The struggle against ISIS is as much a war for ground as it is a battle for screens and narratives. Over the years, the militant group has allocated considerable resources toward international media campaigns, using video to deliver its most potent messages. This conflict plays out nowhere more brutally than in Raqqa, the northeast Syrian city that ISIS has claimed as a stronghold. While many of the city’s inhabitants have been compelled to take up arms against the terrorist organization, others are fighting back through alternate means: iPhone cameras and YouTube videos.

At the heart of this is the activist-run campaign Raqqa Is Being Slaughtered Silently (RBSS)—which The New Yorker described in a profile as “a kind of underground journalistic-activist enterprise.” Founded in 2014, the group, composed of more than a dozen anonymous members operating both inside and outside Syria, meticulously documents the atrocities perpetrated by ISIS by filming and distributing videos of violence in Raqqa. The work of RBSS has been celebrated by the international journalism community, earning an International Press Freedom award in 2015—but it’s also made members and their families the targets of inconceivable violence and incredible emotional trauma.


[quote position=”left” is_quote=”true”]In one arresting scene, Hamoud confesses he can’t stop watching an ISIS execution video of his own father.[/quote]

Now members of RBSS—co-founders Abdulaziz (Aziz) Alhamza, Hamoud al-Mousa, and Hussam Eesa—have decided to cast aside their anonymity and tell their story.

The three men are the subjects of City of Ghosts, a powerful new documentary that depicts their struggle to reclaim Raqqa from violent militants. The film, which is director Matthew Heineman’s follow-up to his Oscar-nominated 2015 documentary Cartel Land, which is about drug cartels on the U.S.-Mexico border, follows the activists as their efforts force them to leave Syria and flee to Europe, where they continue to receive death threats and live in fear.

In one arresting scene, Hamoud confesses he can’t stop watching an ISIS execution video of his own father. City of Ghosts offers a vivid and heartbreaking portrayal of war, exile, and refugeehood. I talked to Heineman about his new film, which will be in select theatres nationwide in mid-July.

Did you ever have concerns about compromising the safety of the members of RBSS while making this film?

We were always conscientious of their safety, given the extreme danger that they were in, even when they’re outside of Syria—when they’re in Turkey or when they’re in Europe—as you see in the film. The way we communicated with them was through encrypted means. They obviously continue to receive threats from ISIS.

The fact of the matter is that when they decided to make the film with us, they recognized that, in doing so, their risk profile would increase. But they wanted to do this. They wanted to get their story out. They wanted to stop hiding behind the veneer of social media and online avatars and to come out of the shadows, as they say in the film, and show their faces and show that they’re real people from Raqqa, and that they have families. They felt that coming out and taking part in the film was an important step in doing that. They are willing, and they were willing, to take on that risk.

The Syrian conflict is so complicated to people who aren’t aware of its history or aren’t following every news alert—it began as a popular uprising against the Assad regime, but their struggle was co-opted by ISIS. It’s clear that the men in the film are faithful Muslims and sensitive to the fact that some of the narratives coming out of Syria, about Syria, have been used to justify different forms of Islamophobia in Western countries where refugees are resettling. At the same time, a militant group that uses Islam to justify its violence is perpetrating what’s happening in Raqqa. How did you handle those nuances? How did you delineate those differences?

It’s obvious that ISIS has, as [RBSS activists] say in the film, perverted their religion in a very destructive way. I think the portrayal of moderate Muslim men is a nice byproduct of this movie. I think most people understand that ISIS is not representative of the vast majority of Muslims.

But what’s happening in Syria, or what’s happened in that part of the world, is often used to justify different Islamophobic policies in the United States. There’s obviously a rise in Islamophobia, in Islamophobic hate crimes. I appreciated that, in the film, the faith of the RBSS activists wasn’t edited.

Yeah, of course. I think that’s one of the beauties of documentary film, to show people a world that they might not otherwise get to see and to meet people that they otherwise might not get to meet. In doing so, I have an obligation to present the fabric of who these people are—not just who they are on paper or what their résumé is, but, really, their inner thoughts, their feelings, their emotions, their motivations, their spirituality. I set out to make a multidimensional portrait of this group, of these guys, and, obviously, that included their faith and their anger at the perversion of their religion that ISIS has propagated throughout the world and has used in the name of extraordinary violence and human rights violations in their hometown of Raqqa.

