A Mom's Side-By-Side Photos Reveal The 'Flip Side' Of Postpartum Depression

The photos show the toll the mental disorder can take on busy moms

Even after being presented with loads of clinical and anecdotal evidence, many people have a hard time wrapping their head around the concept of postpartum depression. Mental illnesses, in general, manifest themselves in myriad of ways, and with so much changing in the life of a new mom, it’s hard for even the sufferer herself to recognize what’s going on.

In the spirit of creating awareness in a simple but stark manner, Kathy DiVincenzo wanted to reveal what goes on behind the facade that glowing new mothers are expected to display. The conflicting realities were present in her own life, and she was, fortunately, quick to recognize them. “The only photos I’m posting are of my new baby smiling, and his sister kissing him. All these amazing moments are real, of course,” she said to the Today show. “But there’s that flip side, this other side of reality that I wasn’t comfortable showing.”

Danielle Fantis

To share her story, Kathy teamed up with her friend, photographer Danielle Fantis to visually reveal the duality new moms face, especially those suffering from postpartum mental illness, as she was. Kathy realizes in hindsight that she experienced postpartum anxiety following the birth of her now 3-year-old daughter. It was only when the symptoms came on again following the birth of her 3-month-old son that she recognized the pattern and the affliction.

Realizing that the symptoms can often be overlooked even by the mothers themselves, she posted photos showing the dueling nature of new motherhood.

The photographer, Danielle, posted a message as well as the original post spread and garnered interest:

In explaining the illness, Kathy spoke bluntly about how none of it makes sense on the surface, especially when mothers are hiding their suffering in the face of social pressure to “beam.” She says, “I remember thinking: I have no reason to be sad. I have this good life, this beautiful healthy baby. Everything is great. But that’s the thing with postpartum depression and mental illness. It doesn’t discriminate. No one is safe.”

It may sound like a bleak takeaway, but Kathy’s effort have helped many realize what they are going through or have gone through, giving a voice and an identity to the complex and bizarre feelings. She says, "So many mothers have said, 'Oh, I didn’t know this had a name. This is describing my life.’”

“The main point of all this is to tell people you’re not alone in what you’re experiencing."

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Young leaders from around the world are gathering at the United Nations Headquarters in New York Saturday to address arguably the most urgent issue of our time. The Youth Climate Summit comes on the heels of an international strike spearheaded by Greta Thunberg, the 16-year-old climate activist from Sweden, who arrived in New York via emissions-free sailboat earlier this month.

Translated from Swedish, "berg" means "mountain," so it may feel fated that a young woman with Viking blood in her veins and summit in her name would be at the helm. But let's go out on a limb and presume Thunberg, in keeping with most activists, would chafe at the notion of pre-ordained "destiny," and rightly so. Destiny is passive — it happens to you. It's also egomaniacal. Change, on the other hand, is active; you have to fight. And it is humble. "We need to get angry and understand what is at stake," Thunberg declared. "And then we need to transform that anger into action."

This new generation of activists' most pernicious enemy is denial. The people in charge — complacent politicians and corporation heads who grossly benefit from maintaining the status quo — are buffered from real-life consequences of climate change. But millions of people don't share that privilege. For them, climate change isn't an abstract concept, but a daily state of emergency, whether it comes in the form of "prolonged drought in sub-Saharan Africa…devastating tropical storms sweeping across Southeast Asia, the Caribbean and the Pacific…[or] heatwaves and wildfires," as Amnesty International reportsare all too real problems people are facing on a regular basis.

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