Despite being from the same planet, men and women have biological and psychological differences. These differences can create a see-saw-like relationship between individuals. In relationships, love can highlight these differences, which can strain the relationship until mutual understanding is achieved. But these differences can also take a hilarious form, as Kourtney, also known as Koko, shared in a TikTok video.

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Representative Image Source: Pexels | Pavel Danilyuk

Koko, who shares her TikTok channel with her boyfriend Elijah Symba, has nearly 200 million likes and 3.3 million followers. In a video titled, “Proving men don’t know how to use their eyes,” she shows a light-hearted moment with her boyfriend Symba. The video opens with Symba sitting on a brown sofa when Koko calls him to fetch her doggy wipes. “Yeah, where is it?” he asks, standing up from his seat. “It’s on my vanity on my desk,” she tells him. She double-checks the information by asking him, “Are you gonna remember that?” He coolly replies, “Ya I’ll.”


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A moment or two goes by. He comes around and says, “Can’t find it!” She feels annoyed and abstrusely questions him, “Dude, did you look?” He repeats that he did take a look and he couldn’t find the wipes. “I promise you it’s not there,” he says almost innocently. But she doesn’t believe it. She orders, “Symba, go look one more time.” He obliges and goes to the other room once again. Once again, he returns empty-handed saying he couldn’t find the item. Finally, she stands up and sharply says, “I’m gonna look for it.” He insists he looked carefully, saying, “It’s not there, I promise you it’s not there.”


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Like detectives in a “Lost and Found” case, they stand before a white-painted desk, scrutinizing the scene intently. Symba keeps saying “It’s not here,” but Koko smoothly places her hand on a spot on the desk and pulls out a packet of wipes, waving it in front of Symba’s face. It was clearly in plain sight.


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“It’s not here? What is this?” she says, this time more aggressively, shoving the packet in front of him and adding, “I asked you to get wipes. How could you not find it?” she splutters in disbelief. Symba appears to feel piqued by this. He responds by giving an excuse that erupted laughter from people. “That’s not the desk. That’s the stepping part of the desk,” he quips.


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“You should have told me the right direction,” he adds another excuse. In the end, Koko tells him that he does the same thing every single time, adding, “This is why I am not marrying you.” As the video wraps up, Symba sighs with his mouth open. The video has garnered over 104,000 views and 16,000 likes. A TikToker, @sophiability, said she related to the video a lot, “That’s me with my mom!”

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The couple also shared the footage as an Instagram reel, gaining nearly 6,000 likes and over 60,000 views. The clip divided Instagrammers, with some siding with Koko and others with Symba. Plus, a flurry of laughter emojis followed in the comment section.


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@dimaadhanom_15 commented, “Same with our mothers,” whereas @lulsymba5150pt3 commented about a particular scene in the video saying, “Stepping part of the desk is krazy.” @minacakes8 jokingly cautioned Koko about the nature of men, “Oh Koko, I hate to tell you but it doesn’t get any better when they get older… if anything, it’s worse because then they pretend they’re deaf or can’t see well.”

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According to Dr. Ricky Arenson, a specialist in endocrinology and geriatric medicine, this is a common scenario. “Men struggle to find things right in front of their eyes because they evolved to be protectors and hunters; they approach tasks with a single-minded focus,” he explains on his website. “Functional brain mapping using MRI equipment has shown that when men concentrate, they focus activity in one area of the brain, whereas women use their brains more diversely.”



You can follow Koko and Symba on TikTok, Instagram, and YouTube for more prank and comedy videos.

This article originally appeared 4 months ago.

  • Making good choices when life gets messy – practical wisdom relies on human judgment, not rules
    Photo credit: Cavan Images/Cavan via Getty ImagesThis virtue helps you figure out when and how to apply the other virtues in real, varying situations.

    A few semesters into my teaching career as a psychology professor, I uncovered a cheating ring. I determined who the ringleader was and called him to my office.