[quote position=”full” is_quote=”true”]Propaganda is one of the evilest tools that human beings have used throughout history.[/quote]

There are a lot of groups within Syria that are doing maybe not the same exact work as RBSS, but similar to it, fighting against both ISIS and the Assad regimes. What did you find particularly compelling about Raqqa Is Being Slaughtered Silently?

There are many groups, like the White Helmets, and there are tons of humanitarian organizations, but there’s not a lot of groups doing anything like what RBSS is doing.

I was deeply moved by a couple of things. First of all—and not that this is what motivated me—it was an interesting follow-up to my last film, Cartel Land, insofar as both films are about individual citizens who have risen up to fight against evil. In the case of Cartel Land, it was with guns and with violence. In the case of City of Ghosts, it’s with pens and cameras and computers and iPhones. I was fascinated, intellectually, by this information war, this propaganda war, this media war that is being waged between RBSS and ISIS. I think propaganda is one of the evilest tools that human beings have used throughout history. ISIS is using it to disseminate fear through the world, to spread their ideology, to recruit people from around the world to join their ranks. They’re propagating this idealized safe haven and heaven for Muslims to come live in. And obviously, the reality on the ground is quite different. RBSS rose to dispel that, to expose the hypocrisy of that, to expose the horrors that were happening.

You have a lot of footage from Raqqa in the film, but if you went to Raqqa to get that footage, you probably wouldn’t be here.

I would 100 percent not be here. The reason that RBSS rose up was because ISIS blacked out all media from coming in, all the information coming in, all the information from leaving. If it wasn’t for these guys, we wouldn’t know what’s happening.

From your perspective as someone who’s spent time considering this information war, what’s an effective means of combatting it?

I’m not a policy expert. This film does not necessarily provide answers to solve these deeply intense, complicated problems. As Aziz says at the end of the film, bombs will not fix ISIS. And what RBSS is really fighting against is the ideology of ISIS, the ideology of extremism. This ideology lives within a whole generation of children that have been indoctrinated by it, and the whole sector of people around the world who have bought into this ideology.

[quote position=”full” is_quote=”true”]In this world of extremely polarized media, there’s no more important story to tell than the story of people fighting for truth.[/quote]

How do you combat that? You start by exposing the reality of what’s happening, and that’s obviously what RBSS has done. They’ve proven this age-old idea that the pen is mightier than the sword. There’s a reason that ISIS has come after them, there’s a reason that ISIS has killed members of their group and their family members. ISIS feels threatened. The narrative that they’ve created has been threatened by the truth. We can help support groups like RBSS, we can help spread and disseminate information. In this world of fake news, in this world of extremely polarized media, I think there’s no more important story to tell than the story of people fighting for truth.

Towards the end of the film, when the RBSS men have settled in Berlin, the film touches on the increasingly polarized immigration debate in Europe, where the fascist right is anti-refugee. There is a parallel movement here in the U.S. with an increasingly hostile political atmosphere for refugees, particularly those from Syria or other Muslim-majority countries.

This film originally began as two things: One, I knew I wanted the through-line of the film to be this exodus from Syria, as they’re being forced to flee, as they’re being hunted by ISIS, as they’re escaping from Syria to Turkey, and from Turkey to Europe. I also knew that I wanted to explore these themes around this information war, this propaganda war.

  • How to be grateful to someone – even when you really don’t want to
    Photo credit: Focus Pixel Art/Moment via Getty ImagesAt times, feeling personally grateful to someone can feel like a big ask – but there are other forms of gratitude.
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    How to be grateful to someone – even when you really don’t want to

    A change in perspective can make gratitude easier.

    There are few greater feelings than the sense of heartfelt gratitude to another human being who has done you a solid. Sincere thanks and reciprocation are part of the glue that binds us in human relationships.

    But sometimes you’re just not feeling it. You know that you have benefited from what someone has done for you, but you don’t really feel grateful to them for doing it. Most teenagers go through this period with their parents. Maybe you take your partner or colleague for granted.

    For me, 14 years ago, it was my mother-in-law. She had upended her life to move from South Dakota to California to live with my wife and me to assist with childcare after our daughter was born; no other source of childcare fit with our demanding work schedules and my commute. She made a huge sacrifice that transformed our lives, but there were moments when I really struggled to feel grateful.

    Since that time, I’ve come to devote much of my research as a philosopher to studying how the way that we interpret each other as people shapes our relationships. That work has helped me to understand why I struggled to be grateful – and taught me a little bit about how to do better.

    Personal gratitude

    I’ve found that the hardest part of feeling grateful to someone is the “to” part. It is one thing to be impersonally grateful that something happened and another thing to be personally grateful to someone for doing it. These are not the same.

