Charlene Carruthers is texting with one hand and typing with the other, a steady stream of journalists and fellow activists traipsing up and down the stairs of her home-turned-community meeting space on the University of Chicago campus. As national director of the black feminist collective Black Youth Project 100, Carruthers oversees an organization that is mobilizing black youth in cities across the country to stand up against racial injustice. “Liberation is led by those who are directly impacted,” the 30-year-old organizer says.
The organization—which also has chapters in the Bay Area, New York City, Philadelphia, New Orleans, and Washington, D.C.—is known for asserting black presence by literally taking up space. Tactics include marches, roadblocks, street forums, “die-ins” with protesters lying prostrate on the ground, and overtaking public hearings with huge crowds. BYP100’s public demonstrations spurred the firing of Chicago Police Superintendent Garry McCarthy this past December. And though momentum has spread beyond the black community, thanks to a growing national understanding of the perils of being young and black in America, their meetings remain exclusive to members of the African diaspora. “Having black space is an imperative for us to be able to do our work,” insists Carruthers.
Securing black-only activism hasn’t always been easy. America’s first civil rights organization, the National Association for the Advancement of Colored People, was founded by three white liberals. Two-thirds of the Congress of Racial Equality’s founding members were white. The Student Nonviolent Coordinating Committee was contentiously integrated until Stokely Carmichael became president in 1966, arguing in a widely read essay that “an all-black project is needed in order for the people to free themselves,” stating that “black people cannot relate to SNCC because of its unrealistic, nonracial atmosphere; denying their experience of America as a racist society.”
Fifty years later, BYP100 is proudly insular, protecting its blackness to prevent the deracialization and manipulation of its politics. The group has refused to meet with mayors and banned white people from protests. Rather than division, Carruthers discusses this stance in terms of inclusion, empowering the wide-ranging nature of black grievance. “We use the phrasing of ‘unapologetically black’ as a framework for our organization because we believe that blackness is so many different things,” she says. “We can be women and be black. We can be queer and black. We can be undocumented and black. We can be wealthy or poor and be black.”
Carruthers was turned on to politics at 18—around the same age as most of the organization’s current members— while studying abroad in slowly integrating, post-apartheid South Africa. She moved into organizing five years later while working on immigration issues in Washington, D.C. Since then, Carruthers has worked with everyone from the NAACP to the Center for Progressive Leadership, joining BYP100 in 2013. She even visits and maintains relationships with activist groups in Ireland, Ghana, Mexico, Palestine, Costa Rica, and Haiti to dispense advice and share her experiences.
The past year has seen black activism flourish in America, particularly in Chicago, and Carruthers pinpoints three moments that were especially meaningful for her and BYP100. In August, the Chicago chapter overran an Independent Police Review Authority meeting with a chanting crowd that declared the board illegitimate and called for the firing of Dante Servin, the police officer who shot and killed 22-year-old Rekia Boyd. In October, the same chapter helped shut down the annual conference of the International Association of Chiefs of Police by blocking the roads around North America’s largest convention center. In December, months of protest by the New Orleans chapter over local Confederate monuments culminated with the city council voting to remove four statues, including a bronze effigy of Gen. Robert E. Lee.
Going forward, Carruthers is focused on BYP100’s Agenda to Build Black Futures, an economic and racial justice policy platform that includes recommendations for reparations, transgender equality, divestment from police and prisons, and the funding of black educational and economic development. The organization is also demanding the resignations of Mayor Rahm Emanuel and Cook County State’s Attorney Anita Alvarez for what appears to be a cover-up of the police killing of teenager Laquan McDonald.
And each triumph leads to more success. “We don’t live in a vacuum, and we aren’t the only ones doing this work. In a movement, people feed off the energy of other folk,” she says. “We’re living in a movement where the visibility of police violence, and the visibility of poverty, and the gross lack of compassion and morality of people who have been elected to represent us is part of the momentum. And, we organize. Organizing is there to maintain momentum.”
Grieving couple comforting each other
This response to someone grieving a friend might be the best internet comment ever
When someone is hit with the sudden loss of a friend or loved one, words rarely feel like enough. Yet, more than a decade ago, a wise Redditor named GSnow shared thoughts so profound they still bring comfort to grieving hearts today.
Originally posted around 2011, the now-famous reply was rediscovered when Upvoted, an official Reddit publication, featured it again to remind everyone of its enduring truth. It began as a simple plea for help: “My friend just died. I don't know what to do.”
What followed was a piece of writing that many consider one of the internet’s best comments of all time. It remains shared across social media, grief forums, and personal messages to this day because its honesty and metaphor speak to the raw reality of loss and the slow, irregular path toward healing.
Below is GSnow’s full reply, unchanged, in all its gentle, wave-crashing beauty:
Why this advice still matters
Mental health professionals and grief counselors often describe bereavement in stages or phases, but GSnow’s “wave theory” gives an image more relatable for many. Rather than a linear process, grief surges and retreats—sometimes triggered by a song, a place, or a simple morning cup of coffee.
In recent years, this metaphor has found renewed relevance. Communities on Reddit, TikTok, and grief support groups frequently reshare it to help explain the unpredictable nature of mourning.
Many readers say this analogy helps them feel less alone, giving them permission to ride each wave of grief rather than fight it.
Finding comfort in shared wisdom
Since this comment first surfaced, countless people have posted their own stories underneath it, thanking GSnow and passing the words to others facing fresh heartbreak. It’s proof that sometimes, the internet can feel like a global support group—strangers linked by shared loss and hope.
For those searching for more support today, organizations like The Dougy Center, GriefShare, and local bereavement groups offer compassionate resources. If you or someone you know is struggling with intense grief, please reach out to mental health professionals who can help navigate these deep waters.
When grief comes crashing like the ocean, remember these words—and hang on. There is life between the waves.
This article originally appeared four years ago.