Dolly Parton’s husband of almost 60 years, Carl Dean, passed away in March 2025, and in addition to the outpouring of sympathy on Instagram, Parton herself shared a new song there today as a testament of their love. Called “If You Hadn’t Been There,” the song is a heartbreaking letter of love and gratitude to the man she shared her life with. Not only the song honest and vulnerable, Dolly’s voice wells and quivers in sadness as she sings:
“I wouldn’t be here
If you hadn’t been there
Pushing me on
When I was scared”
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Parton and Dean met the day after she left her native Sevier County, Tennessee to make music in Nashville. The year was 1964, and they found each other at the laundromat. “I graduated on a Friday night, went to Nashville on a Saturday morning with dirty clothes and I went to a Laundromat looking for anything but love,” she told Interview Magazine in 1984, having just gotten out of not one but two relationships. “We dated for two years before we got married. I often get myself in love trouble because I’m so passionate; I love so much and so deep. But Carl’s a special guy, I didn’t have any problems with him.”
They married in 1966, the first and only marriage for both, and would have celebrated their 60th wedding anniversary next year. They laughed together and understood each other, Dolly said in an interview, but they were also friends, as many of the best relationships are.
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“I think humor, honestly, is one of the best things when you’re married like that,” she said in 2022, as reported on Upworthy. "Even if you have a problem, if you have a great sense of humor, if you say something you can’t take back [you] usually have some crazy way of getting out of it.”
Though Parton and her husband were together for some six decades, fame was not part of a life he wanted, but that never bothered her, she was known to say. Throughout his life, he owned an asphalt paving company, the New York Times shared. Still, and even though Dolly's love songs are often known for their versatility, he was not infrequently an inspiration for her work, especially songs like "Tomorrow is Forever," “From Here to the Moon and Back,” "Marry Me,“ and "Jolene.”
Things weren’t always easy. ”Jolene,” for example, came from a bank teller that gave her husband a little too much attention at the bank, and vice versa; her song “Just Because I’m a Woman” came from Dean learning to acknowledge Dolly’s past, the Times also reported. But together they stayed.
Dean passed away on March 3 at the age of 82. The outpouring on Dolly’s Instagram at some points numbered into the millions, with fans expressing their sympathy. Thanking them, she also offered some feelings of Carl’s passing. “He is God’s arms now and I am OK with that,” she wrote. “I will always love you.”
Dedicating her new song to him shortly after, she wrote:
“I fell in love with Carl Dean when I was 18 years old. We have spent 60 precious and meaningful years together. Like all great love stories, they never end. They live on in memory and song. He will always be the star of my life story.”
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This response to someone grieving a friend might be the best internet comment ever
When someone is hit with the sudden loss of a friend or loved one, words rarely feel like enough. Yet, more than a decade ago, a wise Redditor named GSnow shared thoughts so profound they still bring comfort to grieving hearts today.
Originally posted around 2011, the now-famous reply was rediscovered when Upvoted, an official Reddit publication, featured it again to remind everyone of its enduring truth. It began as a simple plea for help: “My friend just died. I don't know what to do.”
What followed was a piece of writing that many consider one of the internet’s best comments of all time. It remains shared across social media, grief forums, and personal messages to this day because its honesty and metaphor speak to the raw reality of loss and the slow, irregular path toward healing.
Below is GSnow’s full reply, unchanged, in all its gentle, wave-crashing beauty:
Why this advice still matters
Mental health professionals and grief counselors often describe bereavement in stages or phases, but GSnow’s “wave theory” gives an image more relatable for many. Rather than a linear process, grief surges and retreats—sometimes triggered by a song, a place, or a simple morning cup of coffee.
In recent years, this metaphor has found renewed relevance. Communities on Reddit, TikTok, and grief support groups frequently reshare it to help explain the unpredictable nature of mourning.
Many readers say this analogy helps them feel less alone, giving them permission to ride each wave of grief rather than fight it.
Finding comfort in shared wisdom
Since this comment first surfaced, countless people have posted their own stories underneath it, thanking GSnow and passing the words to others facing fresh heartbreak. It’s proof that sometimes, the internet can feel like a global support group—strangers linked by shared loss and hope.
For those searching for more support today, organizations like The Dougy Center, GriefShare, and local bereavement groups offer compassionate resources. If you or someone you know is struggling with intense grief, please reach out to mental health professionals who can help navigate these deep waters.
When grief comes crashing like the ocean, remember these words—and hang on. There is life between the waves.
This article originally appeared four years ago.