Two years ago, Stephen Estrada was a happy 28 year old, enjoying the prime of his life. He was in a great relationship, he loved his job as a hairdresser, he took good care of himself by eating healthy, and he was in the gym all the time.
But he always had this nagging pain in his abdomen. And once, he noticed blood in his stool. He didn’t think much of it, but then the pain worsened. It got so bad he went to the emergency room (twice), but the doctors there told him nothing was wrong. They seemed to think he was trying to get painkillers. Finally he got an appointment with his primary care physician.
“I told her, ‘I don’t know what cancer feels like, but I have a feeling that’s what this is,’” he says. She told him he was too young. But Estrada could feel that the lymph nodes in his back were swollen to the size of peaches. “I need you to feel this,” he told her. “And as soon as she felt it, her face changed.”
Estrada was rushed in for a CT scan, which revealed Stage IV colon cancer. Within weeks, his doctors were discussing plans to keep him comfortable during end-of-life care.
“It was probably the first time in my life where I actually felt like it would be easier to not be around anymore,” Estrada says.
He needed someone to talk to. His doctors recommended colon cancer support groups, but the other patients were all much older than he was. Then one day, he saw a local newspaper in his oncologist’s office. It was from a place he’d never heard of—“Colontown.”
While breast cancer gets “Save the Boobies” t-shirts and all-pink-everything awareness campaigns; prostate cancer gets Movember; and skin cancer gets a Marc Jacobs line, colorectal cancer is rarely a part of the mainstream conversation. Yet it’s the second most fatal cancer in the United States, and incidences among young people (under 50) are on the rise. Many colon cancer patients like Estrada feel isolated and hopeless after their diagnosis.
When Erika Hanson Brown was diagnosed at 58, she had this experience. But she’s not one to sit around and lament an unsolved problem. Instead, she founded Colontown. An online “town” of over 2,500 “residents,” of which she is the mayor.
Brown, a Colorado resident, previously worked as a corporate recruiter, or a “professional networker” as she calls it. But when she got sick, she found that no one within her huge network had anything to say about colon cancer. People either had no experience with it, or they just weren’t comfortable talking about anything related to colons, rectums, and anuses.
But “the only thing that would have made me feel better is to talk to someone,” Brown says. So she put her professional networking skills to work, and Colontown was born.
Colontown exists on Facebook, but it’s not your typical Facebook group. It’s made up of over 40 neighborhoods dedicated to specific diagnoses and patient needs. There’s the Poop Chute Group for people with colon cancer; the Four Corners for Stage Four patients; and Care Partner Corner for caregivers.
“Each one of the neighborhoods are led by someone with exactly that experience,” Brown says. “The centralized group is Downtown, and that’s always busy.” Prospective members are personally vetted by Brown, and a welcoming committee of 16 people introduces every new member to the community and connects them to the appropriate neighborhoods.
Some of the most active neighborhoods are the Colontown Clinics—groups, sorted by tumor genetic profiles, dedicated to sharing clinical trial information and opportunities. Clinical trials can be the best (and sometimes only) hope for cancer patients, but they’re not always easily accessible. Every oncologist across the country isn’t familiar with every available trial, so you can’t count on your doctor to know about them all and recommend one. The National Institutes of Health maintains a database of all ongoing trials, but both doctors and patients have a hard time navigating it.
Dr. Christopher Lieu, who works in the Colorectal Cancer Multidisciplinary Clinic at the University of Colorado Denver, says patients who visit Colontown bring him information about clinical trials and treatments that is even new to him—and he’s a colorectal cancer specialist. “I always like to think that we’re doing this for the patient already, but I think oftentimes we’re not.”
Colontown “arms the patient with more information,” Lieu says, and it’s good information, more curated than the full libraries of information available on the internet. Informed patients can come to doctors like Lieu with high-quality ideas and questions or with clinical trials they want to sign up for, and it helps him provide better care.“There’s really this trend towards an openness of communication,” he says. “It used to be doctors just telling patients, ‘This is what you’re going to do. Don’t ask me any questions’.”
For Stephen Estrada, the clinical trial information shared on Colontown was lifesaving. Through some of his Colontown neighbors, he heard about an immunotherapy trial taking place in Colorado, and they were looking for patients with exactly his type of cancer. He started the new treatment a year and a half ago, and today his tumor has shrunk to half its original size—and it’s still shrinking. He’s regained weight; his hair has grown back; and he’s working again. He’s part of the town government now, helping run the Clinic and the Four Corners.
Brown’s primary mission is to help patients be their own advocates and to learn about their own disease and seek out the support they need. She’s working to expand the Colontown model to other cancers. “I’ve got a global vision. The internet works for that,” she says.
“When you’re diagnosed with cancer, it’s such a scary thing, and everything’s moving so quickly and so slowly at the same time,” Estrada says. “Everyone could benefit from a support group like Colontown. It really had a hand in saving my life.”
Why do some folks use social media but don't engage?
Psychologist says people who never comment on social media share these 5 positive traits
For over 20 years, social media has developed into a staple in many people’s day-to-day lives. Whether it’s to keep in communication with friends and family, following the thoughts of celebrities, or watching cat videos while sipping your morning coffee, there seem to be two types of social media users: commenters and lurkers.