    Both forms of gratitude require seeing something as a benefit. And they both require a humble recognition of how easily things could have been otherwise. When the rain ends a drought, an atheist can feel grateful that the tomatoes will survive. But the atheist isn’t grateful “to” anyone for the rain.

    A line of around a dozen men wearing white sarongs stand in waist-high water, holding their hands up in prayer.
    Priests offer prayers to Varuna, the Hindu god of rain, as they stand in the Osman Sagar on the outskirts of Hyderabad, India, on July 16, 2013. AP Photo/Mahesh Kumar A

    Personal gratitude requires more than impersonal gratitude. It is an example of what the philosopher Peter Strawson calls a “participant” attitude: an attitude that we have toward people, but not toward things. And a large theme in my work is that participant attitudes such as gratitude involve giving someone credit for what the attitude responds to.

    But which benefits we give people credit for is complicated. As philosophers such as Tony Manela have argued, actions motivated primarily by money, self-interest or insecurity don’t merit personal gratitude, even when they benefit you. Actions motivated by love, generosity or concern, on the other hand – or other “pro-social” motives – do.

    Sometimes people fail to feel gratitude because they take someone for granted, not noticing how easily they could have done otherwise. This wasn’t my problem with my mother-in-law. It was obvious that she didn’t have to move across the country to live with us.

    But it was hard to avoid noticing that she had always wanted to live in California. Sometimes it is hard to feel grateful because of how we interpret someone’s motives. They could have done otherwise, but we don’t think their action was really “about us.”

    Bad motives are easy to find

    Sometimes ungenerous motives can help people to be generous. Your child’s kindergarten teacher isn’t a volunteer. They may be a naturally generous person – but still, they probably wouldn’t be working with your child on spelling, arithmetic and handling adversity if they weren’t getting a paycheck.

    It’s still appropriate to be grateful to them. Their financial incentive to show up for work enables their generosity, rather than competing with it.

    A row of young children sit on the floor, clapping, as they face a seated teacher in a striped yellow shirt.
    Your child’s teacher might be generous, but their job enables them to act on that generosity every day. svetikd/E+ via Getty Images

    Elementary school teachers are not alone. After all, people’s decisions are often driven by many factors: some that merit gratitude and others that don’t. So if you go looking for selfish motives, you are bound to find some.

    Take your partner, for example. They do something that benefits you: buying you flowers, filling your tank with gas or finally taking their turn to wash the dishes. They are partly motivated by generosity, love or communal spirit. But, as in any close relationship, sometimes they may be hoping to get something out of it: reciprocation, maybe, or getting you off their back.

    It matters which of these you interpret as their “true” motive: Seeing it one way opens you up to gratitude, while the other precludes it.

    What are ‘true’ motives?

    The distinction between someone’s “true” motive and the other motives that enable it looks like the distinction between causes and enabling conditions. For example, when you drop a wine glass, the fragility of the glass enables the drop to cause the break, but it isn’t itself a cause of the break – the drop is.

    In the case of the falling glass, there’s a clear, objective answer to what caused the break and what merely enabled it. But I believe that relating to people is deeply different than understanding physical things.

    The key question in whether to be grateful to someone isn’t about which motives count as “causes.” It is about which cause we need to bring into focus in order to see the other person more clearly for who they are.

    See it their way

    In other words, it’s at least partly a matter of perspective. If someone does you a favor, but you know they’re hoping for something in return, you can see that as their “true” motive. But you don’t have to see it that way. Instead, you could see that motive as the condition they need for their generosity to thrive.

    Shifting perspectives isn’t easy. When you’re doubting someone’s motives, their lack of generosity can feel obvious. But it helps to remember that people tend to believe they’re acting generously. If you want to respond with gratitude, try seeing them as they see themselves.

    What if that doesn’t work?

    Well, the next best thing to being grateful to someone is being grateful for them. Starting there is a good way to remind yourself of why you value this relations

    This article originally appeared on The Conversation. You can read it here.

  • America’s friendliest states
    Photo credit: New Africa // ShutterstockA young couple talking to a friendly elderly neighbor.
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    America’s friendliest states

    Mountain West states lead the nation in community connection.

    The ways in which Americans connect vary widely by state. A range of factors contribute to a place’s overall character, but the time residents spend socializing, volunteering and helping people outside their own homes can shape how friendly it feels.

    SmartAsset analyzed the 50 states by the number of minutes per day residents spend on these three “friendly activities,” using time and action as measures of how communities connect. The results offer a behavioral snapshot of where residents spend the most time engaging with others in their communities.

