, former attorney and business professional Dr. Shadé Zahrai shared a way to reclaim your idea with poise. It’s a great option for those times when you share an idea with a group that gets mostly ignored…until someone else gets the credit for repeating it.

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    How to reclaim credit for your idea when it was initially ignored.

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    How to reclaim credit for your idea and work

    First, she recommends “building forward” in the conversation. This means you continue going with the flow of the conversation, building onto it and transitioning while re-anchoring the idea to you without sounding territorial. 

    Next, Zahrai recommends becoming curious. Simply asking the person who took your idea where they came up with it allows them the opportunity to naturally return credit to you without being confrontational. It also provides space for them to add input or ideas onto your own. As a bonus, asking these types of questions can help others who have been overshadowed reclaim credit.

    Examples of how it can work for you

    Let’s say that colleague or friend, whether intentionally or not, repeated your idea. Let’s call that person “Hank.” Examples of Zahrai’s technique could look something like:

    – “Hank, it’s great to see we’re aligned with what I shared earlier. Maybe in addition we could…”

    – “You know, Hank, that’s what I brought up before and I’m glad we’re thinking alike. How about this…”

    – “That’s like I was saying earlier, Hank, what drew you to the same conclusion? Perhaps we can..”

    – “Great suggestion, Hank! That’s what I was saying before. Where did you come around to that idea? Maybe a way to extend that is…”

    – “Thank you, Hank, this is what I was talking about last week. Since you’re down for that, maybe we should..”

    – “Good thought, Hank. It sounds like what Lilith was talking about earlier. We could add to her idea by…”

    It’s a good method to get the credit you deserve without causing conflict. After all, the “Hank” in your situation could have accidentally taken your idea or unintentionally left you out. Plus, the focus on the conversation is now on your idea rather than you having the idea.

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    Replying to @Kristel Parsons you absolutely do not call it out now or later. You take note of it and use it as information to guide your steps and what you want out of a career #careeradvice #softskills

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    Other things to consider

    It’s also important to take a step back to see if your idea is actually stolen. For example, if your boss is taking credit for an idea you had, it may be smarter to let it go, especially if the idea was formed during a think-tank session at work. There may also be a clause in your job contract stating that any idea made at work is the company’s anyway, so you wouldn’t be credited in the first place.

    That said, there are ways to make your mark on your idea and possibly avoid the awkward credit conversation entirely. If you had the idea before a meeting or any form of public announcement, document it in some way via an email, written presentation, or other work with your name on it. Another way is to lead with your idea in conversation, and follow it up with execution methods that include your colleagues or friends.

    This means an idea like “Let’s order pizza from Franco’s” could be “Here’s my idea. Let’s order pizza from Franco’s. I have a coupon we can use, it’s near Aaron’s apartment, and it has gluten-free options for Linda.” The more specific and detailed the idea, the more likely others will remember that the idea was yours.

    A good idea is a good idea, and acknowledging your involvement matters.

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