The term “lurker” sounds equally mysterious and insidious, with some social media users writing them off as non-participants at best or voyeurs at worst. However, mindfulness expert Lachlan Brown believes these non-commenters have some very psychologically positive and healthy traits. Let’s take a look at how each one of these traits could be beneficial and see how fruitful lurking might be even though it can drive content creators crazy.
1. Cautious about vulnerability
Consciously or not, making a post online or commenting on one puts you and your words out there. It’s a statement that everyone can see, even if it’s as simple as clicking “like.” Doing so opens yourself up to judgment, with all the good, bad, and potential misinterpretation that comes with it. Non-commenters would rather not open themselves up to that.
These silent users are connected to a concept of self-protection by simply not engaging. By just scrolling past posts or just reading/watching them without commentary, they’re preventing themselves from any downsides of sharing an opinion such as rejection, misunderstanding, or embarrassment. They also have more control on how much of themselves they’re willing to reveal to the general public, and tend to be more open face-to-face or during one-on-one/one-on-few private chats or DMs. This can be seen as a healthy boundary and prevents unnecessary exposure.
Considering many comment sections, especially involving political topics, are meant to stir negative emotional responses to increase engagement, being extra mindful about where, when, and what you comment might not be a bad idea. They might not even take the engagement bait at all. Or if they see a friend of theirs post something vulnerable, they feel more motivated to engage with them personally one-on-one rather than use social media to publicly check in on them.
2. Analytical and reflective mindset
How many times have you gone onto Reddit, YouTube, or any other site and just skimmed past comments that are just different versions of “yes, and,” “no, but,” or “yes, but”? Or the ever insightful, formerly popular comment “First!” in a thread? These silent browsers lean against adding to such noise unless they have some valid and thoughtful contribution (if they bother to comment period).
These non-posters are likely wired on reflective thinking rather than their initial intuition. Not to say that all those who comment aren’t thoughtful, but many tend to react quickly and comment based on their initial feelings rather than absorbing the information, thinking it over, researching or testing their belief, and then posting it. For "lurkers," it could by their very nature to just do all of that and not post it at all, or share their thoughts and findings privately with a friend. All in all, it’s a preference of substance over speed.
3. High sense of self-awareness
Carried over from the first two listed traits, these silent social media users incorporate their concern over their vulnerability and their reflective mindset into digital self-awareness. They know what triggers responses out of them and what causes them to engage in impulsive behavior. It could be that they have engaged with a troll in the past and felt foolish. Or that they just felt sad after a post or got into an unnecessary argument that impacted them offline. By knowing themselves and seeing what’s being discussed, they choose to weigh their words carefully or just not participate at all. It’s a form of self-preservation through restraint.
4. Prefer to observe rather than perform
Some folks treat social media as information, entertainment, or a mix of both, and commenting can feel like they’re yelling at the TV, clapping alone in a movie theater when the credits roll, or yelling “That’s not true!” to a news anchor that will never hear them. But contrary to that, social media is a place where those yells, claps, and accusations can be seen and get a response. By its design, social media is considered by experts and the media as performative, regardless of whether it is positive or negative. Taking all of the previously mentioned traits into account, one can see why they would prefer to “observe the play” rather than get up on the stage of Facebook or X.
On top of that, these non-commenters could be using social media differently than those who choose to fully engage with it. Using this type of navigation, there may be nothing for them to comment about. Some commenters are even vying for this for their mental health. There are articles about how to better curate your social media feeds and manipulate algorithms to create a better social media experience to avoid unnecessary conflict or mentally tiring debate.
If you go on a blocking spree on all of your accounts and just follow the posters that boost you, it could turn your social media into a nice part of your routine as you mainly engage with others face-to-face or privately. In terms of commenting, if your curated Instagram is just following cute dogs and all you have to offer for a comment is “cute dog,” you might just enjoy the picture and then move on with your day rather than join in the noise. These non-commenters aren’t in the show and they’re fine with it.
5. Less motivated by social validation
The last trait that Brown showcases is that social media users who browse without posting tend to be independent from external validation, at least online. Social media is built to grow through feedback loops such as awarding likes, shares, and reposts of your content along with notifications letting you know that a new person follows you or wants to connect. This can lead many people to connect their activity on social media with their sense of self worth, especially with adolescents who are still figuring out their place in the world and have still-developing brains.
Engaging in social media via likes, shares, comments, and posts rewards our brains by having them release dopamine, which makes us feel good and can easily become addictive. For whatever reason, non-commenters don’t rely on social media as a means to gauge their social capital or self worth. This doesn’t make them better than those who do. While some non-commenters could have healthier ways to boost their self worth or release dopamine into their systems, many get that validation from equally unhealthy sources offline. That said, many non-commenters’ silence could be a display of independence and self confidence.
Whether you frequently comment online or don’t, it’s good to understand why you do or don’t. Analyzing your habits can help you determine whether your online engagement is healthy, or needs to be tweaked. With that information, you can then create a healthy social media experience that works for you.