    He admitted that he had illicitly obtained a copy of the exam and shared it with other students. He began to cry, telling me he was from a single parent family, the first in his family to go to college, and that his mother would be crushed if he was dismissed from the university for academic dishonesty.

    I did not know what to do. I was angry at what he had done, but I also felt sorry for his situation. For reasons I still don’t fully understand, I decided to call his mother. When I told her what he had done, she apologized repeatedly, then said coldly, “Let me speak to him.”

    I don’t know what she said, but as the color drained from his face and he was reduced to repeatedly saying, “Yes, ma’am,” I assumed he was being read the riot act. After he hung up, he headed home to, I suspect, more severe punishment than the university could have given. He received a “0” on the exam and an official reprimand in his student file, but I’m willing to bet that the most important lesson he learned didn’t come from the university or me.

    Though I didn’t yet know the word, the decision to call his mother was an example of phronesis, an ancient Greek word usually translated as “practical wisdom.” It refers to the ability to make good decisions in real-life situations, especially when there are no clear rules or easy answers.

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    Like a charioteer steering the horses, phronesis guides you in how to apply the other virtues, like courage, justice and generosity. pictore/DigitalVision Vectors via Getty Images

    Charioteer of the virtues, guiding them all

    Phronesis provides you with the ability to deliberate well about what is good and bad in specific circumstances. Unlike theoretical knowledge (sophia) or technical skill (techne), phronesis is about judgment – how to choose the right action at the right time for the right reasons.

    When you think about wisdom, maybe you imagine a philosopher pondering big questions or a scientist unlocking the secrets of the universe. But phronesis is a different kind of wisdom, one that is less about abstract ideas and more about navigating the messy, unpredictable realities of everyday life. Phronesis helps you live well, not by following rules, but by making wise choices in the face of complexity. It’s what allows you to turn knowledge into action that is then beneficial.

    Phronesis is a central component of the virtue approach to character development and morality first described by Aristotle. Virtues like courage, generosity, justice and temperance tell you what goals you should aim for, but they don’t tell you how much, when or in what way you should act in a specific situation. Phronesis helps you think through and decide the right means to achieve the right ends in the moment.

    Aristotle called phronesis “the charioteer of the virtues” because it provides the guidance system that ensures the other virtues are applied correctly in real life. As he put it, “It is impossible to be good in the strict sense without practical wisdom.”

    Let’s take the example of courage. Everyone wants to be brave and stand up for their values. However, without phronesis, too much courage may become recklessness, or too little courage could result in cowardice. Phronesis allows you to know when to take a risk and when to hold back.

    Or consider justice, the virtue of treating others fairly. Phronesis allows you to choose what is fair in a specific situation. Virtues set the goals – for instance, “be courageous” or “be just” – but phronesis determines the right way to achieve them.

    Practice phronesis in the face of complexity

    Developing phronesis takes time and effort. It requires experience, reflection and careful reasoning. Because phronesis is social, it thrives in environments where people share their perspectives and challenge each other’s assumptions.

    You don’t have to be a philosopher or a scientist to practice phronesis. Modern life is full of complexity. We are regularly faced with questions that don’t have clear answers.

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    Staying up past bedtime to watch a big game as a family has value that a strict adherence to rules would overlook. AzmanL/E+ via Getty Images

    Picture a parent who must decide whether to enforce bedtime or allow a child to stay up for a special family occasion. The rule says bedtime is nonnegotiable, but practical wisdom reminds us of the value of shared family experiences.

    Or consider a manager who notices an employee missing deadlines. Instead of simply reprimanding them, they might ask what’s going on and discover a family emergency. They could adjust expectations and offer support, balancing fairness with compassion.

    These kinds of decisions reflect practical wisdom because they anticipate future needs, not just rules or consequences.

    In a world obsessed with data and efficiency, phronesis reminds us that human judgment still matters. Algorithms can optimize processes, but they can’t weigh moral values or capture the subtleties of human relationships. Whether in education, health care, business or politics, decisions that affect lives require more than technical expertise. They require wisdom.

