Words are more than just letters strung together—they carry the power to influence and inspire. Jonah Berger, an Ivy League professor, explores this power in his bestselling book “Magic Words: What to Say To Get Your Way.” He reveals how simple words, like the seven-letter “because” or six-letter “helper,” can shift mindsets, inspire action, and change people’s perspectives.

Image Source: Professor Jonah Berger speaks onstage at 'Invisible Influence and Winning at Austin Convention Center on March 11, 2016 in Austin, Texas. (Photo by Jason Bollenbacher/Getty Images for SXSW)
Image Source: Professor Jonah Berger speaks onstage at Austin Convention Center on March 11, 2016 in Austin, Texas. (Photo by Jason Bollenbacher/Getty Images for SXSW)

Apart from being the author of “Magic Words,” Berger is a marketing professor at the Wharton School of the University of Pennsylvania. Speaking to Big Think, Berger brings up the example of a Stanford University study from the 1960s. The researchers asked a group of three-to-five-year-old preschool kids to clean up a messy classroom. On the floor were scattered crayons, toys, books, and other things. So they asked the kids to help clean it up.


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Some children were asked, “Can you help clean?” For the second group of kids, the team slightly tweaked the language. These kids were asked, “Would you mind being a helper and cleaning up the classroom?” The difference between “asking for help (verb)” and “asking for being a helper (noun)” is small, just an addition of two letters, said Berger. But these two letters increased 30 percent of their likelihood of helping.


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In another example he shared with CNBC Make It, he brought up a 50-year-old study from Harvard University. In this study, researchers sat in the university library and waited for someone to use the photocopy machine. They used three ways to ask people to use it. Some people were asked, “May I use the Xerox machine?” Others were asked, “May I use the Xerox machine because I have to make copies?” And the third strategy was, “May I use the Xerox machine because I’m in a rush?”

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Representative Image Source: woman blending with message collage on wall (Getty Images)

Like the word “helper” in the preschoolers-based research, here, the word “because” acted as a magic word, and made people 50 percent more likely to use the copy machine. No wonder, beauty giants like L’Oreal Paris have been using the slogan “Because you’re worth it” to attract women all over the world to use their products. Advertisers use it all the time.


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According to Berger, there is a simple reason why these simple words like “helper” or “because” work like magic. “It turns out it comes down to the difference between ‘actions’ and ‘identities,’” Berger told Big Think. “By turning actions into identities, we can make people much more likely to engage in desired actions.” Elaborating on this, he said, that everyone wants to feel smart. So, people usually like being called “hard worker” than “hardworking.” He threw in the examples of Donald Trump and Steve Jobs mentioning how their usage of a lot of “definites” in their speeches makes people pay attention to them.



On the flip side, speakers who use a lot of fillers like “uhm” and “uh” in their communication appear to lack clarity about what they want to communicate. The communication superpower is not just about having great ideas. One must be able to present these ideas in a language that would evoke people’s attention. “You could have excellent ideas, but excellent ideas aren’t necessarily going to get people to listen to you,” Berger told CNBC. “Subtle shifts in our in our language can have a really big impact.”

  • Men were stunned when asked the same types of career questions women regularly face
    Photo credit: CanvaUncomfortable man gets questions women often face during a job interview.

    “How much do you think your looks helped you get promoted to your position?” Unfortunately for many women, this isn’t a shocking question. Interviews, performance reviews, and typical professional interactions can reveal a double standard and workplace bias.

    In a social-experiment-style reel by lifestyle creator @bol.lifestyle, these questions were instead asked of men. Their discomfort and disbelief reveal why the standards women face regarding credibility are impossible to ignore.

    An experiment to reveal a double standard

    In the video, men are placed in an interview-style setup and asked a series of questions. Hearing these skewed questions for the first time, their expressions shift quickly from curious to confused and uncomfortable.

    Host: Have you ever been asked to just smile and look pretty or smile and say nothing in a meeting with a customer?

    One man appears somewhat shocked and uncomfortable. He quickly responds, almost dismissive at even being asked the question, “No.”

    Host: Do you think that your looks helped you getting promoted or moving up to your current position?

    Another man reflects and appears unable to answer the question.

    Host: Looking so good. By the way, I do love the shoes. Are these designer or your particular brand that you really like?

    A third man awkwardly smiles and vents some air, almost as if the ridiculous question doesn’t feel fitting at all. He doesn’t answer.

    Host: Do your hormones sometimes get in the way?