    Key Findings

    • The Mountain West leads the rankings. Montana (No. 1), Utah (No. 2), and Wyoming (No. 3) took the top spots in the study, with residents of Montana averaging a nation-leading 95 minutes per day socializing, volunteering and helping others.
    • Mountaineers are the most likely to help others. Although West Virginia ranked No. 24 overall, its residents spent more time than any others providing unpaid help to people outside their own homes, about 30 minutes per day.
    • Rankings challenge some stereotypes. Despite its reputation for “Minnesota Nice,” Minnesota ranked No. 11, just outside the top 10. Washington, home to Seattle and its “Seattle Freeze” reputation, ranked No. 10.
    • Three Northeast states in the top 20. Although residents of Northeastern states are not always seen as especially warm by outsiders, three states in the region made the top 20: Rhode Island, Massachusetts and Maryland.
    Table listing the top 20 friendliest states in America.

    The 20 Friendliest States

    1. Montana
    • Average Minutes Spent Socializing (daily): 43.36
    • Average Minutes Spent Volunteering (daily): 35.62
    • Average Minutes Spent Helping Others (daily): 15.89
    1. Utah
    • Average Minutes Spent Socializing (daily): 38.24
    • Average Minutes Spent Volunteering (daily): 32.46
    • Average Minutes Spent Helping Others (daily): 20.95
    1. Wyoming
    • Average Minutes Spent Socializing (daily): 35.57
    • Average Minutes Spent Volunteering (daily): 40.49
    • Average Minutes Spent Helping Others (daily): 7.07
    1. Oregon
    • Average Minutes Spent Socializing (daily): 53.74
    • Average Minutes Spent Volunteering (daily): 14.85
    • Average Minutes Spent Helping Others (daily): 12.36
    1. Illinois
    • Average Minutes Spent Socializing (daily): 32.37
    • Average Minutes Spent Volunteering (daily): 14.12
    • Average Minutes Spent Helping Others (daily): 28.43
    1. Rhode Island
    • Average Minutes Spent Socializing (daily): 52.15
    • Average Minutes Spent Volunteering (daily): 5.33
    • Average Minutes Spent Helping Others (daily): 17.35
    1. Nebraska
    • Average Minutes Spent Socializing (daily): 39.3
    • Average Minutes Spent Volunteering (daily): 11.08
    • Average Minutes Spent Helping Others (daily): 24.06
    1. North Dakota
    • Average Minutes Spent Socializing (daily): 35.5
    • Average Minutes Spent Volunteering (daily): 24.61
    • Average Minutes Spent Helping Others (daily): 12.88
    1. Missouri
    • Average Minutes Spent Socializing (daily): 43.44
    • Average Minutes Spent Volunteering (daily): 16.05
    • Average Minutes Spent Helping Others (daily): 11.86
    1. Washington
    • Average Minutes Spent Socializing (daily): 30.59
    • Average Minutes Spent Volunteering (daily): 24.04
    • Average Minutes Spent Helping Others (daily): 14.92
    1. Minnesota
    • Average Minutes Spent Socializing (daily): 30.33
    • Average Minutes Spent Volunteering (daily): 11.75
    • Average Minutes Spent Helping Others (daily): 25.18
    1. Massachusetts
    • Average Minutes Spent Socializing (daily): 35.38
    • Average Minutes Spent Volunteering (daily): 9.63
    • Average Minutes Spent Helping Others (daily): 20.91
    1. Wisconsin
    • Average Minutes Spent Socializing (daily): 36.51
    • Average Minutes Spent Volunteering (daily): 8.46
    • Average Minutes Spent Helping Others (daily): 20.86
    1. Colorado
    • Average Minutes Spent Socializing (daily): 27.08
    • Average Minutes Spent Volunteering (daily): 16.82
    • Average Minutes Spent Helping Others (daily): 20.31
    1. Maryland
    • Average Minutes Spent Socializing (daily): 26.05
    • Average Minutes Spent Volunteering (daily): 25.72
    • Average Minutes Spent Helping Others (daily): 12.39
    1. Michigan
    • Average Minutes Spent Socializing (daily): 38.9
    • Average Minutes Spent Volunteering (daily): 11.21
    • Average Minutes Spent Helping Others (daily): 12.98
    1. Tennessee
    • Average Minutes Spent Socializing (daily): 33.82
    • Average Minutes Spent Volunteering (daily): 9.45
    • Average Minutes Spent Helping Others (daily): 19.53
    1. South Dakota
    • Average Minutes Spent Socializing (daily): 41.61
    • Average Minutes Spent Volunteering (daily): 0.21
    • Average Minutes Spent Helping Others (daily): 20.61
    1. Hawaii
    • Average Minutes Spent Socializing (daily): 26.3
    • Average Minutes Spent Volunteering (daily): 14.84
    • Average Minutes Spent Helping Others (daily): 20.98
    1. Virginia
    • Average Minutes Spent Socializing (daily): 38.96
    • Average Minutes Spent Volunteering (daily): 10.92
    • Average Minutes Spent Helping Others (daily): 11.97