    Phronesis counters the illusion that life’s problems have simple, one-size-fits-all solutions. It helps us realize that good judgment takes time, empathy and reflection. So, the next time you face a tough decision, pause and ask: What’s the wise thing to do?

    This article originally appeared on The Conversation. You can read it here.

  • Professional speaker offers 5 polite yet effective ways to prevent people from interrupting you
    Photo credit: CanvaGet a word in and stay in control of the conversation.

    Whether it’s at work or at the dinner table, no one likes being interrupted. It’s an awkward situation in which you’re left to either let it pass to keep the peace or stand your ground at the risk of seeming aggressive. It can feel like a no-win scenario. However, a communication expert offers five methods that could help.

    Vinh Giang is a public speaking coach who knows what it’s like to be interrupted and has found some great ways to help you maintain the floor and the flow of conversation. Better yet, these methods give you confidence and control without making you seem like a jerk.

    1. Set clear boundaries

    The best way to stop interruptions is to prevent them ahead of time. Simply starting with, “Hey, let’s be mindful and allow everyone to complete their thought before weighing in,” can be enough. By setting ground rules at the start of a meeting, or even during a friendly conversation, everyone is reminded of basic manners.

    Even if this doesn’t prevent interruptions, it can still help. These established boundaries give everyone the ability to say, “Excuse me, I’m not finished,” without looking like a bully.

    2. Learn and use “bridging phrases”

    Some folks get interrupted by accident because those around them mistake a pause for a sip of a drink or a breath for the end of a thought. Giang says a good way to work around this is to use “bridging phrases.”

    Bridging phrases are quick sayings that indicate there’s more to come after a pause. Some examples include:

    • “Let me add to that…”
    • “Before I finish…”
    • “Continuing on…”
    • “In addition…”
    • “And another thing…”

    Those are just a few examples, and there are many more to choose from. Using them can buy you time to collect your thoughts or take a sip of water while keeping everyone’s attention. It also helps to pause mid-gesture to signal nonverbally that you intend to continue.

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    If you want to stop being interrupted when you pause, the key is to be “mid-gesture” when you pause. Most people when they talk, they look and sound “done”. So when people interrupt you, it’s not because they’re being mean, they actually think you finished your sentence and that they can start talking. So the key to fixing this is to be gesturing mid-sentence or when you pause so you signal to people that you’re still going!

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    3. Make your presence known

    Giang says many people are easy to interrupt because they don’t assert themselves physically or vocally in a conversation. Speaking softly, meekly, or mumbling can make it difficult for others to maintain attention. Speaking upright, clearly, and with open hand gestures, on the other hand, makes your presence known and harder to interrupt.

    If you have trouble speaking confidently, there are classes, videos, and articles that can help you improve your public speaking.

    4. Acknowledge the interruption and keep the floor

    If the previous preventative measures don’t work and you’re interrupted, you can still keep your speaking time. Giang and other professionals say it’s best to acknowledge the interruption. If you let it go, you risk ceding the floor and might not get it back.

    It doesn’t have to be aggressive. It can be enough to say, “I would like to finish my thought, and then I’d love to hear your opinion. Is that okay?” This acknowledges the interruption while letting the other person know their opinion is still valued. Everyone can move forward.

    5. If the interrupter’s point is valid, integrate their thoughts into your own

    While interruptions may be rude, there are times when a good point is made. It’s a case of “good point, bad timing.” In these situations, that interruption can actually strengthen your ideas.

    When this happens, Giang recommends taking the interrupter’s point and incorporating it into your response when you regain the floor. Say something like, “I hear that, and it’s a big part of the rest of my point…” or “I’m confident the rest of my thought will address that question.” This allows you to acknowledge the interruption without disrupting your flow.

    Hopefully, these tips can help you feel heard and reduce interruptions while keeping the peace.

