Five simple body language shifts that can make you instantly more likable

Before you ever say a word, you’re already communicating. The way you stand, the gestures you make, and the expression on your face tell a story, and people begin reading it within seconds of meeting you. Some research suggests judgments about trustworthiness are formed in as little as a tenth of a second.

While you can’t control how others perceive you, you can influence it by being more intentional with your body language. Adopting a few key habits can help you appear more confident, open, and instantly more charming. Here are five to focus on.

1. Find the Eye Contact Sweet Spot

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Looking someone in the eye conveys confidence and shows you're engaged. In fact, one study found that people with higher self-esteem tend to break eye contact less often. However, there’s a fine line between engaged and intimidating. Unbroken staring can feel aggressive. A helpful guideline is the 50/70 rule: aim to hold eye contact for about 50% of the time when you’re speaking and 70% of the time when you’re listening. It’s the perfect balance that says, “I’m with you,” without being overwhelming.

2. Adopt an Open and Inviting Posture

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When you cross your arms or legs, you create a physical barrier that can signal to others that you’re closed off or defensive. To appear more approachable, try adopting an open posture. Keep your arms relaxed at your sides and your body angled toward the person you're speaking with. Think of your physical stance as an invitation for connection—uncrossing your arms is like opening a door for conversation.

3. Master the Genuine "Duchenne" Smile

A smile is a universal sign of warmth, but people can often spot the difference between a polite, forced smile and a genuine one. The secret is in the eyes. A real smile, known as a Duchenne smile, involves not just the muscles around your mouth but also the ones that make your eyes crinkle. If you’re feeling nervous and a genuine smile isn’t coming naturally, try thinking of a happy memory or something funny. Interestingly, research shows that the physical act of smiling can actually make you feel happier, so even if you have to fake it for a moment, the real feeling might just follow.

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4. Subtly Mirror Their Movements

Have you ever noticed yourself nodding when the person you’re talking to nods? This is a natural behavior called mirroring, and it’s a powerful tool for building rapport. When you subtly reflect someone’s posture, gestures, or facial expressions, it creates an unconscious sense of familiarity and trust. Salespeople are often trained in this technique to build a connection with clients. The key is to be subtle—you want to mirror, not mimic. It’s about syncing with their energy, not performing a charade.

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5. Lean In to Show You're Listening

When you're engaged in a conversation, slightly leaning your body toward the speaker is a powerful nonverbal cue that says, "I'm interested." This simple shift closes the physical distance between you, creating a greater sense of connection. Just be mindful of personal space; a subtle lean is a sign of interest, not an invasion of their bubble. Research indicates that this posture can lead to better communication and understanding. It’s one of the easiest ways to show someone they have your full attention, which is one of the most charming qualities a person can have.

This article originally appeared earlier this year.