    A fourth man responds, “Hormones?” He awkwardly laughs and adds, “I don’t, I don’t know.”

    Host: Do you sometimes wonder whether you’ve been chosen for this position because you’re a man?

    Man 2 responds definitively, “No, not because I was a man.”

    Host: How do you handle in your job being assertive without being perceived as aggressive or bitchy?

    Man 1 tilts his head back and reflects on the question. “That’s uh, that’s a question that I find it very hard to relate to.” He then adds, “Because it’s not a situation I’ve been in.”

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    Many microphones are held in front of a man.
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    Real questions women face

    After this first series of questions, the video presents titles claiming: These were real questions asked to our female leaders throughout their careers.

    The host goes on to ask the men how they feel about this particular line of questioning. Their response is predictable.

    “It really, really, really feels uncomfortable. And I also feel it in my body,” said Man 3.

    “When hearing these things still happen, it makes me also feel that, hey, maybe I am more privileged than I thought I was,” added Man 1.

    At the end of the interview, the men seemed a little upset and surprised by the double standard. They collectively hoped for change, and some suggested they themselves were responsible for helping things get better.

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    People advocate for change

    People seemed to really respond to the video. With over 6,000 comments, there was a consensus confirming the experience and advocating for change.

    “Men, our male privilege is real. How we use it is up to us, and hopefully we use it to protect and improve the experience of the women in our workplace.”

    “If you have sons, please prepare them to improve the way the world treats women.”

    “The man that felt it in his body… welcome to the life of a woman”

    “Perhaps the greatest privilege is never having to notice your own privilege.”

    “Oh my God. I have heard ALL of these questions. And more.”

    “Well done. We have to show a different way and we can do it with grace! We have to do it different.”

    “It’s not what we perceive , it’s what is .”

    “THIS experiment should be undertaken in workplaces all over the world…”

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    It’s not about finger-pointing

    It can be easy to get lost in finger-pointing. Although at times the comments might feel like a pile-on, the success of the video lies in its simple setup. It takes a familiar experience and shifts the perspective so that people might hear it a little differently.

    Certain assumptions or expectations can become so normalized that people, maybe mostly men, stop noticing them altogether. Is it possible for workplace conversations to be more thoughtful, fair, and aware than they have been or, in some circumstances, still are?

    The intent of the video seemed less about provoking a fight. It demonstrated that some basic reflection and small shifts of awareness can lead to better experiences for everyone. There’s a familiar proverb that comes to mind: walk a mile in my shoes. These men seemed to gain some real perspective from the opportunity.

  • Young boy struggles through painful stutter until his singing videos change everything 
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    Young boy struggles through painful stutter until his singing videos change everything 

    “One kids courage to show up, speak up, and sing his voice free.”

    A boy named Lando is gaining attention online after people started sharing and liking the two very different kinds of videos he creates. In one, he candidly speaks with a severe stutter. In the other, he sings smoothly, without the same pauses and repetitions that appear when he talks.

    Perhaps it’s the dramatic contrast that has people liking and clicking. For whatever reason, as Lando shares on his website, #stutterfreelando, he’s created an awareness movement around stuttering “born from one kid’s courage to show up, speak up, and sing his voice free.”

    The young entertainer is easy to like

    Finding a young person navigating his speech difficulties so charismatically and confidently is admirable. He’s not wavering under the spotlight. He’s shining.

    His family shares about their experience and the methods they’ve found helpful with his stutter on their website:

    “This is a family journey. We’re one of millions of families around the world navigating stuttering to learn what works, what doesn’t, and figuring it out as we go. Some of what we share helps Lando. Some might not. We’re learning that every stutterer is different. No more hiding.”

    Facing a severe stutter can be more complicated than practicing with a speech therapist.

    Traditional therapy hasn’t given us the breakthroughs we need. Therapists are trying. We are trying. But we refuse to sit quietly and hope it clicks. So we built this, a movement where our family shares what we’re learning out loud. Real strategies. Real techniques. Lando’s good days and the hard ones. Not a highlight reel. Not a gofund me. Real life.”

    It feels good to join a winning team

    After watching any of his videos, it’s clear why so many people keep coming back.

    In one clip, Lando talks about reaching 50,000 followers on Instagram and an upcoming interview with a local news outlet. The message expressed with gratitude and happiness is simple, but it takes time for him to get there. That process draws people in.

    “Congratulations on your followers, add one more”

    “Great work buddy!”

