Since the Hate Crime Statistics Act was passed in 1990, the attorney general is required to gather data on hate crimes. The rise and fall and rise again in the amount of hate crimes can tell us a lot about where we are as a nation, and it's not pretty. According to the FBI, the two worst months for hate crimes in the past decade were November 2016, when the presidential election took place, and October 2018, the month before the midterm election. The months following September 11th have the highest amount of hate crimes on record.
Despite the increase around the midterm elections, hate crimes in 2018 were slightly down from 2017, according to FBI data. However, hate crimes rose in major cities. Last year, New York, Chicago and Los Angeles reported the highest incidence of hate crimes since 2001, with anti-Semitic hate crimes making up the largest number of hate crimes.
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The Los Angeles Times recently reported on an uptick in hate crimes in the L.A. area, explaining: "Reports of hate crimes rose in Los Angeles for the fifth straight year in 2019, increasing 10.3% over the year before and reaching their highest level since 2002." All in all, 322 hate crimes were reported in 2019, which is up from 292 in 2018.
Reports of hate crimes based on sexual orientation and hate crimes based on race or ethnicity didn't rise significantly in Los Angeles. Hate crimes against gay males was actually down from 56 to 53, which might suggest that LGBTQ people are gaining more acceptance. Hate crimes based on religion and gender identity rose. Anti-Semitic hate crimes saw a large spike, rising by 60.5% from 43 to 69, and anti-Muslim hate crimes increased by 150% from two to five. Hate crimes against transgendered people rose by 23.5% from 17 to 21.
Los Angeles isn't the only city that reported an increase in anti-Semitism. Overall, crime in New York City was at a record low in 2019, however hate crimes were up by 20% in 2019, rising from 256 to 428. Anti-Semitic hate crimes shot up by 26%, with a dozen of the 47 anti-Semitic incidents taking place in December alone.
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The hate crime statistics indicate just how bad the divisiveness in this country has gotten. "I can tell you, with an election season coming up, we really have to be concerned because over the last decade, the three worst months were all around politically charged events," Brian Levin, director of the Center for the Study of Hate and Extremism at Cal State San Bernardino told the Los Angeles Times. "Hate crimes tend to go up in election years, and most recently, the most diverse and bluest cities are where we've been seeing some of the biggest increases." What is it about political turmoil that makes people actively and openly hate other people?
We have to get through another election cycle this year. There's no way around it. But we do have the option to choose to be kind to each other, despite our differences. At the end of the day, we all want to get to the same place, even if we have different ways of getting there.
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This response to someone grieving a friend might be the best internet comment ever
When someone is hit with the sudden loss of a friend or loved one, words rarely feel like enough. Yet, more than a decade ago, a wise Redditor named GSnow shared thoughts so profound they still bring comfort to grieving hearts today.
Originally posted around 2011, the now-famous reply was rediscovered when Upvoted, an official Reddit publication, featured it again to remind everyone of its enduring truth. It began as a simple plea for help: “My friend just died. I don't know what to do.”
What followed was a piece of writing that many consider one of the internet’s best comments of all time. It remains shared across social media, grief forums, and personal messages to this day because its honesty and metaphor speak to the raw reality of loss and the slow, irregular path toward healing.
Below is GSnow’s full reply, unchanged, in all its gentle, wave-crashing beauty:
Why this advice still matters
Mental health professionals and grief counselors often describe bereavement in stages or phases, but GSnow’s “wave theory” gives an image more relatable for many. Rather than a linear process, grief surges and retreats—sometimes triggered by a song, a place, or a simple morning cup of coffee.
In recent years, this metaphor has found renewed relevance. Communities on Reddit, TikTok, and grief support groups frequently reshare it to help explain the unpredictable nature of mourning.
Many readers say this analogy helps them feel less alone, giving them permission to ride each wave of grief rather than fight it.
Finding comfort in shared wisdom
Since this comment first surfaced, countless people have posted their own stories underneath it, thanking GSnow and passing the words to others facing fresh heartbreak. It’s proof that sometimes, the internet can feel like a global support group—strangers linked by shared loss and hope.
For those searching for more support today, organizations like The Dougy Center, GriefShare, and local bereavement groups offer compassionate resources. If you or someone you know is struggling with intense grief, please reach out to mental health professionals who can help navigate these deep waters.
When grief comes crashing like the ocean, remember these words—and hang on. There is life between the waves.
This article originally appeared four years ago.