  • Why Americans give: New research finds 5 distinct profiles for generosity
    Photo credit: Overearth/iStock via Getty Images PlusAbout 82% of Americans said in response to a survey that they give to charity or to people in need.
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    Why Americans give: New research finds 5 distinct profiles for generosity

    A new study suggests Americans remain broadly generous, but their reasons for giving vary sharply.

    Given that fewer Americans are donating and volunteering and that people in the U.S. appear to be losing trust in one another, it may seem like generosity has eroded in the United States.

    The nation’s political, social and economic divides might only strengthen that impression. But my recent research suggests that this belief would be misguided.

    I’m a professor who teaches and conducts research about nonprofits and philanthropy. To understand the diversity of American generosity, I teamed up with Paige Rice and Veronica Selzler, two philanthropy consultants who contributed to the Generosity Commission’s report on U.S. generosity called “How and Why We Give.”

    The Generosity Commission is a nonpartisan group of leaders from across the charitable sector. Its 2023 report shared the results of a national survey of 2,569 U.S. adults.

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    There are many ways to be generous. MirageC/Getty Images

    Drawing on data from that study, we sought to understand how different kinds of people may be motivated to act generously for different reasons and, as a result, express their generosity differently.

    The study defined generosity broadly in terms of efforts or gifts made to support people in need, charitable causes or philanthropic organizations through actions like giving and volunteering. Our study was published in March 2026 in Nonprofit Management & Leadership, a peer-reviewed academic journal.

    The overall propensity to give was about 82% based on responses to this question in the Generosity Commission’s survey: “On average, how much money do you donate each year to people in need, charitable causes, or philanthropic organizations?”

    The survey also asked Americans about how they express their generosity.

    We found that Americans’ generosity varies according to their aspirations, motivations and demographic characteristics. In other words, different kinds of Americans are generous in different ways.

    Using a statistical modeling technique called latent profile analysis, which can find hidden groups of people based on observed data, we identified five segments of American society. They come from the general population, not just existing donors or volunteers.

    Change-minded hopefuls, about 42% of the total, are mostly women and people with low incomes. They genuinely want to help people but are held back mainly by not having enough money.

    Flexible moderates, roughly 35% of the survey’s respondents, are a middle-of-the-road group without strong political or religious motivations. They are open to helping out in a wide variety of ways when given the opportunity.

    Values-driven skeptics, around 11% of those surveyed, are mostly older, conservative, religious and male. They are willing to give money but are worried that charities might not make good use of it.

    Status seekers, approximately 9% of the participants in the survey, are the most generous group. Affluent, educated and religious, they are highly active in giving and volunteering and are motivated by social recognition and personal benefits.

    Frustrated activists, only about 4% of the total, are passionate, liberal and financially strapped. They are often women and people of color. They care deeply about causes and prefer to take direct action rather than giving money.

    These results are based on the analysis of data collected for a 2023 Generosity Commission report.

    Why it matters

    Each of these groups is relatively generous. For example, the percentage of people in each one donating to people in need, charitable causes or philanthropic organizations ranged from a low of 77% – the frustrated activists – to a high of 93% among the status seekers. This shows that Americans with different mindsets exhibit a willingness to help others, even if their aspirations, motivations and demographic characteristics differ.

    For nonprofits looking to attract more donors and volunteers, it may help to understand that different groups of people may have different motivations and concerns. By appealing to each group’s distinct qualities, nonprofits may be able to garner more support for their causes.

    These results are based on the analysis of data collected for a 2023 Generosity Commission report.

    What other research is being done

    Researchers with the Lilly School of Philanthropy at Indiana University and their partners are conducting numerous studies about American generosity.

    For example, in a study published in 2019, those researchers found a sharp decrease in the percentage of Americans who gave to nonprofits following the Great Recession. And their ongoing research on global philanthropy tracks cross-border giving for 47 countries, including the U.S., to document global trends in generosity.

    The Research Brief is a short take about interesting academic work.

    This article originally appeared on The Conversation. You can read it here.

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