    “Ah Lando, I’m really enjoying your videos”

    “That excitement is so cute! I love how supportive everyone has been!”

    “Great job little man keep it going. You inspire a lot of people with the same problem.”

    “thankyou for sharing, your super cool.”

    Singing allows his words to come out in a continuous flow

    The difference isn’t subtle. In speech, words can stall and be difficult to get out. In song, they move by the rhythm that reduces stops. These are some of the comments you can find on just one of his singing videos posted above:

    “GOD BLESS YOU LANDO!!!!! YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY AMAZING!!!!!”

    “The eyebrows at the end was fire.”

    “You are an inspiration”

    “Brilliant buddy”

    “… sounding smooth.”

    “Lando with the great voice!!!”

    “Now … this kid has charisma!!!”

    A courageous little showman

    Lando’s videos stand out not just for singing or stuttering, but because both are available, openly shared, without one being hidden or edited out of view. There’s no attempt to turn it all into a single narrative of struggle or success. Instead, what people see is a boy using his voice as it is.

    There is something instinctive about the way people rally around a kid like Lando. Sharing the hard parts and the moments that come more easily gives everyone a clear way to respond. Cheering him on, leaving a positive comment, or even just watching and listening allows each of us to take a small part in that effort.

    It’s less about celebrating the win and more about recognizing the work and the courage to keep going. Lando is talking and singing it out loud.

  • Homeowners swear by this simple ice cold hack that thoroughly makes your toilets cleaner
    Photo credit: CanvaMany believe cleaning the toilet properly starts by filling it with ice cubes.

    Most people welcome a new cleaning hack, especially if it involves the bathroom. Cleaning the toilet isn’t a fun task and getting it thoroughly spotless can get stinky real quick. However, there’s one hack that many homeowners say gets their toilets cleaner with less elbow grease. It involves emptying your ice tray.

    There are experts who recommend putting ice cubes down the toilet whenever it is time to clean.

    Toilet cleaning starts with your freezer

    This understandably sounds weird. Many people might remember flushing ice cubes down the toilet as a superstitious ritual during the winter months to “summon” a snow day from school. But to clean the toilet? That sounds like just as much as a myth. 

    But there is a logic to it and many homemakers suggest it. First, let’s get this out of the way and say that ice cubes aren’t being flushed to replace regular toilet cleaner. It’s actually being used to help the cleaner be more effective.

    So…how could ice help clean my toilet?

    Ice in the toilet bowl acts as a support for the toilet cleaner. Often, toilet cleaner drips down the side of the toilet bowl into the water and down the pipe. The ice allows the cleaner to cling to the bowl and its sides for longer, penetrating filth and disinfecting it more effectively.

    Here’s the gist on how it works: first, take a bowl of ice cubes and pour them into the toilet. Make sure you’re not filling it to the brim. Next, take your preferred toilet cleaning solution and pour/spray it onto the ice. Let the mixture sit for about 15 minutes to allow the cleaning solution to cling and disinfect the bowl. After that, use a toilet brush to stir and agitate the ice, ensuring that it is scraping all sides of the bowl. By this time, the ice should have melted enough to flush. 

    There are additional bonuses to using ice with toilet cleaner. The ice can also act as an abrasive pumice stone in addition to your toilet brush, scraping off mildew, mineral build-up, or other yucky things that could be stubbornly clinging to the bowl. The flushed ice could help clean the pipe similarly, dislodging filth and grime in conjunction with the toilet cleaner on its way down.

    Another benefit is reducing odor. Ice is known to absorb smells and could make cleaning a little less smelly. It’s one of the reasons why many restaurants, clubs, and bars put ice in men’s urinals.

    Many people who frequently travel and live in an RV also recommend flushing ice down their toilets. This is not just to clean the bowl, but to have the ice jostle and scrape the nasty stuff out of the black tank. While this method’s effectiveness in cleaning a black tank is put into question, critics still say that ice can help reduce smells and keep water in the black tank during hot days.

    Final tips (specifically “don’ts”)

    If you plan on giving this hack a try, be sure not to overflow your toilet with ice. Along with that, while most forms of ice work (cubes, crushed, or chips), putting larger blocks of ice in the toilet won’t do any good and could clog things up if they’re too big.

    It’s also important to use one cleaning solution and not mix a bunch together. Mixing cleaning products together could create fumes that are dangerous to inhale. It’s best to use your preferred cleaner and choose a different one next time if you’re getting the results you want.

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