    Methodology

    This study uses data from the U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics’ American Time Use Survey, extracted from IPUMS, over the most recent available four-year period. For each state, SmartAsset calculated the average daily minutes residents spent socializing, volunteering, and helping people outside the household. Those three measures were then equally weighted and summed to produce a total time value used to rank the states. Source data providers are not affiliated with, and do not endorse or sponsor, this study or its findings.

    Citation: Sarah M. Flood, Liana C. Sayer, Daniel Backman and Annie Chen. American Time Use Survey Data Extract Builder: Version 3.3 dataset. College Park, MD: University of Maryland and Minneapolis, MN: IPUMS, 2025. https://doi.org/10.18128/D060.V3.3

    This story was produced by SmartAsset and reviewed and distributed by Stacker.

  • One man’s bad day led to a legacy of love from the ‘Kissing Tree’ for the whole Victoria community
    Photo credit: CanvaSneak a kiss while walking the sidewalk.

    There is a spot dedicated to love in Victoria, British Columbia. In it, a billowing tree grows from a woman’s yard into the sidewalk with an arch-like opening. For decades, couples have shared sweet moments under the shady green privacy of the “Kissing Tree.” Not only that, but children have been making wishes and new parents bring their babies to enjoy the quiet tranquility under the tree. Oddly enough, though, the creation of the Kissing Tree wouldn’t have happened if not for a violent riot.

    The story of Victoria’s Kissing Tree actually starts in New York City. In 1972, Bronx native Brian O’Reilly got his car stuck in the middle of a crowd waiting for a Rolling Stones concert. A riot broke out, forcing O’Reilly to protect himself with the only thing he had in his car: a tape recorder.

    “I wasn’t recording on purpose,” O’Reilly explained to CTV News. “I just had the microphone in my hand, and I had my arm up like this to defend myself and I was asking why he was hitting me.”

    Moving toward love

    O’Reilly was so upset at the encounter that he moved away from the United States to settle in British Columbia. That was where he met and befriended Bonnie. Over the years, the two became close. Then, Brian made his move.

    “He said, ‘I don’t want to date you. I want to marry you,’” Bonnie recalled to CTV News. “It felt amazing and wonderful because I had fallen in love with him.”

    They embraced under what is now known as the Kissing Tree.

    That one bad day in New York turned into 38 years of marriage in Victoria. While Brian has passed away, Bonnie has kept the tree the two of them enjoyed kissing under ready and available to all.

    “If you can come here and have an ‘aha!’ moment, isn’t that wonderful? Wouldn’t you like to do that for everyone?” Bonnie said.

    tree, foliage, British Columbia
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    The legacy of the Kissing Tree

    Over the last few decades, the Kissing Tree’s branches have created a natural arch from Bonnie’s yard over the sidewalk. After seeing several couples make a stop to kiss under the privacy of nature, Bonnie hung some lights under the tree to create a more intimate, cozier space.

    Thanks to the O’Reillys, couples have gotten engaged under the tree. Many resident couples have spent years making it a point to kiss under the tree whenever they pass through. That love has extended to children whispering wishes to the tree’s trunk. Pet lovers and new parents also have a nice quiet place for their dogs and babies to enjoy the shade.

    Other ‘Kissing Trees’ in North America

    There are other legendary “Kissing Trees” throughout North America, labeled as such for different reasons. In San Marcos, Texas, a large oak was dubbed “The Kissing Tree” after Sam Houston kissed the cheeks of the women who stitched him the state flag as a gift when he was running for governor.

    The Kissing Trees/Love Trees of St. Augustine, Florida have a legend of their own. These trees are typically an oak and a palm tree that grow intertwined together, symbolizing connection. Legend has it that if you were to kiss under one of these trees, your love will last forever.

    Whether it is imprinting magic onto a landmark or not, it is great to see how something as simple as a tree can connect people across time.

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